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Can Prophet Muhammad SAWS be my “Companion” in Jannah?

Seeing the Prophet in a Dream

Asalamu alikum!

First of all please do not consider me a pervert. I'm just a simple sister with no vulgar or hidden motives and trying to be honest with my feelings.

Secondly I know how none of us know that we may or may not make it to Jannah.

Third, if I do so, then can I and he be together? Please, it's nothing like the physical need (Nauzbillah!) as we won't have bodies or a lifestyle like this one there. It's only the spiritual connection which makes me yearn for him. I love and RESPECT him, and find him to be the most noble among all mankind so much so that no one can ever be like him (pbuh).

Fourthly, I totally consider myself so extremely unworthy! But still that does not stop me from desiring him to be mine in Jannah :'( I'm nothing whatsoever compared to Khadija, Aisha (r.a) and all his other wives! It's a craving still. But I know I would have to share him in Jannah which grieves me, but then we won't even have jealousy in there?!

So can you sisters or brothers please help me correct my view (I know feelings don't change like views, but if I get the right view, maybe my emotions i.e heart would also follow).  I don't intend any blasphemy in the least, and may Allah forgive me if I said anything wrong.


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    The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “I am to you like a father; I teach you.” [Abu Daawood - Al-Albaani graded it Hasan (good)]

    Al-Munaawi may Allaah have mercy upon him said in his commentary on this Hadeeth: “i.e. I am to you like a father in love and compassion and not in rank and superiority, and like a father in teaching you the matters that you must learn. As a father teaches moral conduct to his child, I am teaching you your rights and obligations.”

    Shaykh Ibn Taymiyyah may Allaah have mercy upon him said in the book entitled Minhaaj As-Sunnah An-Nabawiyyah: “Allaah says (what means): {The Prophet is more worthy of the believers than themselves, and his wives are [in the position of] their mothers.}[Quran 33:6] According to a recitation of Ubayy: {…and he is their father}.
    Also, the famous recitation indicates this meaning, as the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) were the mothers of the believers because he [the Prophet] was the father of the believers. Had he not been like a father of the believers, his wives would not have been like their mothers.”

  2. Wa Alaikum Salaam Warahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh Sister,

    To answer your question Sister, it is Yes, inshaAllah (and Allah knows best). When we are concious of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and follow His messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) as much as we can, then it means we truly love Allah and His beloved Messenger, and therefore we will be united with him in Jannah inshaAllah.

    Anas b. Malik reported that a person came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and said to Allah's Messenger:

    "When would be the Last Hour? Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: What preparation have you made for the Last Hour? He said: The love of Allah and of His Messenger (is my only preparation). Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: You would be along with one whom you love. Anas said: Nothing pleased us more after accepting Islam than the words of Allah's Apostle: You would be along with one whom you love. And Anas said. I love Allah and His Messenger and Abu Bakr and Umar, and I hope that I would be along with them although I have not acted like them."

    (Sahih Muslim)

    'Abdullah reported that a person came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and said to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ):

    "What is your opinion about the person who loves the people but his (acts or deeds are not identical to theirs)? Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: A person would be along with one whom he loves."

    (Sahih Muslim)

    Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in the following three ayats from the Holy Quran:

    "(O' Messenger of Allah) Say, "If you love Allah, then follow me, and Allah will love you, and will forgive you your sins." Allah is Forgiving and Merciful."

    (Quran 3: 31)

    "So be conscious of Allah as much as you can, and listen, and obey, and give for your own good. He who is protected from his stinginess-these are the prosperous."

    (Quran 64: 16)

    "Whoever obeys Allah and the Messenger-these are (united in Jannah) with those whom Allah has blessed-among the prophets, and the sincere, and the martyrs, and the upright. Excellent are those as companions. That is the grace from Allah. Allah suffices as Knower."

    (Quran 4: 69-70)

    May Allah unite us with the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) in Jannah. Ameen!!!





    • Salaams,

      I could be wrong, but I understood the poster meant be a companion in the sense of being one of the wives of Prophet Muhammad SAWS in Paradise. I am not sure that the answer to that would be an unequivocal 'yes', but if we are just talking about something along the lines of friendship or access to him, then what you said holds true.

