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Can Muslim Men Marry with Christian lady with all respect?

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Assalam o Alaikum,

Can Muslim Men Marry with Christian lady with all respect? Please advise me in the light of Quran and Sunnah. She respects all the points of islam and is showing interest in Islam.

Jazakallah,

-muhammad farhan

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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  1. ASSALAMALIKUM-
    THIS IS THE CORRECT WAY OF A MUSLIMS QUESTIONING RATHER THAN ASKING SCHOLARS VERSION-
    Can Muslim Men Marry with Christian lady with all respect? Please advise me in the light of Quran and Sunnah.
    REF:-Marry not the women who associate others with Allah in His Divinity until they believe; for a believing slavegirl is better than a (free, respectable) woman who associates others with Allah in His Divinity, even though she might please you. Likewise, do not give your women in marriage to men who associate others with Allah in His Divinity until they believe; for a believing slave is better than a (free, respectable) man who associates others with Allah in His Divinity, even though he might please you. Such people call you towards the Fire, and Allah calls you, by His leave, towards Paradise and forgiveness; and He makes His injunctions clear to people so that they may take heed.Quran 2:221-
    IT IS AN ESTABLISHED FACT THAT THE CHRISTIANS WORSHIP 3 GODS IN TRINITY AND ASCRIBE JESUS AS A SON TO ALLAH-
    THEN WHERE IS THE QUESTION OF DEFYING THE ABOVE VERSE -
    The Prohibition of marrying Mushrik Men and Women

    Allah prohibited the believers from marrying Mushrik women who worship idols. Although the meaning is general and includes every Mushrik woman from among the idol worshippers and the People of the Scripture, Allah excluded the People of the Scripture from this ruling. Allah stated:
    ((Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time when you have given their due dowry, desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal sexual intercourse.) (5:5)
    `Ali bin Abu Talhah said that Ibn `Abbas said about what Allah said:
    (And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (female idolators) till they believe (worship Allah Alone).) "Allah has excluded the women of the People of the Scripture.'' This is also the explanation of Mujahid, `Ikrimah, Sa`id bin Jubayr, Makhul, Al-Hasan, Ad-Dahhak, Zayd bin Aslam and Ar-Rabi` bin Anas and others. Some scholars said that the Ayah is exclusively talking about idol worshippers and not the People of the Scripture, and this meaning is similar to the first meaning we mentioned. Allah knows best.
    Abu Ja`far bin Jarir (At-Tabari) said, after mentioning that there is Ijma` that marrying women from the People of the Scripture is allowed, "`Umar disliked this practice so that the Muslims do not refrain from marrying Muslim women, or for similar reasons.'' An authentic chain of narrators stated that Shaqiq said: Once Hudhayfah married a Jewish woman and `Umar wrote to him, "Divorce her.'' He wrote back, "Do you claim that she is not allowed for me so that I divorce her'' He said, "No. But, I fear that you might marry the whores from among them.'' Ibn Jarir related that Zayd bin Wahb said that `Umar bin Khattab said, "The Muslim man marries the Christian woman, but the Christian man does not marry the Muslim woman.'' This Hadith has a stronger, authentic chain of narrators than the previous Hadith.
    Ibn Abu Hatim said that Ibn `Umar disliked marrying the women from the People of the Scripture. He relied on his own explanation for the Ayah:
    (And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (female idolators) till they believe (worship Allah Alone).)
    Al-Bukhari also reported that Ibn `Umar said, "I do not know of a bigger Shirk than her saying that Jesus is her Lord!''
    Allah said:
    (And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (female idolators), even though she pleases you.)
    It is recorded in the Two Sahihs that Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet said:
    (A woman is chosen for marriage for four reasons: her wealth, social status, beauty, and religion. So, marry the religious woman, may your hands be filled with sand (a statement of encouragement).)
    Muslim reported this Hadith from Jabir. Muslim also reported that Ibn `Amr said that Allah's Messenger said:
    (The life of this world is but a delight, and the best of the delights of this earthly life is the righteous wife.)
    Allah then said:
    (And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikin till they believe (in Allah Alone).) meaning, do not marry Mushrik men to believing women. This statement is similar to Allah's statement:
    (They are not lawful (wives) for them, nor are they lawful (husbands) for them.) (60:10)
    Next, Allah said:
    (. ..and verily, a believing servant is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolator), even though he pleases you.)
    This Ayah indicates that a believing man, even an Abyssinian servant, is better than a Mushrik man, even if he was a rich master.
    (Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire) meaning, associating and mingling with the disbelievers makes one love this life and prefer it over the Hereafter, leading to the severest repercussions. Allah said:
    (...but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His leave) meaning, by His Law, commandments and prohibitions. Allah said:
    (...and makes His Ayat clear to mankind that they may remember.)
    (222. They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: "That is an Adha, therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not in unto them till they are purified.'' And when they have purified themselves, then go in unto them as Allah has ordained for you. Truly, Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves.) (223. Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) for your own selves beforehand. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad ).)

