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Can I marry my niece?

Forbidden marriage, no marriage

Is my marriage permissible?

assalam alaikom, i just want to know that is there any possibility or option in Islam that i could marry my niece (my own niece)?

i am sorry to say i cant force myself to marry any other girl.

Hope you understand, and if there's something please tell me.

- heartless

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  1. No you can not its not permissible in Islam...

    Just the thought of you marrying your niece should disgust you, she is like a daughter to you how can you think of her in any other way? In Islam it is not allowed and thankfully in most country's it's not allowed either, certainly not here in the UK. It's a disgusting thought to have, I'm very disturbed at the thought someone will have a lustful eye for there own niece.

    I suggest you pray to Allah, inshallah you will be guided on the right path. It's fair to say most of us don't have much or high knowledge in Islam, but certain issues are common knowledge even for the non practising.

    May Allah guide you on the right path!!

    • Allah's peace, blessings and mercy be upon you

      It is not disgusting. Your reaction is. When a person is asking we should answer their question politely backed with official facts, not condemn them as disgusting. Depending on the conditions, a man might fall in love with his niece and a niece might fall in love and desire her uncle, it is normal and it happens all the time. In Islam, Allah "The Most Exalted The Most Generous", has forbidden us from doing so not because it is disgusting, but because it creates genetic anomalies for pregnancy, it is considered a direct blood relative. How about cousins, they are the children of the brothers and sisters of our parents, is that disgusting? but because they are genetically enough distant, it is not forbidden.

      Depending on the condition, if a man is distant from his nieces or a woman is distant from her nephews they might get attracted at a late meeting in life when the niece is 16 and the uncle is 35 for example and that attraction is spontaneous and natural, but not to get serious about it.

      I don't mean to upset or offend you but if you are a Muslim you should know better on how to react and educate with eloquence rather than humiliate and condemn who asks to learn.

      Peace again and Allah's mercy and guidance may light your heart

      Mazen

      • May Allah Bless you for your reply and soft advice. It is correct what Mazen has said

      • I agree to Mazen. Although Mariam also meant the same thing, but, it was said in more aggressive words. May Allah give all of us patience and virtue of a soft tongue which can win hearts.. Aameen.

        And, To answer the question, No! you cannot marry your own niece. But, you can gracefully marry if she is your cousin niece ( daughter of your first cousin brother or sister )

      • Mariam is absolutely right to express her sentiments of disgust at this depravity.

        Why is it that Pakistani men are always asking to marry their nieces? Obviously not content with marrying their cousins which 60% do despite a hadith telling them otherwise. Its just sickening.

        • no mariam is not right at all< yes the matter may disgust you but honestly and seriously who are you? who are you to Allah or to anyone your a speck of sperm tht grew to think he is who yqou think you are today

          how is it you can comment on a full race? pakistani men? fix up and dont really leave yourself out of it cah wallahi islam does not revolve around your opinion

          and wallahi shes not right to express anything hes simply asking a question? how dyu know if hes not suffered from sihr or other matters?

          and if they do then they do there punishment is with Allah not you and 60 percent do and hes askin to avoid it if he didnt care would he ask? just keep yourself to yourself hussain and dont comment on people except with manners and understanding

          but no akhi it is haram not only due to hadith but also quranic evidence in sha Allah

          as salamu alaykum

          • Listen it's depends SISTER (because you act like that new feminism wave) Ali RA was prophet Nabi sw Cousin and He married his daughter who was His niece
            I got the same problem, my cousin who is the son of my dad half sister have a daughter who fell for me when she was 16 or 17 at the time I was 20 wanted to move in their area for a better future made me come there but her dad curse me and all I see it's downfall (jail, no job, confusions etc...) I'm mad cause women are slick and they are our weakness but long story short it's permitted (think before writing you can hurt the innocent who just asking)

          • Moh, you are mistaken, brother. Islamically, the daughter of a cousin is not considered a niece. A niece is the daughter of one's brother or sister. If the Prophet (sws) and Ali (RA) had been brothers, then Fatima (RA) would have been Ali's niece, and would have been forbidden to him for marriage.

            In any case it's healthier to marry outside the family.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • What if the uncle is also distant enough like you are talking about in cousins perspective

        • An uncle is referred to as your mothers brother or your fathers brother other than that there not a true uncle

      • Whilst its technically correct to say that marrying one's cousin is allowed, it is still strongly not recommended. Marrying your cousin greatly increases the risk of producing children with genetic defects - there is a hadith which says exactly that. It is like divorce, whilst permissible but highly not recommended.