      -Amy Editor

      • Oops! I misunderstood her. I agree with you Sister Amy. If she is married, then she will be with her husband in Jannah inshaAllah. However, the thing is not about what you desire now to have in Jannah, but it is about what you will desire when you finally reach Jannah, inshaAllah. Because everyone will get anything they desire in Jannah, but I do not think anyone will be programmed by Allah to desire someone else's spouse in Jannah.

        • The ability in us, to be jealous is a test in Dunya, and the ability in us, to desire what is not ours is also a test in Dunya, but there is no test in Jannah.

  3. Dear Editors ,

    I feel this post was unwanted ,non relevant to your site and highly objectionable .
    I request you to remove this post from this site .

    Allah hafiz

    • Brother Cool, the sister did not mean to be offensive. She asked the question sincerely, and she has been answered. As Abu Abdul Bari and others pointed out, she can aspire to be near to the Prophet (s) as a follower and a member of his Ummah; however, not as a wife.

      Wael Editor

      • how are you brother wael, good to see you became editor at last 🙂 ,, well its indeed a good sign that sister is thinking about hereafter and yearn for jannah , but remember we will do have bodies not just souls a body which be in mid 30 s and everyone will be of same age, we wont have to answer call of nature, and ur digestion will take place by a blurb which smells like perfume and we could satisfy our desires too but without any discharge etcc

        inline to being a wife , why to even think of that !?? this is wha makes a women weak because they think everything from a emotional perspective .if you have a pious husband then he will be your husband in jannah and vice versa.

        • @Aalim,

          this is wha makes a women weak because they think everything from a emotional perspective

          Her desire for the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), was because of his noble personalities. Such personalities are what any woman needs in her life from a man, but how many of men follow the sunnah to attain such noble personalities? So we should not blame the sister here, but blame the men! Shame on men!!!

  4. Assalam Aleykoum W.r W.b,

    MashaAllah, you have a very beautiful aspiration for the hereafter. May Allah SWT make your heart content in your goals InshaAllah. I dont know the Madhab behind your question but I can add the following hadith to your hopes InshaAllah.

    A Companion of the Prophet Muhammad asked him to be one of his Companions in Paradise. He (bpuh) replied:

    "Help me to help you by prostrating often, for Allah will raise you by one degree for every prostration that you make for Him."

    (Forgive me for not citing the above hadith as I couldn't get the citation for it). And Allah SWT knows best.


      A Companion of the Prophet Muhammad asked him to be one of his Companions in Paradise. He (bpuh) replied:
      “Help me to help you by prostrating often, for Allah will raise you by one degree for every prostration that you make for Him.”NOT APPLICABLE TO THE VERSION OF THIS GIRL-

      • Assalam Aleykoum Bother Ali Yousuff,

        I believe it is very much applicable. Like I said, I do not know the Madhab behind her question and cannot apply something that I am not 100% sure of. I do know and agree with brother Abu Abdul Bari's input.

        And since the OP Sister can not aspire to be one of the wives of Rasulullah SAW, she can atleast make dua and pray to be among the close companions of the Prophet SAW InshaAllah.

        Optimism is the way to go and Hope is a cure 🙂


        • assaklamalaikm

          Fourthly, I totally consider myself so extremely unworthy! But still that does not stop me from desiring him to be mine in Jannah :

  5. Assalamu'alaikum,

    Sister, the wives of Allah;s Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam were Chosen by Allah and he was asked not to marry anymore women after his last wife, and his wives were forbidden from marrying anyone after him and Allah called them the mothers of the believers.

    Allah Said in Surah Ahzaab, Aayah 52:

    لَّا يَحِلُّ لَكَ النِّسَاءُ مِن بَعْدُ وَلَا أَن تَبَدَّلَ بِهِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكَ حُسْنُهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا مَلَكَتْ يَمِينُكَ ۗ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ رَّقِيبًا
    Not lawful to you, [O Muhammad], are [any additional] women after [this], nor [is it] for you to exchange them for [other] wives, even if their beauty were to please you, except what your right hand possesses. And ever is Allah , over all things, an Observer.