    • assalamalaikum
      I KEEP WAITING MY COMMENT IS CANCELLED ???????????????????????
      DEAR FORUM PEOPLE PLS NOT-
      THIS TIME MY COMMENT HAS TO COME AND I HAVE RIGHT TO EXPRESS FRM HADEES AND QURAN LAST TIME SOMONE ENQUIRED I REPLIED WITH SO MUCH PAIN &EFFORT SEARCHING FOR PROOFS IN FAJR TIME AND YOU HAVE NOT PUBLISHED THE SAME AND THIS IS NOT CORRECT -
      I HAVE SEEN SO MANY TIMES MY COMMENTS ARE CANCELLED AND I KEPT QUITE-
      THIS CHRISTIANS MATTER IS A MAJOR ISSUE A POLYTHEIST IS FAR AWAY KINGDOM OS AUDIS DAWAH HAVE PASSED AN ORDER- THE INNOVATORS IN MUSLIMS ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO GIVE GIRLS IN MARRIAGE TO INNOVATORS Shaykh Saalih ibn Fawzaan al-Fawzaan commented:
      Al-Fudayl ibn 'Iyaad (may Allah have mercy upon him) said “Whoever honours a person of innovation has aided in the demolition of Islam...”
      This is from the severest of hypocrisy and Allah’s protection is sought.
      His statement “Whoever smiles in the face of an innovator has belittled what Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, had revealed to Muhammad (may the peace and salutations of Allaah be upon him)....” the innovator is in opposition to that which Allaah has revealed to Muhammed (may the peace and salutation of Allaah be upon him).
      Thus if he were to smile in his face with delight then indeed he has acted against that which has been revealed in the Quran and Sunnah from abandoning, hating, staying away and not being pleased with them since smiling (with delight) attests to his satisfaction and pleasure for them.
      His statement “Whoever marries his kareemat (i.e sister, daughter) to an innovator has cut off her ties of relationship with her...”
      Therefore if you do not seek for her someone who is pleasing in his religion and character, then it will bring great corruption.
      AND THE TRINITARIANS ARE POLYTHEISTS THEY ARE OUT OF QUESTION

      HOPE HERE ONWRADS THIS TREATMENT WILL NOT BE DONE WITH ME I AM VERY HEART-
      REGARDS

      • Ali Youssuf, you are mistaken on this issue. The prohibition against marrying polytheists is a general one. However, the permission to marry chaste women from the People of the Book is an exception to that rule. This is stated clearly in the Quran and the scholars are agreed on this.

        Yes, the Christians are polytheists. Nevertheless it has been allowed by Allah.

        It's incorrect to say that the Christians in the time of the Prophet worshipped one God, while the Christians of today are polytheists. They were polytheists in the time of the Prophet just as well. And yet we were given permission to marry them. This is very clear.

        Whether or not it is advisable is another story. ‘Abdillah bin Baaz -may Allah's mercy be upon him- said:

        Marriage with other than Muslim women is complicated. Idolatresses, Communist and likewise Buddhist Women are not permissible to marry. As for chaste women from the People of the Book who are known for having chastity, decency and being distant from the avenues of fornication, they are considered the chaste ones.

        So it is permissible for a Muslim Man to marry a chaste woman (from the People of the Book). However he leaves off that which is more virtuous and foremost and what is farther away from evil (i.e. marrying the Muslimah).

        Because marrying this women could perhaps lead him to becoming a Christian (or Jew) -and Allahs refuge is sought- or possibly lead the children to becoming Christians (or Jews). And this is the reason why ‘Umar and a group from the Salaf disliked that (type of marriage although it is permitted) fearing for that person the evil consequences behind it. Nontheless the origin is that it is halaal (lawful).

        The issue is settled in Islam and is not open to debate. So if you post a comment telling people that it's forbidden to marry a Christian woman, I will delete it, as you are spreading false information.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • Assalam alaikum,

          I am not sure if there is a direct answer for this in Islam - but, if a Muslim man marries a Christian or Jewish woman and she does not convert to Islam, is there a chance that they (husband and wife) will be re-united in Jannah?

          • Allah knows best. However, I find it unlikely. If she is married to a Muslim then she must be informed about Islam, which means she has an obligation to accept it. If the burden of proof has established on someone - if they have been exposed to the truth - then they are held to a higher standard of judgment.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • If they cannot inherit each other in this world, how can they be re-united in Jannah?

            However, this isn't a proof, as the Mercy of Allah is broad and vast, and that Day is a surprise day, so anything wonderful could happen there, InshaAllah.