        Of course, when you get around 60 -70% of people marrying their cousins, as in the Pakistani or Saudi community, it is no wonder that eventually you end up with a population who are intellectually inferior to everyone else due to this incest.

        Incestuous marriages to cousins blurs the line and leads to some people wanting to marry their own nieces as in the case of the original poster who probably himself is the result of many generations of cousin marrying. This is what you get when you have weakened genes with a correspondingly reduced ability to decipher between right and wrong.

      • Sir what if u fall love with your step niece ? What islam say about this ..

      • I have married my half niece what to do I was in love with her

      • If a man is distant from his nieces or a woman is distant from her nephews they might get attracted at a late meeting in life when the niece is 16 and the uncle is 35 for example and that attraction is spontaneous and natural
        That's not true at all. Humans are biologically wired to not feel attraction towards their closest blood relatives...distance and closeness to family members do not change this biological setup in humans. The reason why SOME...even VERY FEW humans feel attraction towards their close blood relative comes down to other factors, like trauma and disconnection. Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) is not a field that's well studied at the moment, but we're learning more and more about it. But it's by no means 'natural' (as you claim) or common for humans to be attracted to their parents, uncles, aunts, siblings, nieces, nephews and whatnot. Please don't make it out to be such a normal and humanely natural thing...it's definitely not.

        Although, I do agree with you that we should try to be more understanding of people that are unlucky to be one of the few that suffer with GSA.

    • Mam can i talk to u... i want to know something..

    • BUT ALI MARRIED HIS NEFU

      • No he (Ali ibn Talib RA) married his cousin, not his niece.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • ali RA is the cousin of Rasool SAW so does that mean ali RA married his niece, becos fatimah is the daughter of rasool saw?

          • No. If the Prophet (sws) had been Ali's brother, then Fatimah would be his niece. The daughter of a cousin is not a niece.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • May Allah forgive me if I'm wrong but they usually saying that your cousin daughter is considered as a niece
          But I went through a lot of hard times for that

          • Moh there is nothing in the Quran prohibiting marriage to a cousin's daughter. In fact the words "uncle" "aunt" and "niece" are not mentioned in the Quran at all precisely because of these vague cultural interpretations. Instead, the prohibited matches are described exactly. Brother Abu Abdul Bari has already quoted the relevant ayahs:

            4:23
            حُرِّمَتْ عَلَيْكُمْ أُمَّهَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُكُمْ وَأَخَوَاتُكُمْ وَعَمَّاتُكُمْ وَخَالَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُ الْأَخِ وَبَنَاتُ الْأُخْتِ وَأُمَّهَاتُكُمُ اللَّاتِي أَرْضَعْنَكُمْ وَأَخَوَاتُكُمْ مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ وَأُمَّهَاتُ نِسَائِكُمْ وَرَبَائِبُكُمُ اللَّاتِي فِي حُجُورِكُمْ مِنْ نِسَائِكُمُ اللَّاتِي دَخَلْتُمْ بِهِنَّ فَإِنْ لَمْ تَكُونُوا دَخَلْتُمْ بِهِنَّ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَحَلَائِلُ أَبْنَائِكُمُ الَّذِينَ مِنْ أَصْلَابِكُمْ وَأَنْ تَجْمَعُوا بَيْنَ الْأُخْتَيْنِ إِلَّا مَا قَدْ سَلَفَ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا
            Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful
            4:24
            وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۖ كِتَابَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ ۚ وَأُحِلَّ لَكُمْ مَا وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَنْ تَبْتَغُوا بِأَمْوَالِكُمْ مُحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ ۚ فَمَا اسْتَمْتَعْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْهُنَّ فَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً ۚ وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا تَرَاضَيْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْ بَعْدِ الْفَرِيضَةِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا
            And [also prohibited to you are all] married women except those your right hands possess. [This is] the decree of Allah upon you. And lawful to you are [all others] beyond these, [provided] that you seek them [in marriage] with [gifts from] your property, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse. So for whatever you enjoy [of marriage] from them, give them their due compensation as an obligation. And there is no blame upon you for what you mutually agree to beyond the obligation. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Wise.

