Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Can anyone pray for a life partner?

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Aslam o alikum:

I am from India. I am really tensed these days. I received a proposal in my family from another part of the country 1st. I know that my parents were willing for this alliance. I was not prepared, my parents also left everything on me. For their happiness I said yes but for some reasons my parents could not give them answer for almost 4 months and they also kept waiting. After 4 months they give them answer with some conditions like time managment which they did not accept.

Now  almost 8 months have passed they again came to our home. My parents promised to give answer in 2 days but again they delayed and gave answer after a week. I know 1st  that the boy have made up his mind for this alliance, my parents said yes and I have also made up my mind but I never talked to that guy. I want this alliance to happen now and I am constantly praying to Allah for this and I am sure that Allah will listen to my prayer. They said that will give us answer in 2 days to my parents again a week have passed there is no response from their behalf and my parents are now willing for this alliance and I have also made up mind.

Is it jaiz in Islam to pray for a life partner?

I didn't talk to that guy just want help from Allah in a jaiz way of nikah and nothing else.

I want Allah to change my fate if he is not in my fate. I promise that I will not complain for any thing in future and I'll take up this relation sincerely from heart.

mehak


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  1. I don't know what "jaiz" means, but there is nothing wrong with you praying for a life partner.

    However, your parents will do as they please. You can't pray to control the behaviour of someone else. If your parents are delaying their response, then it is entirely open to the man's family to walk away if they wish to do so. If the man's family has decided not to pursue you, then I'm not sure if "dua" alone is going to change that decision.

    Perhaps, this person was not written for you. If he does not respond, then next time you may wish to consider voicing your opinion to your parents. After all, it is your fate that they are toying with when they take their time in such things. Actions create results, not passivity.

  2. I do think it is allowed/jaiz to pray for an alliance you wish to go through. It is better if you ask for 'aafiyat' in all your matters from Allah.
    As you know it is habitual in the sub continent to delay in giving answers in marriage matters, however, I think that if you are happy with the alliance then be proactive, ask your parents to call them if possible and do not delay in answering from your side from now on...

  3. Yes, it is jaiz to ask Allah for a life partner. But always remember - what we desire for ourselves may not always be good for us. And sometimes what we dislike may be good for us. Only Allah knows what is best.

    So, pray to Allah - "may Allah give you the partner that you desire ONLY if that person is good for you. If not, then may Allah keep you away from him and send the right person your way. And may Allah save you from bad company. Only Allah knows what is best."

    Keep saying this duaa. And BELIEVE that Allah will decide that what is best for you. Do not be impatient.

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