            Though, I agree with what Sister Najah said "show her Islam". When the brother shows real character of Islam to his wife, this may open her heart to realize the light of Islam, and then embrace it, InshaAllah.

            Allah knows best.

          • JazakAllah for the responses!

          • Only Allah knows. Though Allah has permitted Muslim men to marry Christian/Jewish women if they are CHASTE, i feel it may not be a general rule. Besides, when Allah says that a slave Muslim woman is better(2:221) we must go for the better option right? When there are enough Muslimahs on earth why should we even ponder about marrying others? Such inter-religious marriages will weaken the very structure of Islam in the future. Besides, in this present century it will be hard to find a woman who will listen to you and follow whatever you ask her to do. Today's women are liberated.They are not going to obey their husbands. So the chances of your children being or remaining as Muslims are very minimal.

          • Brother Usman, that's a very good point, MashaAllah. Why do we need to go and marry Christians/Jews today, while there are many pious Muslimahs in the Ummah? If we say it's for the sake of dawa, then there are many pious Muslimahs who are as well as converts. Why not marry them instead?

          • The opposite of a liberated woman, in my opinion, is an oppressed woman. I do not think there is any clash in a woman being liberated and being a chaste Muslimah - some men take "obey" to a whole new level and have such delicate egos that easily break at a woman even voicing her opinions. I am neither big on feminism or chauvanism - but I am frankly somewhat disgruntled when I hear about the negativity associated with the words "liberated woman." One could argue and say that many men are not reasonable and responsible as they once were rather than say today's society is full of liberated women - the fact of the matter is we should take baby steps and fix first ourselves, our next of kin, work on bettering the four walls we live in and inn shaa Allah, the whole Ummah would benefit, both women and men.

            As for marrying a Christian/Jewish woman - I don't think we have a right to say it is wrong, and Allah knows best so we have to accept it.

            Having said that, when Muslim men do marry non-Muslim women, it does make it even harder for Muslim women to find a husband in a world where it is already very difficult to marry off girls (since Muslim women can only marry Muslim men).

        • Assalaamu alaikum Brother,
          Doesn't the term " people of the book" delineate from all of the types of Christians and Jews that existed during the time of our Prophet (S)?
          Since all of Allah's (SWT) books gave the same guidance of tawhid, by definition, this can only mean women following that belief. How do women following the trinity fall under this umbrella? That was not the message of Prophet Isa (A).
          Thank you for helping to give clarity in this matter!

          • Obviously the trinity was not the teaching of Prophet Isa (as), but it was the standard Christian belief at the time of the revelation of the Quran. Nevertheless, the Quran classified them as People of the Book.

            Obviously their 'aqeedah is imperfect and corrupt, otherwise there would have been no need for the Prophet Muhammad (sws) and the Quran. That is why they are not Muslims, but People of the Book, which is a special distinction given to them.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Brother,

    Yes you can marry a Christian woman however you must consider the fact that she may choose not to convert once you are married. Be a good husband to her and don't just tell her about Islam...show her Islam. Guide her and give her material so that she can learn about the teachings of Islam. Do not push her or force her to convert. She will convert if she so chooses and when she is ready. May Allah guide you both to a life filled with happiness, love and respect.

    Salam

  3. Salam Brother,

    As the hadith goes when a man or women chooses a spouse, they should choose the religous one to be successful in this life and the hereafter. No doubt you are allowed to marry women from the book.

    As I often here scholers say that every action we do should be to please Allah. We should marry only for the sake of Allah, i. e marrying a pius muslimas will bring you closer to Allah and give you pius children who will be taught well by your wife. So I don't understand how marrying a women who does not believe in Allah will bring you closer to Islam? She does not believe in Allah. So your marriage is not for Allah. Therefore it will only serve one purpose desire in this world.

    I mean I find it difficult to even be good friends with non muslims as they do not believe in Allah or the akirah do its hard for me to digest how to anyone can be married to someone who does not believe in Allah. You have think about how you will bring up the children. The mother is the best teacher for a child. But how will she fullfill this if she doesn't believe in Islam. You will have to discuss all these things before marriage.

    So think hard about all the issues that you and your future children may come accross and make an informed decision. Remember the duniya is only for 2 days. Think about the Akhirah.

  4. Thank you brother for inquiering about marriage to a Christian woman. First of all Id like to say that I AGREE with your muslim bretheren that you should marry a muslim woman because it brings less complications to your life. Secondly,yes marriage to a christian girl is permissible , but I feel that it would NOT be beneficial to you in the long run. Your God Allah knows what is best for you, and before you marry anyone you seek counsel with Him first.

