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Can I love a Muslim man when still married to a Christian?

Muslim woman in hijab

I was a Christian when I married my husband. He started to abuse me. After being afraid for many years of him, he told me to get out of his house.

I left. We had no children together. He told me to get the divorce papers and he would sign and he did. But now he won't give me the divorce because I converted to Islam.

I am happy and at peace for the first time in my life. But there is one thing missing in my life. My question is, is it right of me to love a Muslim man when I am still married to a Christian?


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  1. as salaamu alaykum robertamarie

    As far as I'm aware he has no right or legal means to prevent the divorce. Do you have the paper signed by him? If yes simply take it to a lawyer and you should soon be divorced. Having reverted to Islaam you're Unlawful to your ex anyway so you need have no religious qualms. However be sure not to take the relationship to the Muslim man any further before you're legally divorced, and married to him, as it would otherwise count as Zina.

  2. Assalamu'alaikum sister,

    Congratulations and welcome to the religion of the Most Merciful Lord. May Allah Accept your sincerity and Reward you with Jannah.

    Islam is the religion of Mercy and is easy upon its adherents. Allah Says in the aayah of fasting:

    Allah intends for you ease and does not intend for you hardship (Surah al Baqarah: 185)

    If a married non-Muslim woman decides to accept Islam and her husband decides to remain a disbeliever, she is first advised to show him the way which she was Guided to by Allah. If he does not accept Islam within the period stipulated for divorce or separation, she may marry whoever she wishes. If he does accept Islam within this period, then he remains her husband.

    A classical scholar of Islam, Ibn Qayyim stated:

    What is indicated by the ruling of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) is that the marriage contract is put on hold; if he becomes Muslim before the end of her ‘iddah, then she is his wife, but once her ‘iddah (the waiting period) ends, she may marry whoever she wants, or if she likes she may wait for him, and if he becomes Muslim then she is still his wife, with no need for a new marriage contract. (Zaad al Ma'aad)

    You may read more here:

    For explanation on 'iddah, the waiting period, you may refer to this:

    May Allah Accept us all and Make us of the Victorious on the Last Day

    Mohammed Waseem

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