    And in the next Aayah, He Said:

    يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَدْخُلُوا بُيُوتَ النَّبِيِّ إِلَّا أَن يُؤْذَنَ لَكُمْ إِلَىٰ طَعَامٍ غَيْرَ نَاظِرِينَ إِنَاهُ وَلَٰكِنْ إِذَا دُعِيتُمْ فَادْخُلُوا فَإِذَا طَعِمْتُمْ فَانتَشِرُوا وَلَا مُسْتَأْنِسِينَ لِحَدِيثٍ ۚ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكُمْ كَانَ يُؤْذِي النَّبِيَّ فَيَسْتَحْيِي مِنكُمْ ۖ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَسْتَحْيِي مِنَ الْحَقِّ ۚ وَإِذَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعًا فَاسْأَلُوهُنَّ مِن وَرَاءِ حِجَابٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ أَطْهَرُ لِقُلُوبِكُمْ وَقُلُوبِهِنَّ ۚ وَمَا كَانَ لَكُمْ أَن تُؤْذُوا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَلَا أَن تَنكِحُوا أَزْوَاجَهُ مِن بَعْدِهِ أَبَدًا ۚ إِنَّ ذَٰلِكُمْ كَانَ عِندَ اللَّهِ عَظِيمًا
    O you who have believed, do not enter the houses of the Prophet except when you are permitted for a meal, without awaiting its readiness. But when you are invited, then enter; and when you have eaten, disperse without seeking to remain for conversation. Indeed, that [behavior] was troubling the Prophet, and he is shy of [dismissing] you. But Allah is not shy of the truth. And when you ask [his wives] for something, ask them from behind a partition. That is purer for your hearts and their hearts. And it is not [conceivable or lawful] for you to harm the Messenger of Allah or to marry his wives after him, ever. Indeed, that would be in the sight of Allah an enormity.

    The desire you are having is a whispering of the Shaitan who wants to divert your attention. Seeking the companionship of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam is alright, but not desiring to be his wife.

    According to a hadith in Sahih Muslim, Rabi`ah bin Ka`b Al-Aslami Radiyallahu Anh (a servant of the Messenger of Allah and also one of the people of As-Suffah) said: I used to spend my night in the company of Messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and used to put up water for his ablutions. One day he said to me, “Ask something of me.” I said: “I request for your companionship in Jannah.” He inquired, “Is there anything else?” I said, “That is all.” He said, “Then help me in your request by multiplying your prostrations.”

    So, I advise you the same; help yourself by increasing your prostrations, meaning - your prayers. You love the Prophet so much, and that is something required, but do not let Shaitaan deceive you in making ghuluww (exaggeration). Strive hard to follow the path he was upon, by following the Sahaabah Radiyallahu Anhum and if Allah Wills, you will meet him in Jannah. The joy of Jannah is not just that, it is much more...

    According to a hadith in Sahih Muslim, Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said:

    “When the inhabitants of Paradise enter Paradise, Allah will say to them, ‘Do you want Me to give you anything more?’ They will reply, ‘Have You not made our faces bright? Have You not brought us into Paradise and moved us from Hell?’ Allah will then remove the Veil and they will feel that they have not been awarded anything dearer to them than looking at their Lord.”

    Subhanallah! Imagine that time; work for that instead of aiming for what is not possible. According to the Sunnah, a woman will be with her last husband in Jannah, if he enters Jannah as well. Otherwise, she will have choice. Shaikh ibn Uthaimin Rahimahullah said:

    So if a woman is one of the people of Paradise and she did not get married, or if her husband is not one of the people of Paradise, when she enters Paradise there will be men who did not get married, and those men will have wives from among the hur al-‘iyn and wives from among the people of this world if they wish. Similarly with regard to the woman who did not have a husband, or who had a husband in this world but he did not enter Paradise with her, if she wants to get married then she will inevitably have what she desires, because of the general meaning of these verses.

    Wallahu A'lam; wasallallahu 'Alan Nabiyyi wa 'Ala Aalihi wa Ashaabih.

    Abu Abdul Bari Editor

    • Salam Brother,

      I was just confused with the verse you sited below

      Not lawful to you, [O Muhammad], are [any additional] women after [this], nor [is it] for you to exchange them for [other] wives, even if their beauty were to please you, except what your right hand possesses. And ever is Allah , over all things, an Observer.