    However I do feel that if you claim to know Jesus as the messenger then you should understand what his followers believe . We should not place our own interpretations on what He taught, and since you are seeking the will of Allah concerning marrying a CHRISTIAN woman then I want to CLARIFY what we are taught. (I am christian, but the other half of my family is muslim so I understand both). Muslims have great hearts but they are often confused about one thing ... You CANNOT be born Christian (there is no concept of that), however you can be born into a christian family...To make short: If you come from a family of Doctors are you a Doctor because perhaps you know a little bit about medicine . No! That is aburd, you MUST go through the training, interning, and studying to confess that you are a physcian. In that same respect, If you are not following or practicing and studying the Holy Bible and Following the teachings of Jesus you are NOT considered a Christian. The true Christian is a person who is of "THE BOOK". We are taught:

    1) Hear Oh Israel the Lord your God is ONE! (we believe just like muslims that God is one that is why christianity is considered a monotheistic religion; however we believe that he manifest himself in 3 distinct ways and that is where christians and muslims differ), but they do NOT worship 3 Gods because the Bible Says that God is ONE!

    2)Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. (Christians are not allowed to commit any form of sex outside of marriage between one man and one woman period or point blank! we do not believe in dating , but we will court with the intent of marriage "engagement")

    3)In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. (yes! Christian woman MUST be covered)

    4)But every woman who has her head uncovered while praying or prophesying disgraces her head, for she is one and the same as the woman whose head is shaved. 6For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head. (And to the surprise of most of my muslim friends and family....hijaab is practiced in some churches or the wearing of veil particularly in the apostolic and catholic traditions).It is funny because when my muslim friends come to church with me they are so shocked lol..they are like where did these people come from lol.

    But why am I telling you this if you are muslim: because many muslim men marry woman who come from a Christian Family, but who are not truly christian , if this is the case....she will be open to ISLAM. However, a true Christian woman who is practicing will not marry outside of her religion because the word of God is in her heart and it is not recommended. They love God and live strict lives within their community. I hear all the time , how a christian has converted to islam, but we have to ask ourselves , are they really christians are did the just grow up in a christian family with little faith in Gods words. I hoped this really helped the muslim community understand modern christianity a bit better. God Bless you Brother.

    • My beloved Sister, may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace,,,

      In fact, I couldn't believe that the verses you quoted were from the Bible, because they really sounded to me like, they were verses from the Quran. This made me to realize the wisdom behind why God permitted marriage between Muslim men and Christian women; because they (both) believe in One God.

      For this reason, I am intending to start reading the Bible and the Quran altogether, as I think it would be very interesting to discover the common beliefs among the two religions.

      Please see what I found in the Quran that look similar to the verses you quoted

      1) Hear Oh Israel the Lord your God is ONE! (we believe just like Muslims that God is one that is why Christianity is considered a monotheistic religion; however we believe that he manifest himself in 3 distinct ways and that is where Christians and Muslims differ), but they do NOT worship 3 Gods because the Bible Says that God is ONE!

      "The Angels said, “O Mary, God gives you good news of a Word from Him. His name is the Messiah, Jesus, son of Mary, well-esteemed in this world and the next, and one of the nearest. He will speak to the people from the crib, and in adulthood, and will be one of the righteous.”

      She said, “My Lord, how can I have a child, when no man has touched me?” He said, “It will be so. God creates whatever He wills. To have anything done, He only says to it, ‘Be,’ and it is.” And He will teach him the Scripture and wisdom, and the Torah and the Gospel. (And make him) a messenger to the Children of Israel (and he shall say to them): “I have come to you with a sign from your Lord. I make for you out of clay the figure of a bird; then I breathe into it, and it becomes a bird by God’s leave. And I heal the blind and the leprous, and I revive the dead, by God’s leave. And I inform you concerning what you eat, and what you store in your homes. In that is a sign for you, if you are believers. And verifying what lies before me of the Torah, and to make lawful for you some of what was forbidden to you. I have come to you with a sign from your Lord; so fear God, and obey me. God is my Lord and your Lord, so worship Him. That is a straight path.” (Quran 3: 45-51)

      "We (God) gave Moses the Scripture, and sent a succession of messengers after him. And We gave Jesus son of Mary the clear proofs, and We supported him with the Holy Spirit. Is it that whenever a messenger comes to you with anything your souls do not desire, you grew arrogant, calling some impostors, and killing others?" (Quran 2: 87)

      "And (on judgement day) God will say, “O Jesus son of Mary, did you say to the people, `Take me and my mother as gods rather than God?'“ He will say, “Glory be to You! It is not for me to say what I have no right to. Had I said it, You would have known it. You know what is in my soul, and I do not know what is in your soul. You are the Knower of the hidden.