            ***

            As you can see, the Quran prohibits marriage to brother's daughters and sister's daughters, i.e. nieces. It does not mention cousins or cousin's children at all.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • Barakalahu fikum

  2. no it's haram. u have to stay away from her then. keep reading a'udzubillahi minasy syaitonirrajim as much as u can. and what ever it take u have to get out of this. make lots of dua ask ALLAH for help n to get u out of this. read aythul kusir in the morning and evening and after salah. and stay away from here until the feeling is gone.

  3. Brother the quran clearly states which relationships r considered unlawful in marriage. U will transgress even if u entertained such a thought. it will b considered as incest even if she is ur age.

    My advice to u is read the Quran and stop thinking about it.

  4. Assalamualaikum,

    The law is clear in Allah's Word:

    4:23
    حُرِّمَتْ عَلَيْكُمْ أُمَّهَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُكُمْ وَأَخَوَاتُكُمْ وَعَمَّاتُكُمْ وَخَالَاتُكُمْ وَبَنَاتُ الْأَخِ وَبَنَاتُ الْأُخْتِ وَأُمَّهَاتُكُمُ اللَّاتِي أَرْضَعْنَكُمْ وَأَخَوَاتُكُمْ مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ وَأُمَّهَاتُ نِسَائِكُمْ وَرَبَائِبُكُمُ اللَّاتِي فِي حُجُورِكُمْ مِنْ نِسَائِكُمُ اللَّاتِي دَخَلْتُمْ بِهِنَّ فَإِنْ لَمْ تَكُونُوا دَخَلْتُمْ بِهِنَّ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَحَلَائِلُ أَبْنَائِكُمُ الَّذِينَ مِنْ أَصْلَابِكُمْ وَأَنْ تَجْمَعُوا بَيْنَ الْأُخْتَيْنِ إِلَّا مَا قَدْ سَلَفَ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا
    Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful
    4:24
    وَالْمُحْصَنَاتُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ۖ كِتَابَ اللَّهِ عَلَيْكُمْ ۚ وَأُحِلَّ لَكُمْ مَا وَرَاءَ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَنْ تَبْتَغُوا بِأَمْوَالِكُمْ مُحْصِنِينَ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحِينَ ۚ فَمَا اسْتَمْتَعْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْهُنَّ فَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ فَرِيضَةً ۚ وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا تَرَاضَيْتُمْ بِهِ مِنْ بَعْدِ الْفَرِيضَةِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيمًا حَكِيمًا
    And [also prohibited to you are all] married women except those your right hands possess. [This is] the decree of Allah upon you. And lawful to you are [all others] beyond these, [provided] that you seek them [in marriage] with [gifts from] your property, desiring chastity, not unlawful sexual intercourse. So for whatever you enjoy [of marriage] from them, give them their due compensation as an obligation. And there is no blame upon you for what you mutually agree to beyond the obligation. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Wise.

    Abu Abdul Bari
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Assalaamualaikam

    Marriage to your niece is not permissible in Islam, as shown in the evidence already given. It is also not legal in most countries.

    We do not know the details of this situation, such as how old you and she are, if you have had a relationship, what her feelings are with regards your desire for her. These would help people to give advice on what to do next.

    Without meaning to sound judgemental, if your niece is still a child, you need to seek help for having these feelings about her and should make contact with your doctor. You need to ensure you are never alone with her and if you feel you cannot control yourself near her, you may wish to consider moving away from her family.

    If you are both legally adults, you still need to avoid being alone with her and still need to lower your gaze.

    You do not need to force yourself into a marriage, and indeed this would not be fair on the woman you married - nobody would be happy to learn that their new husband still desired someone else and had to force himself to get married.

    Instead, work to strengthen your faith and do good deeds. Study the Quran and hadiths, learn more about the life of our Beloved Prophet (peace be upon him). Go to your masjid and participate in groups and classes there - this will not only help you learn but will help you make contact with people who will inshaAllah inspire you to further strengthen your faith. Find a charitable project to support and get involved in making your community better.

    By strengthening your relationship with Allah, surrounding yourself with positive influences, seeking professional help if needed, and avoiding inappropriate and nonessential contact with your niece, inshaAllah you should be able to put these feelings to one side and move on.

