Can I fast for my boyfriend’s health? Will it be accepted?
I am a Muslim girl and i love a Muslim boy. We want to get married but situation is not favouring us.
One day we had a fight because he smoked a lot out of depression and took sleeping pills many nights when we were not speaking to each other.
Now he has got very bad effect on his health. He is on treatment but very slow progress.
I am worried for him as I feel I am the reason for this situation. I make dua for him and his health.
I want to fast for his health and make dua. As he is not my husband but I have feelings for him. Can I keep fast for his health? is it permissible or will it be acceptable? Please help.
- nikhat_naim
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Assalamou 'alaikum
Dear Sister,
Fasting for someone's health or well being is from the Hindu culture where a girl fast for her husband or would-be husband.
The Prophet (SAW) said:
"Every action of the son of Adam is given manifold reward, each good deed receiving then times its like, up to seven hundred times. Allah the Most High said, 'Except for fasting, for it is for Me and I will give recompense for it, he leaves off his desires and his food for Me.' for the fasting person there are two times of joy; a time when he breaks his fast and a time of joy when he meets his Lord, and the smell coming from the mouth of the fasting person is better with Allah than the smell of musk." [al-Bukhaaree]
Fasting for someone or something else than for the Creator alone is an act of SHIRK.
It folds under shirk al Ibaadah (shirk in worship) and it is a major shirk.
Also remember that if you are not in nikah with this guy, you are not allowed any contact with him, be it texting, email, phone calls, chats etc.
Hope this helps you insha Allah.
i dont think i understand, i mean arent we suppose to fast on monday and thursday for ourselves? i thought this was for us..... i dont know if u underdstand what i am trying to sayy..... like we fast these days cuz we want somethig from Allah.... rnt we suppose to do this?
Those fasts are from the Sunnah, in order to have the habit of fasting. Those are from the Nawafil, which are for oneself, but kept for the sake of Allah Only.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
"Sleeping pills & smoking"?????????????? If you had a daughter and she asked you "should I marry a drug addict? What would you say?
Do you have a father? What does he say about you lowering your honor by hanging out with men that take pills and smoke? In fact, you should not be hanging out with any men.What does it make you look like? It's never to late to turn back to Allah. You are on the verge of a calamity. I will pray for you to use your head before you post the article " I got pregnant from a guy that smokes and takes pills" .
I don't know how old you are young lady but watch this.
http://youtu.be/Je2dXbgX1Rs
AsSalamualaikum,
You have no relation between yourself whatsoever. He is a non Mahram to you and you are Halal for him in marriage. Hence, it is totally Haraam for you to have any relationship with him. You are not answerable for any of those health issues, insha Allah. But, the underlying fitnah is of a greater intensity, which should be taken care of, as soon as possible. You can do this, only by cutting all contact with this man, and asking your parents to have you married to a practicing Muslim man, who could help you reach the higher levels of Paradise.
May Allah increase all our levels in His Jannah.
Aameen
Wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Asalaam alaikum Sister Nikhat_naim,
Try to look at the situation from another perspective: where is this situation truly headed? If you answer "marriage," then you must ask yourself why haven't you two gotten married already? What are the fundamental issues that is keeping you two from being married and are those issues valid? What are your parents saying, what else is going on and is his depression an issue that you fully appreciate?
Salam sister in question,
Boyfriend+Girlfriend= Relationship before marriage=premartial relationship=loses self control=an act of shaitan=not allowed=forbiden in Islam=haram=an act most hated by Allah (swt)= Major Sin=Hell Fire
Furthermore,
Drugs/addiction=intoxication=loses self control= an act of shaitan= not allowed in Islam= forbiden in Islam= haram=an act most hated by Allah (swt)=Major Sin=Hell Fire
Please sister come to the reality and DESTORY all forms of contacts with him! This guy's state of emaan is so weak. As with all guidance, only Allah (swt) can guide him. Forever stay away from him!
Sister, purify yourself, purify your soul by crying to Allah (swt). Repent to Allah (swt). Never go back to the sin. Become a better Muslimah. Take your time and study ISLAM.
InshaAllah, when the time is right, marry a Allah fearing, good hearted brother.
and as for your question. Fasting is ONLY for Allah (swt).
May Allah (swt) guide you and guide all of us towards HIS straight path.ameen.
Takecare of yourself.
Your sister,Parveen
Can i pliz fast for my friend i love him alot n m already veri upset n weak but stil can i pliz fast fr him...
I care about him alot n his very precious fr me n nothng in ds world hs replace o cn replace him...
Ive no idea if he wants to marry me o no dts y calin him friend its ok...
I dnt wan.give him ny pressure o frusturatn anger..i jus wang him.b happy nm willing to do nythng
I have kept neeyath to fast for 3 days continuously for my husband health I could make it only on 2 days. Wil I be punished??
F.M., as long as you did your best and tried, inshaAllah you fulfilled your vow. But I suggest you complete the other day when you are able.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor