Can we talk online until we get married?
Asalam o Alaikum..
I really need help. I am a 20 year old girl and in love with a guy who is 22 years old. We both are studying and so cannot be married right now but in shaa Allah he will send the proposal after 2 years. I know he is sincere because he had sent my parents the proposal a year before but my parents rejected so now we planned that after studying he will send again and try his best.
The problem now is that he says we cannot talk to each other because it's forbidden in Islam. We had been wrong before as we use to have inappropriate chats before and all but now we don't as he and I, both are trying to be good muslims.
My question is can we just chat on internet? We won't exchage pictures or talk inappropriate stuff which crosses the limits and we won't even meet each other before Nikkah. Our intentions are pure. I just want to keep in touch so that the gap between us doesn't get deep and that if my parents make me marry someone I will inform him about it.
I have read a lot where some say it is okay as intentions are pure and some say no because shaitan can deviate you. We have promised not to meet or exchange pictures or anything, so then how can this be still haram?
He says if there is any fatwah or anything then he will see to it but till then he won't talk. Please help me if there is any fatwah or anything regarding this.
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Hello,
I am a guy and was in a similar position to you and in a way still am even after my nikah, because i am waiting for my wife visa. Here is what i went through, I met my wife through relatives and we started chatting etc for few months, to get to know each other. During that time i realized that we would continue to commit sins if we chat like this before nikah. So i decided to marry her quickly and i ended up doing so.
Even though both of you guys intentions maybe pure, but intimate chats are bound to happen. This i can say from my personal experience, i am unable to control my urges, once i chat with my wife no matter how hard i try.
I think your parents should let you guys do nikah and after couple years when you finish university, afterwards do ruksati. Rather than have you guys in a haram relationship.
Sister ,
No .You can't chat even if intentions are good ..It is not allowed in Islam .
If he can't marry you at this time there is no way you can chat with him .Just forget him and ignore .