    Midnightmoon
    IslamicAnswers.com editor

  6. Brother it's haram and that's that, and I'm sure the shatan making you think that way, take the thought out nd seperate from your neice, inshallah you'll find a wonderful woman that you can marry. Goodluck to you brother!:)

  7. Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

    100% haram, Allah has already made other women as options for you to seek marriage so do not seek your niece as this is forbidden just like marrying your own mother is forbidden.

  8. "Married except those your right hand possseses" What exactly does that mean?

    • In my opinion it refers to wives. Allah knows best.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Slm. It refers to the slaves you own. There were slaves in this time

        • I know that is the common interpretation, but I disagree.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • Salam Wael,

            For your interpretation, how do you resolve the issue that these verses are in regards to seeking someone for marriage? Are you not already married to your wife that you would not seek her for marriage?

          • How could it mean wives when it saus forbidden to you for marriage are and so on but you would already be married to wives so what sense does that make akhi

          • The wording in Arabic is "Except with your spouses AW those whom your right hands possess." "AW" which means "OR" in Arabic is usually translated and understood to be offering a second option. Your spouses, or those whom your right hands possess. But some thinkers, such as Muhammad Asad, point out that AW in Arabic can also be a clarifier, like the English phrase "in other words." In which case it would mean, "Except with your spouses, in other words, those whom your right hands possess." This makes perfect sense. The right hand in Arabic culture is associated with what is good, proper and lawful. The pre-Islamic Arabs had all sorts of arrangements with women. They had mistresses, concubines, slaves and prostitutes. But Allah is clarifying the point, saying that you can only have sexual relations with your spouses, in other words those to whom you are legally and properly married.

            Furthermore, azwaj (spouses) in Arabic is gender neutral. So will people claim that women can have sexual relations with male slaves as well?

            Islam is a religion of compassion. Islam came, among other things, to abolish slavery. This is clear from the constant Quran and sunnah exhortations to free slaves. It would make no sense, and would be contrary to everything Islam teaches, to have an ongoing institution of sexual slavery. The very notion is repugnant.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. Is it permissible for a widow to marry her husband's nephew?

  10. A'salam every body I have a question to ask u all.my question is can I marry my cousin'sister's son I mean my (cousin nephew)actually he is elder to me in age wise is it possible....as above comments for niece it's not permitted to do....so just suggest me in good ways so that I take my future decision as ''Alhumdulilah''

  11. Answer for both Naazu and noorain is Yes it is permissible .

  12. So how about Ali bin Abi Talib? Didn't he married his own niece, Prophet Rasulullah's S.A.W daughter. I'm sorry but this is... confusing.

  13. this kind of marriage could be possible or not????.............. in case, if the uncle is step brother of your father ... both having same father but separate mothers??????

    • zfairy, it would not matter if they had different mothers. They are still brothers, and marriage to a niece is still forbidden.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editors

  14. Assalam wa alikum brother

    Brother you are Allah's creation, what you can and can't do is something only Allah knows so your believe that you can't marry anyone else is your weakness in Iman. You are a man so obviously you can fall in love with women so yes you have a strong chance of falling in love with someone who is not haram for you, who isn't your Niece.

    Seriously everyone who is saying it is permissible is doing a great haram, when the Quran clearly says something then why argue, the Quran is the word of Allah so stop leading this brother astray just because you think its ok, you are not Allah.

    As Abu Abdul Bari has pointed out in earlier comment, he even pasted the Arabic and translation to make it clear to make it clear that it is Haram.

    From the Holy Quran: "Prohibited to you [for marriage] are your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father's sisters, your mother's sisters, your brother's daughters, your sister's daughters, your [milk] mothers who nursed you, your sisters through nursing, your wives' mothers, and your step-daughters under your guardianship [born] of your wives unto whom you have gone in. But if you have not gone in unto them, there is no sin upon you. And [also prohibited are] the wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins, and that you take [in marriage] two sisters simultaneously, except for what has already occurred. Indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful" Surah A-Nisa 22-24

    • Sorry I didn't mean to write ' stop leading this brother astray just because you think its ok, you are not Allah', I know no one is encouraging him to marry his niece, a sister was saying people were but I just checked no is doing that so sorry if I offended anyone.

