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Can I be cursed… Or are my prayers accepted?

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Asalamualaikum everyone... My story starts when I was 12 years old and I loved a girl...but I didn't tell her for a long time... Finally I was in relationship with her... I didn't know anything about halaal and Haraam at that time, but the girly wasn't honest... I used to offer 5 times... Everyone would tell me she does this and she does that... I would cry almost every day for a year... She proposed my best friend... Finally I broke it up..I had even to swear her.. . Because she was characterless... After two years... And in that time... I heard she's been in relationship with a lot of guys! I heard name of five whom I know. One guy told he committed zina with her... She texted and said because of me... She's using drugs and she cannot love anybody... Alhamdullila! I offer five times... She said no matter how many prayers you pray... You'll not find peace... You'll go to hell... Since that time I always keep thinking about her words... And used to memorise quran every single day... I stopped it all together... Alhamdullila I didn't stop my salah... But Khusho is like gone from it... I need to know can I be cursed.. Or are my prayers accepted... She said she'll never forgive me... What should I do... Please help.

Muhammad Wasim

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  1. Aselam o alaikum,

    I'm sure this question has been posted a few weeks back, I'm having nostalgia reading it. The details seem very similar.
    Perhaps it is has been reposted?

    Editors, please confirm.
    In case, the questioner is unaware that their problem has been addressed.

  2. Assalaamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatu

    The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said to Mua'ad Ibn Jabal (RA), "Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no barrier between it and Allah." [Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

    Breaking off from a haram relationship isn't oppression at all, so it is not because of her.

    Ibn 'Abbas Radiyallahu 'anhuma narrates that Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: He who makes Allah angry for pleasing people, Allah becomes angry and makes those people angry with him whom he had pleased by angering Allah. And he who pleases Allah by making people angry Allah is pleased with him and makes those people pleased with him whom he had made angry to please Allah. So much so that He makes him virtuous in the eyes of those people who were angry and his words and deeds become adorned in their eyes. (Tabarani, Majma-'uz-Zawaid)

    However, the bad things happening to you is simply the direct result of your sins, not the curse.

  3. Nothing bad will get you and you did the right thing,so avoid her & ignore her comment.

  4. Wa alaykumsalam.

    Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah . Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful." (surah az-Zumar (39:5)

    If you are sincere with Allah Subhnahuwata'alah and repent and do good deeds and never go back to that act, Allah may forgive you. Repent everyday for what you have done (It is a serious sin) never go back to it. People say its hard to control yourself from zina but it's actually not if you follow the rules of Allah. Lower your gaze and be modest, avoid contacting the person alone, and fast (Because when you fast you not only fast for food but you also avoid sins completely as your fast breaks if you are not careful. When we fast we worship Allah as much as we can. This naturally makes you closer to Allah and lightens up your mood and makes you want to do more for Allah because you feel good and feel like you're in peace).

    Be patient. In islam you can do whatever you want but there are rules along with everything. If you want to marry a person, marry them, but never ever commit zina. Avoid Zina completely. You are allowed to look at a person if you are thinking of marrying them ( because you would not want to regret marrying that person), you are even allowed to talk to them, but not completely alone. (there must me a wali in between) as this stirrs up false desires and leads to many problems in life and you will always feel dissatisfied if you do wrong.

    From Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If one of you proposes marriage to a woman, if he can look at her to see that which will encourage him to go ahead and marry her, then let him do so.’ I proposed marriage to a young woman, and I used to hide where I could see her, until I saw that which encouraged me to go ahead and marry her, so I did so.’” According to another report he said, ‘a young woman of Bani Salamah. I used to hide from her, until I saw that which encouraged me to go ahead and marry her, so I did so.” (Saheeh Abi Dawood, no. 1832, 1834)

    From Abu Hurayrah: “I was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when a man came and told him that he had married a woman of the Ansaar. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him, ‘Have you seen her?’ He said, ‘No.’ He said, ‘Go and look at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansaar.” (Reported by Muslim, no. 1424; and by al-Daaraqutni, 3/253 (34))

    Al-Shaafa’i (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “If he wants to marry a woman, he is not allowed to see her without a headcover. He may look at her face and hands when she is covered, with or without her permission. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): ‘… and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent…’ [al-Noor 24:31].

    Allah doesnt just say don't commit zina, he also tells us to stay away from it completely (this shows how evil this sin is)

    "And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way. (surah Al-Isra 17:32)

    And no you are not cursed, Insha'Allah. Don't ever despair of Allahs mercy. Just keep worshiping Allah and do good and you will see a generous reward. And Allah knows best.

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