      I only told them what You commanded me: that you shall worship God, my Lord and your Lord. And I was a witness over them while I was among them; but when You took me to Yourself, you became the Watcher over them—You are Witness over everything."
      (Quran 4: 116-117)

      "And when Jesus son of Mary said, “O Children of Israel, I am God’s Messenger to you, confirming what preceded me of the Torah, and announcing good news of a messenger who will come after me, whose name is Ahmad (Mohammed).” But when he (Mohammed/Ahmed came and) showed them the miracles, they said, “This is obvious sorcery.” (Quran 61: 6)

      2)Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. (Christians are not allowed to commit any form of sex outside of marriage between one man and one woman period or point blank! we do not believe in dating , but we will court with the intent of marriage "engagement")

      "We (God) have written in the Psalms, after the Reminder, that the earth (the kingdom of God) will be inherited by My righteous servants. Indeed, in this is a message for people who worship. We did not send you (O' Mohammed) except as mercy to mankind. Say, “It is revealed to me that your God is One God. Are you going to submit?” (Quran 21: 105-108)

      3)In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works. (yes! Christian woman MUST be covered)

      4)But every woman who has her head uncovered while praying or prophesying disgraces her head, for she is one and the same as the woman whose head is shaved. 6For if a woman does not cover her head, let her also have her hair cut off; but if it is disgraceful for a woman to have her hair cut off or her head shaved, let her cover her head. (And to the surprise of most of my muslim friends and family....hijaab is practiced in some churches or the wearing of veil particularly in the apostolic and catholic traditions).It is funny because when my muslim friends come to church with me they are so shocked lol..they are like where did these people come from lol.

      "O Prophet (Mohammed)! Tell your wives, and your daughters, and the women of the believers, to lengthen their garments. That is more proper, so they will be recognized and not harassed. God is Forgiving and Merciful." (Quran 33: 59)

      "And tell the believing women to restrain their looks, and to guard their privates, and not display their beauty except what is apparent thereof, and to draw their coverings over their breasts, and not expose their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, what their right hands possess, their male attendants who have no sexual desires, or children who are not yet aware of the nakedness of women. And they should not strike their feet to draw attention to their hidden beauty. And repent to God, all of you believers, so that you may succeed." (Quran 24: 31)

      Sister, I think if you agree to this, we could increase in knowledge by sharing some information about our religions on this forum (if permitted by the respected Editors), as I am sure there could be others too, whom might be interested in joining us.

      I also, just finished watching these interesting videos on yourtube. You may watch them too, and then let me know what you think ok.

      Muslim | Ex-Roman Catholic Priest- A Journey Of Conversion To Islam
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nHBY2nGxJS8

      British Catholic Priest Converted To ISLAM
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pn0iPlWQNlI

      How Ex-Preacher Yusuf Estes Came To Islam (Full Story)
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H69MCV8Qp6A

      A priest converted to Islam, why?
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoPohWxAE2A

      An ex-priest who converts to Islam.
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJ6BBlG63Dc

      Thank you very much for your kind time. In fact, your comment is extremely full of respect and kindness, and plus it contains the type of love that brethren have for one another...May God bless you, dear Sister.

    • Dear Christian Girl,

      Thanks for your input. Yes, your post makes sense. From what I understand, there are a lot of similarities between the Muslim Faith and Christian Faith. It seems though that in today's world that many Christians read less of the Bible and agree more with what is said in Churches.

      I would like to humbly ask you to search Dr. Zakir Naik and Christianity and listen to his lectures with an open heart and hear. He has given many talks on religions of the world and I feel that you would find it very interesting and you may find out why so many Christians, as you said, [reverted] to Islam.

      I also wanted to add that Muslims are followers of Jesus (Peace be upon him). Muslims believe that Jesus (pbuh) was one of Allah's prophets and that his birth was a miracle. Just as Adam (pbuh) had no father, Jesus (pbuh) had no father. Allah could make that a possibility because of course, He is Allah.

      Peace be with you...

  5. Thank you Saba and Issah for your comments!

    I cannot take upon myself glory, these teachings are not my own , but are from God almighty. All praise and Glory be to Him and Him alone!

    To both Saba and Issah, I have taken your references very seriously and I have listened to the youtube videos that you have posted. Thank you for them. Just to reinterate I am very familiar with Dr. Zair Naik as well as other scholars such as Dr. Ahmed Deedat, Shabir Ally etc. I love the debates because they are a platform by which I enhance my knowlege of the Gospel as well as of the Quran. To my brother Issah, I have listened to the youtube videos and thank you for sharing them. They were touching videos...catholisicm is a bit different from christianity, but I understand the message that you are trying to convey concerning the mercy and grace of your God Allah so thank you .