      Sorry to ask, but I don't understand what this means exactly. Why would anyone especially our phrophet SAW the best if man want to "exchange his wife for another beautiful women" does that mean divorce. Why would anyone just divorce one wife to marry a beautiful women they happened to find?And replace her? Isn't this harsh on the women. Divorce for no good reason is hated by Allah.

      Please can you explain as I am misunderstanding this verse. Sorry.

      • Wa 'Alaikum Salaam Warahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh Sister Sumaira,

        InshaAllah, brother Abu Abdul Bari will give you a better answer, but I just wanted to share the following, and Allah knows best.

        "Beyond that (i.e. the current wives), no other women are permissible for you, nor can you exchange them for other wives (i.e. nor can you you marry other new women in case you divorce any of your current wives), even if you admire their beauty, except those you already have (i.e you can only return any of your divorced wives if you wish so, or stay with only those your right hand possess currently). God is Watchful over all things." (Quran 33: 52)

        When a man divorces ONE out of his FOUR wives, he is allowed to marry a new woman and make her the FOURTH wife (this is the meaning of "to exchange"), but if the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) divorced ONE out of his NINE wives, he is not allowed to marry a new woman and make her the NINTH wife, except to return the old divorced wife or stay with his current wives...

        Some scholars (may Allah be pleased with them) said part of the wisdom behind the ruling was in the favour of the prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), as there were many women who would like to be married to him, and he was very shy to say "NO" to anyone, so Allah spoke for him in a way of exaggeration (i.e. he would not be allowed to marry any new woman even if he wishes to do so, let alone a new woman giving herself to him in marriage)...However, there are other hadiths by 'Aisha and Ummu Salamah (may Allah be pleased with them both), that this ruling was abolished later on, however, he still did not marry any new woman.

        Allah knows best.

      • Wa Alaikum as Salam sister,

        There is nothing confusing in this aayah. Allah Is Allah and can command anyone to do whatever He Wills. He Is The Lord of all that exists and can command anyone including the most beloved of all creation. Afterall, he was human and a servant of Allah.The aayah has various interpretations.

        Imam ibn Kathir says that the prohibition to marry  anymore women was lifted before his death, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. He narrates from various scholars, different interpretations. One of them is that the number of wives was to be limited to 9. He also says that this aayah was revealed as a reward for the wives of Rasoolullah ﷺ and as a reward for their choice to be with him.

        It has also been reported that this aayah was revealed when he ﷺ had divorced Hafsah Radiyallahu Anha, and then took her back. So, many believe that this aayah was revealed to rebuke the act (of divorce) of Rasoolullah ﷺ, and Allah Knows Best.

        Like I said, Allah Is Allah; He Can Rebuke anyone and no one can stop Him. There is hikmah (wisdom) in every aayah of the Quran.

        We should also bear in mind that there was or is none like Rasoolullah ﷺ, he is the best of creation and best in his character,  as The Lord Himself Said:

        وَإِنَّكَ لَعَلَىٰ خُلُقٍ عَظِيمٍ
        And  indeed,  you  are  of  a  great  moral  character.

        May He Unite us with him in Jannah.

        Abu Abdul Bari Editor

        • Thank you Brother Issah and Brother Abu Abdul Bari for providing further clarification. I know Allah is Allah and command whatever he wills but we are also human and sometimes need a bit of help in understanding. There is no confusion in the Ayat. The fault is mine in understanding. I only meant that it just kind of read as giving men the green light to divorce for no reason, when I have always read that divorce is among the hated things of the permissible. Being a women I am naturally scared I wouldn't want to think that if I married a pius man that he can just drop me (divorce) whenever he feels like it, for no reason at all, and ruin my life.

          Thank you for the information.

          • I can understand what you mean Sister Sumaira. The ayats of the Holy Quran have great meanings, but with little words. However, if you study the life of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), you won't ever find anywhere he divorced any of his wives for no reason, neither will you find that he was exchanging his wives for beautiful women. He married each wife for a purpose (not for self-interest)- many of them were widows and divorcee. So one needs to understand the Quranic eloquence and put things into context, to comprehend the exaggeration in the Ayah and its purpose...