  15. Assalamoualaikoum
    I really want to know if i can marry my nephew
    He is my cousin son
    His grand mother and my mum r sisters
    Thnx

  16. can i marry my niece but she is not my sibling

  17. Assalamu alaikum.Why a man will marry or they like their nieces?Is not healthy! I think you brother ,sorry to say ,you have a problem of controling your sexual emotions. Their are plenty woman in the whole world.We see special needs children..who came from marriage between relatives.What fault they have those children,they are born with anomalies, children condemned to be for life...unhappy..not able to live properly.. For my opinion ,should be forbidden...relationships between niece and uncle and between cousins.Is affecting the human rights...I am working in a special needs school...is sad...to see hundreds of children ..from blood relatives marriages...is absurd people...!! Stop this non sense...at least if someone does not care..and they want to marry with they blood relative...don't make children..Everyone said is OK...why is OK??for who is OK?? For the man who can't keep is pants on?? Or for the children who come after that with anomalies..?? Those children they can't have a normal life...they can't cry for help...they can't eat. ..they can't play...They can't change themselves..Sorry I am so harsh..but that's the problem..because you guys allow these marriages between relatives...I don't...selams..

    • Dear,
      There are a lot of things which not allowed in Islam but we are doing.When you feel hunger and you are gonna die so all haram things allowed for saving our lives same like when you are in strong desire and you can not stop your feelings than you can cuddle with your niece or nephew.

      • Saima, your comment is ridiculous and bizarre. Saving your life by eating haram food cannot be compared to expressing your sexual desire inappropriately with your niece or nephew, astaghfirullah. La hawla wa la quwwata il-la billah.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • I saw a video (in Urdu) on this topic by doctor Shazia Nawaz.

        Pakistan's deep and dark hidden secrets.

  18. Asalamu Alaikum, the prophet's cousin Ali ibn Abi Talib was married to Muhammad's(peace be upon him) daughter - Fatima. That was a uncle and niece relationship, wasn't it?.

    • No. If Ali (RA) had been the Prophet's (sws) brother, then it would have been an uncle/niece relationship.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  19. As salam walekum. I would like to know can i allow my daughter to marry my wife's cousin brother (son of my wife's mother's brother) who is just 29 years and my daughter is 19 years.Is it Prohibited in Islam.

  20. Assalamualaikum

    I want to know if I can marry my niece In Shaa Allah and if it is allowed in Islam. My mother and her grandmother are siblings, me and her mother are first cousins. My father is a distant relative to her parents. Is that okay? Both of us are in 20's

  21. This reminds me of my story. My ex husband divorced me to get close to his niece who was from Pakistan. His niece was a very cunning woman who made sure that my husband of that time divorced me. After divorcing me he called her to UK and started living with her. Till today he is living here in the same house I lived in before divorce and that cunning girl is living with him in that house. Sad part is his sons do not do anything to stop their father from committing this adultery but just watch and see as spectators. Everyone in that street also knows what they upto but have closed their eyes. Everyone at his mosque knows too but people don't open their mouths against them coz apparently he is a respectable man.

  22. Assalamualaikum

    I want to know if I can be in relationship with my uncle (his mother and my grandmother are sister).
    Thanks.

    • Salam Aliya,

      He is not your uncle. A biological aunt or uncle is a sibling of one of your parents. As you just stated, this man is one of your parent's first cousin, which means he's not an uncle to you. So yes, he is halal.

  23. anyone plz tell me that can a uncle means mother’s brother and neice be in sexual relationship?? as my mom and my uncle have separate fathers but same mother? and uncle is of 40 and neice is just 18? so is tis haram to have sexual contact between uncle and neice?

  24. Assalamu alaikum.i need to know about something that is very wired.I know a person who is very closest to me.Actually if i say directly then i have to say he just in love with her niece… Actually he and his neice are in same age…. And they are actually having most wierdest Relation or love….. They cant even think about anything else except each other. They are also very close to each both physically and mentall. And yeah its is very clear that or highlighted they are in very love. so genuinely we know its impossible or marrying sisters daughter is haram completely haram but keeping in mind that its very complicated and they are very close to each other both mentally and physically so what they should now… Can they be married or make it halal or is there any chance for them??

    • Rahat, you already know the answer and you already stated it. To marry a sister's daughter is completely haram and impossible. It would be a major sin, and the marriage would never be accepted. You know this. So why ask the question? Do you think that just because someone desires a haram thing very strongly it can become halal?

      The only solution is for them to cut off contact with each other completely. Do not see one another, talk, meet, no Facebook friends, no phone texts, nothing. In fact it's best if one of them moves to another city.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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