    I would like to say however it is important to note, that although, I love listening to the two sides debate, often these individuals have a bit of a bias because their goal is normally to proclaim islam (spread it). If I were to study Islam for example I would not go to my christian church pastor. I would talk to an Imam or a sheikh because although my pastor may know alot about ISLAM it is a different experience than if he has been a DEVOUT MUSLIM all of his life. with that being said Dr. Deedat and Dr. Naik are very intelligent sources, however their knowlege of Christianity is quite limited, If you are to know about Christianity (not catholic or mormonism) it is best to adhere to Christian pastors and apologists such as Sam Shamoun, David woods, T.d Jakes, Paula white, Bishop Noel jones, john Frances etc.

    In terms of the original poster who had concerns about marrying a christian. If you have any doubts about modesty and if this is truly practiced within the church you can go to youtube and type in :

    Gateway College of Evangelism- I trust you

    Orphans of God- by IBC Indiana Bible college

    Broken/ Dont pass me by-Indiana Bible college

    I would like to reinterate that I do not agree with their Doctrine or the principles of This College, but I gave you these references because you can see how modern day christian women dress.

    Things to look for: The woman are covered from the neck to the navel. They must also wear long sleeves. They must also be covered from the navel passed the knees. No makeup , no jewelery..none! They are also not permitted to wear pants, it is believed that pants sometimes reveal too much of a womans shape...anyways ......Have at it...and let me know what you think...God Bless!

    • Shalom Aleichem Dear Sister,

      It's so nice to hear from you. I searched for the pastors you posted and I listened to some of their lessons and debates. It was very interesting, and I will do more later God willing.

      It's funny that you say to me "your God Allah", as if we have two different Gods in existence - One for the Muslims and the other One for Christians!-lol. We Muslims believe it's the same God (despite our differences regarding the message of Jesus). In the Quran, we have been taught that the Lord of Abraham, Jacob, Isaac, Moses, Jesus, Muhammed is "ONLY ONE GOD", and we have been commanded to submit to Him alone, and follow all the messengers with no distinction between any of them them.

      The Almighty God says:

      "Or were you witnesses when death approached Jacob, and he said to his sons, “What will you worship after Me?” They said, “We will worship your God, and the God of your fathers, Abraham, Ishmael, and Isaac; One God; and to Him we submit.” (Quran 2: 133)

      "Say, “We believe in God; and in what was revealed to us; and in what was revealed to Abraham, and Ishmael, and Isaac, and Jacob, and the Patriarchs; and in what was given to Moses and Jesus; and in what was given to the prophets—from their Lord. We make no distinction between any of them, and to Him we surrender.” (Quran 2: 136)

      Anyway, I have noticed that you mentioned this in your previous post "however we believe that He (God) manifest himself in 3 distinct ways". Would you mind explaining how God manifests in 3 distinct ways?

      I watched this interesting video, and I think you may enjoy watching it too.

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TEMrS9sg9TM&list=PLE58D82847973E8CC

      Thank you Sister, and May The Almighty God bless you and shower you with peace and mercy.

      • Thank you Issah for the reference it is helpful. I asked some islamic questions a couple of days ago, but for some reason they did not go through ( I am on moderated status). Sorry I didnt answer your question sooner. Have a Good day.

  6. ASSALAMALAIKUM-
    Thanks for your input. Yes, your post makes sense. From what I understand, there are a lot of similarities between the Muslim Faith and Christian Faith......
    SORRY TO SAY THE 1ST AND FOREMOST ROOT OF BELIEF IS UNITY OF GOD[FOR WHICH TASK 124,000 PROPHETS AND ANBIYAS WERE SENT] AND THE WORST AND MOST BLASPHEMIOUS ACT A MAN CAN DO TOWARDS ALLAH IS ASCRIBE A PARTNER IN HIS DOMINION AND GODHEAD [TRINITY]
    THIS IS THE REPLY FROM ALLAH FOR ONE WHO CALLS HIMSELF A CHRISTIAN FOR HIS BELIEF IN TRINITY-AND IT IS NOT A JOKE-
    They say: "(Allah) Most Gracious has begotten a son!"
    [89] Indeed ye have put forth a thing most monstrous!
    [90] As if the skies are ready to burst, the earth to split asunder, and the mountains to fall down in utter ruin.
    [91] That they should invoke a son for (Allah) Most Gracious.
    [92] For it is not consonant with the majesty of (Allah) Most Gracious that He should beget a son
    [93] Not one of the beings in the heavens and the earth but must come to (Allah) Most Gracious as a servant. Quran 19.88..93 ( Surat Maryam , verses 88 .. 93)
    They say: "Allah hath begotten a son": Glory be to Him, nay, to Him belongs all that is in the heavens and on earth: everything renders worship to Him. Quran 2.116 ( Surat albakarah , verse 116)
    They say, "Allah hath begotten a son!" Glory be to Him! He is Self-Sufficient! His are all things in the heavens and on earth! No warrant have ye for this! Say ye about Allah what ye know not? Quran 10.68 ( Surat Yunus , verse 68)
    What they say is nothing but falsehood !
    Further, that He may warn those (also) who say, "Allah hath begotten a son":[5] No knowledge have they of such a thing, nor had their fathers. It is a grievous thing that issues from their mouths as a saying: What they say is nothing but falsehood! Quran 18.4,5 ( Surat Al-Kahf , verses 4,5)
    To Him is due the primal origin of the heavens and the earth: how can He have a son when He hath no consort? He created all things, and He hath full knowledge of all things.Quran 6.101 ( Surat Al-Anam , Verse 101)
    It is not befitting to (the majesty of) Allah that He should beget a son. Glory be to Him! when He determines a matter, He only says to it, "Be," and it is. Quran 19.35( Surat Maryam , verse 35)