            No pious man with taqwa and iman in his heart, who will ever divorce his wife for no reason, let alone the Holy Prophet himself- the leader and the BEST of all pious men (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).

            Therefore my sister, learn about your deen very well, and read much about the life of the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), read much about the life of his Sahabah (May Allah be pleased with them), and about the life of righteous men and women in Islam- this will help you to identify true pious men, whenever you see one of them inshaAllah.

          • Assalam alaikum Sr. Sumaira,

            I think it is also important to note that the Prophet being the beloved Messenger of Allah swt is being addressed by Allah swt. In the last part, it says, that Allah is, over all things, an Observer. In a way, this can be taken as Allah watches all that you do--directed to the Prophet, who is guaranteed Jannah--so what then for us, who are no where near the status of a Muslim that we should be? It is a warning for all mankind, that whatever you do, and wherever you take advantage unjustly, then beware because it is not going unnoticed. I hope that if I am wrong, that I am corrected.

            Regardless of how a rule in Islam makes us feel (which can be part of our trials), we do have to realize that anyone who unjustly takes advantage of Shariah, will undoubtedly have to face Allah swt-- so inn shaa Allah, we know we are following the path of the one true religion.

          • MashaAllah sister Saba! you understand the wisdom perfectly. Usually a direct warning to the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), does not mean that he did or was going to do something wrong, but it is an indirect warning and a lesson to all mankind. For example, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says that, had the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) added some words of his own in the Holy Quran, He would have punished him. However, we can't say that based on the Ayah, the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) was planning to change something from the Holy Quran. It is just a lesson for mankind to know that the Holy Quran is solely from Allah, and that it contains the words of Allah alone- It contains no human words.

            43. It (i.e. the Holy Quran) is a revelation from the Lord of the Worlds.

            44. Had he (i.e. Muhammed) falsely attributed some statements to Us.

            45. We would have seized him by the right arm.

            46. Then slashed his lifeline.

            47. And none of you could have restrained Us from him.

            48. Surely, it is a message for the righteous.

            49. And We know that some of you will reject it.

            50. And it is surely a source of grief for the unbelievers.

            51. Yet it is the absolute truth.

            52. So glorify the name of your Lord, the Magnificent.

            (Quran 69: 43-52)

  6. Assalam alaikum Sister,

    I agree with Br. Abu Abdul Bari's comment above that this is merely a whisper from shaitaan. The shayateen will stop at nothing to play with your mind and sometimes with the most innocent and good-intentioned thoughts. I believe you when you say that you don't have any hidden motives.

    I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to meet Hazrat Muhammad SAWS in Jannah--for to get to Jannah, first you have to desire it. I think it is every Muslims aspiration to firstly be in the presence of Allah swt and secondly His beloved Prophet Muhammad. Whenever you get thoughts more than this, then start to do Dhikr. Dhikr is not only beneficial but it is a tool to be used against the shayateen since you replace their whispers with another thought by making your mind busy.

    May all Muslims reunite in Jannah one day, Ameen!

  7. Have we not been promised to receive everything and anything we wish for if we are fortunate enough to reach Jannah?

  8. Mashallah sister this shows that you have so much love for the prophet and u wish to be in his company in jannat,when u pray namaz then do dua to allah to giv u a place in paradose and be in the company of the prophet-i read in a hadeeth that on earth the person u most admire and follow then u will be with him in the after life,so whenever u do dua read darood shareef and send to prophet inshallah,may allah bless us all to be with our beloved prophet ameen

  9. Assalamu alaykyum

    subhan ALlah

    i had similar thoughts, since i was almost 40 when i entered islam by Allah's Mercy

    and i've never been married either

    ill as i am, i don't Count on getting married

    so i was thinking, if i enter Jannah by Allah's Mercy, will i be married there...? since i Heard a sister saying noone will be single in Jannah. Also i know sisters will be married to their latest husband from dunya (who made it to Jannah, of course).

    Then i thought, since i don't know any text of male "hor al Ain" in Jannah, perhaps i have right to make duaa to Allah to marry me to His last Messenger, Sall Allahu 'alayhi we sellem, i Jannah?

    yes, Allah Says that no more wifes as allowed to him, 'alayhissalatu wassalam - but it means no more wifes in DUNYA. Not in Akhirah. Or...? Will men not be married to many hor al Ain, and what about the best of the best of the mankind ever?