    • Assalam alaikum Br.,

      Yes, there are similarities between Islam, Christianity and Judaism. I didn't say they were the same, but that there are some things that are in common--so please understand what I was trying to say rather than twist it into something else.

      I will suggest that you also listen to Dr. Zakir Naik. He does a very good job explaining simiilarities between these three religions (and even with other religions). There is no point in me trying to type what he says in his videos.

      • ASSALAMALAIKUM-
        I AM SORRY IF I HAVE DONE ANYTHING WRONG-BUT ITS NOT WRONG TO SAY THAT ABOVE THE SIMILARITIES I JUST MENTIONED THE BELIEF COMES FIRST AND TAWHEED COMES 1ST AND WHEN A PERSON IS CURSED SO STRONGLY BY ALLAH FOR HIS/HER BELIEF THEN WHERE IS THE QUESTION OF FORGIVENESS AND SALVATION FOR THAT TYPE OF BELIEVER-

        I HAVE SEEN READ AND SPREAD THE LITERATURE OF THE MASTER[AHMED DEEDAT]
        OF ZAKIR NAYAK IN THE YEARS 80'S AND TODAY ALSO I SEND THE LINKS OF -
        IS THE BIBLE GODS WORD
        WHAT IS HIS NAME
        CHRIST IN ISLAM
        WHO MOVED THE STONE AND ALL TO PRIESTS AND PASTORS AND WE HAVE LONG DEBATES ON COMPARATIVE RELIGIONS ISLAM AND CHRISTIANITY-
        REGARDS-
        ALI YOUSUFF

      • Wa Alaikum Salam Sister Saba,

        I hope you would be around during our nice and peaceful discussion with our dear Sister (christian girl), God willing!!! Our intention won't be to covert anyone to any religion, but to benefit from one another.

        The Almighty God says:

        "Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good advice, and debate with them in the most dignified manner. Your Lord is aware of those who stray from His path, and He is aware of those who are guided."
        (Quran 16: 125)

        • Assalam alaikum Br. Yousuf,

          Thanks for the clairification.

          Br. Issah,

          I am a little confused, to be honest, about what you mean? I just posted this comment to Br. Yousuff because I don't see anything wrong in mentioning similarities. Often non-Muslims do not know even what Muslims believe. I have met many Christians who are shocked when I tell them that we believe in Jesus (pbuh) - so I suppose that it was my intention to let Christian Girl know of a good resource--much much better than myself.

          When we, people of different faith, share information about our Faith, I am not sure it is possible to not intend on hoping that they will convert because what then is the purpose in sharing information?

          • Wa Alaikum Salaam Sister Saba,

            Even though you misunderstood me, but I wasn't referring to your post, as I found your post very useful and well written, and I think you know much about the similarities. This is why I think we could benefit from you too...Though, I posted it before seeing the last comment by Br. Yousuff, as I thought the discussion was about going off-topic.

            Of course, every religion hopes that others convert to it. But what I meant is that we are not intending to achieve that at the end of our discussion. We only hope that someday the information we shared may be beneficial (as this is honestly helping me to explore new things about other people's faith, and I hope it's the same for the sister as well). Converting someone is not our duty, but the duty of Almighty God. "And our only duty is clear communication." (Quran 36: 17)

          • JazakAllah for the clarification. Yes, I agree with you that is neither our duty nor is it in our control who believes and who does not.

            I merely wanted to point out a source that I find beneficial personally.

  7. Shalom Aleichem Dear Sister,

    I am glad to read from you again.

    In fact, there are a lot of things we could discuss in what you wrote, but we can do it step by step, God willing. But before my question, the following is our belief regarding the concept of God.