    Do you have any EVIDENCE that it is forbidden to make such a dua?

    Don't destroy and broke broken hearts of muslimahs, if you fear Allah. Her hurt and her tears might weigh Heavy on the day of reconing. Stay humble and, like Ibraheem alayhissalam, mild and empathetic. May Allah make me humble, mild, merciful and empathetic towards all muslims, especially weak, broken ones, amiin.

    And as Always - Allah Knows Best.

    Wa alaykumu salam.

    • Asalamu alikum wr wb!
      Dear sister, and all those respected brothers and sisters, who were mild, empathetic towards me and gave me so generously their precious time and support!
      [First, admins I wish that my this thread be removed or deleted all together as I myself don't know whether this is right or wrong and I fear Allah and want to have not even the slightest of chances to earn His displeasure so want to be extra careful and vigilant. Many brothers have so harshly spoken against it and considered it a blasphemy (!) and who knows they might even be right?! Allah knows best!]

      Dear sister, this topic extends so vast that its important to deal it with many aspects and from different angles and being a human i might not be able to but will try to do as best as i can i.A!

      Dear sister, may Allah give u Shifa (cure, health) from the illness (be it physical or emotional) that you're suffering from. There is a supplication I guess in Quran from a Prophet of Allah which goes like
      "O Allah! I've acquired a disease and You are ARHAMAR Rahimeen! "

      Sister,what I could guess is that maybe we Muslims are under going some kind of hopelessness that we will ever now find a husband who is so like Rasool Allah (s.a.w). I mean I got these thoughts maybe because I had too high a criteria and wanted myself to be "saved" in any way possible and saw husband as a means to that end that he will guide me in my religion, motivate me to be more Allah centered etc. You thought of it because you too are depressed and hopeless in finding one. So its mainly our psychology and sadness that drove us to it. Allah knows best.

      Sister, what I want to share with you is that I've realized one thing. It's that WE ALL SHOULD BE ALLAH CENTERED! We should be slaves to Him ONLY and not our "nafs".
      This "nafs" is such a big evil thing! It wants us to have the best in everything no matter at what cost! enjoy luxuries, our life, our family, our faculties, our children, our comfort, and everything which comes under "OURS". Pious shaykhs of islam say that one should acquire "Zuhad". Now that is hard to explain as it includes purifying ones heart (leaving or having no value or consideration in ones sight, or shun it)from everything, yes, EVERYTHING except ALLAH!
      Rasool Allah (s.a.w) said that none of you will attain piety (?) untill Allah and me are more beloved to him than his parents, children or his own life!
      We truly don't love him and Allah that much in truth yet. There are helpful signs which tell us that we haven't attained that piety, that purification, that Zuhad yet. Questions like are we able to leave our parents and kids,our husbands/wives or wealth? Are we able to give up the comfort and blessings and wealth? What truly is our object of love in our heart? What are the things we absolutely can not live without? (food, clothing, home, basic necessities?) In times of grief do we turn to our parents or near ones for emotional support ot Allah becomes sufficient for us? All these and more questions will help one realize where he/she stands.

      Wanting Rasool Allah in Jannah is also i think somewhat coming out of that "nafs". I mean why do we truly want him (s.a.w) there? So that "WE" get the best of all husbands? we desire him (s.a.w) truly or we would leave him (s.a.w) if we get a complete prototype or like of him (s.a.w) there created by Allah specially for us, who would also have not many wives and be just ours? When I came to this i realized that I'm not truly being HONEST in here or with him (s.a.w) in wanting him (s.a.w). You may truly want him (s.a.w) and not feel a single tinge of jealously with all the other wives of him (s.a.w). But many of the muslimahs you can say are not TRUE to Allah! They don't have ALLAH as the center of their love. that is why you find some muslimahs taking oath from their husbands that in Jannah they will not "Hoors" or second wife! (I read it on this forum). Also that when the Hoors are mentioned in Quran and we take them as females for our husbands then our blood boils up etc and we start complaining to Allah in our hearts! WHAT DOES IT TELL US ABOUT OURSELVES? this that O ALLAH! we are not true to You! We (the caring loving muslimahs) have fallen into a very brand new cunning clever trap of Satan and that is we have become so HUSBAND CENTERED SO CHILDREN CENTERED! We want our husband to be just ours! Even in Jannah. We try so many ways to please him. We think about him all the time "loving them as we should have loved Allah!" Quran The time we should have utilized in remembering and praising Allah some of us (devoted) wives utilize in thinking about the husband, or any non-mahram we wrongfully like. (See how a muslimah would spend all night chatting with ghair-mahram but see how vigilant and interested you'll find her but if she has to wake up for fajr or tahajud, she is all sleepy UNINTERESTED!) How untrue are we?!
      (Brothers are also guilty of being not true but my advices are for muslimahs mainly).