    The corporeal substances (like human beings) and the non-corporeal (like spirit beings) are creations of the Almighty God. He the Almighty is the Only Real existence who stands on His own without the support of anything or any being. He does not need to manifest in a creation to be in existence, but the spirit of anger needs to manifest in a living being to be in existence - without the living being (the hated person, and the offended person) there is no anger, but without the creation there would still be God in existence. He exalted, is the First with no limit, and the Last with no end, and the Outer by His signs and the Inner by His knowledge, which is nearer to any man than his jugular vein, and He has knowledge of all things.

    God himself cannot manifest in His creations (just as the cartoonist cannot manifest in His drawings), but He creates signs to alert His creations of His existence. The creation of the heavens and earths, the humans (Adam and his children), the trees, the holy messengers and prophets (…Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Mohammed), the holy books (…Torah, Gospel, Psalms, Quran) etc are all creations among His signs, that indicate His existence – The divine self (by its reality) cannot be in those creations, but the creations can lead to the knowledge of His existence.

    The spirit of life/breath is not God neither is it one of His attributes, but it is a creation among His creations, which He breaths into His creations. He breathed it into Adam and Jesus and into all the children of Adam. However, the creation of Adam and Jesus were exceptional – meaning, everyone had a mother and father, but Adam had no father nor mother, and Jesus had only a mother with no father.

    He the Almighty says, “Your Lord said to the angels, “I am creating a human being from clay, from molded mud. When I have formed him, and breathed into him of My spirit, fall down prostrating before him.” (Quran 15: 28-29)

    “Then the LORD God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.” (Genesis 2:7)

    And He the Almighty says again, “The likeness of Jesus in God’s sight is that of Adam: He created him from dust, then said to him, “Be,” and he was. The truth is from your Lord, so do not be of those who doubt." (Quran 3: 59-60)

    Now my question to you, my dear Sister. Do you believe that God revealed Himself in a form of flesh and was called Jesus? If yes, then it means we cannot separate Jesus from the divinity (or from saying He is God Himself), since if you revealed yourself in different forms (by dressing in different ways and in different occasions, or by changing anything of your nature), it won’t mean that you are not the same “Christian girl-lol”, right? So is that your belief Sister?

    Thank you Sister, and may the Almighty God bless you Sister and anoint you with the truth of His message.

    • "...the holy books (…Torah, Gospel, Psalms, Quran)"

      I just noticed that I mistakenly have said the above statement, which could be understood differently from the point I was trying to make. I categorized the divine books as creations of Almighty Allah (subhanAllah), but they are not creations, but real words of Almighty Allah. Both His words and creations are part of His signs, and all His signs in general testify His existence the Exalted.. However, just as His creations are not allowed to be worshiped, His words are not allowed to be worshiped as well, except that we worship Him with His words.

      Allah knows best.

  8. Good afternoon Brother Issah...

    • Christian girl, I removed your comment and I'm putting an end to this debate now because this website is not the right place for it. This is an advice website, designed to advise people who are experiencing family or relationship problems. It's not intended to be an interfaith discussion or debate forum.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • AsSalaamu Alaikum Brother Wael,

        I should have waited for your permission, but I took your silence as an approval, which was wrong. So I apologies for that.

        JazakAllahu Khair Brother.

  9. ASA

    If Brother Wael will permit it, I will say that even though something is not haram does not mean it is right. I tried before to state this, that indeed even if something like intermarriage is/weren't haram it might still be the wrong thing to do.

    In what I now am going to state, I will assume that the christian woman is a believing woman, not christian by name only.

    First of all there are many denominations of christians. A catholic lady will find immense problems in marrying a muslim man. First of all because she is bound to bring her children up as catholics. If she doesn't she will be regarded as having broken the covenant with her church and she will be denied the sacraments included the sacrament of the dying which means she won't go to heaven and won't be absolved from her sins. The same goes for not going to communion so she must be allowed to go to church to join in communion which includes drinking wine. Id she is hindered from doing so, she will also be banned from all sacraments. A catholic lady can never divorce. There is no such thing as divorce for a catholic. If her muslim husband marries a second wife the catholic woman's marriage will be tunred into a sacriledge for her, un anspeakable crime against god, but she still won't be able to divorce. And if her husband divorces her, or she leaves a polygamous or abusive husband, she will have to live her life in spiritual limbo, married but doomed to be alone for ever.
    A protestant woman can be divorced, but unlike the catholic woman who believes a muslim husband can go to heaven if he is a good man, a protestant woman must live with the knowledge that her husband will go to hell, and her children too if they are muslim, since protestants believe only christians can be saved and go to heaven.
    I don't know if Brother Wael will permit this post, since the last time I tried to bring up that it isn't always a thing being halal in itself that decides if it is the right thing to do.
    I believe intermarriages cause extreme pain for everybody and should not happen. And I believe a muslim should learn much about christianity before they advice intermarriage, because there is more to it than the muslim aspect. Simply saying the woman should learn about islam won't cut it, if she is a devout christian.

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