      Sister there is nothing bad in desiring a husband or family etc. but all i'm asking myself and you is that what do we DESIRE most? If i desire husband more and ENJOY more being with him than my Allah then truly i'm unjust! I'm not true to Allah then. some scholars of islam would go even as far as saying that if youdesire jannah, and worship Allah only for Jannah and not out of love for Him, then you are not true to him!
      Sister I would relate to you of a great beautiful soul, "Rabiya Basri" who is known as sufi scholar by people. She was never married sister! (Maybe because her circumstances didn't allow or go that way as she was kidnapped and enslaved when she was just a child.) Her master treated her so badly. Wicked people also must have tried to lay hands on her. But look what love she acquired through all the trials of life she faced! Sister,SHE ACQUIRED ALLAH! nothing can be greater than this. She used to say "If it was in my power i would burn Jannah and pour water on Hell and extinguish it so that people love Allah only for HIS sake"!
      countless examples sister, of such beautiful, PURE, peaceful hearts( "qalb ul saleem" and "nafs e mutmaeenah" in Quran).
      Another Sufi scholar of 20th century "Fatia al Yashrutiyy" never even felt the need to marry! Even today some muslimah speakers got divorce but it didn't affect them at all. why because they have their gaze fixed on HIS FACE, seeking HIM ever and ever. Do you know in Jannah there are many ranks. (I don't remember exactly but something like) one level where it would be one husband one wife. next where there are Hoors. etc etc. But the highest level is one where people would be in PRESENCE OF ALLAH! He will show them His FACE, an achievement highest indeed! look Allah telling us Himself that no Hoors, no pleaures or anything would be equal to it! and some very fortunate people achieve this state (able to get His love, get HIM even in this dunya).
      Sis, in the eyes of Allah, and the Prophets and the righteous people, this dunya has no value. The 70 or 80 years compared to that eternal life is like zero, nothing, worthless like a hair on dead sheep. The trials in this world we face shouldn't demotivate you sister. this illness and you can say loneliness are your MEANS of finding Him and be united with HIM forever! I've also been much lonely in my life and it is at that time i realized how alone we all are and how the relations of this world are so tempoarary. I wanted someone who would always be there for me! And in every way, i found it to be Allah only. He says that he will show us the reality of every relation and then will ask us "O child of Adam! Now tell me who is there for u except ME".

      I hope this serves as some comfort for u. Sis also never be hopeless of Allah as its a sin. He says He will be as His slave thinks Him to be. So don't loose hope of finding a companion in this life also. And your prayer of wanting to have Rasool Allah in Jannah as a husband can be fullfilled but inquire from yourself why exactly you want him (s.a.w), or are you honest with him (s.a.w) and wy can't you just be content with having him (s.a.w) as a Rasool and you his (s.a.w) Ummati? And if Allah give you someone just like him (s.a.w) with just you as his wife then would you still want Rasool Allah (s.a.w)? And in all cases, try to EMPTY your heart of this world. You'll see how absolutely difficult it is how big our "nafs" is.
      Remember me in your prayers.

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  10. I completely understand what this sister is trying to say I would love to be the jannati wife of imam hussain a.s

  11. Assalamualaikum

    I'm Anees Shaikh working at international Call center i have been relationship with a girl more then 6 years her mother not accepting for nikkah bcoz i dont have own house and both family had a big and bad argument on this now we are not in contact pls give me a suggestion wazifa to solve my problems

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