Child born from married ex-girlfriend
One of my friend living in France had a problem. He had a sexual relationship with a girl and she ended up pregnant.
The girl was cheating and she has some other lover too. She started sex with other man and did not tell either that she was pregnant from my friend in the last week of their relationship.
The other man was not muslim he converted to islam and married the girl on both ways (nikah & legal in court too). But when the delivery occur it was 8 months after her new relationship that ended in marriage.
She told my friend she was pregnant from him only after birth but did not tell him at break up time, my friend wanted, now the new husband also know that he is not father because doctors told delievery was normal (9 months) and he is sure when he started sex with that girl.
So now my friend is in trouble and feeling himself a lot guilty that due to him a haram baby came into world and gone into hands of newly convert (according to him the girl was not practicing good, drinking alcohol, wearing short skirts and no fasting in Ramadan etc should he go to court to get his baby?
What will be the status of the baby now according to Islam? Is the bringing up of the baby the responsibility of the mother only cause now she is married to another man? And she does not want father to even see/meet the baby? Should he leave that baby to the mother and new (step) father and think that the brought up (according to religion etc) & education is his responsibility?
~ Sikander_cgn
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HI alsalam mu alaikum.Your friend had done a serious mistake and must ask Allahs forgiveness and not to go back again.according to Islam i thick the child must stay with his real father and not her or her new husband as they had sex .he did the sex and impregnant her so all the responsibility of the child is on him and not on his ex-girl husband because a father is the guidance of his children.and may Allah forgive all of our sins.and make the child a good person.
And he must go to the court and get the baby because it his responsibility and his right.
Salam
You must advice your friend to sit down with both his ex and her husband and clear up this mess, by means of talking. You must also tell him that what he did was wrong and should therefore seek forgiveness from Allah.
I don't know where people get thier information from but rest assured that the baby is NOT is haram. the baby is innocent and plays no part in the sin of his/her parents. The baby is a Muslim.
Your freind needs to be wise about what he does next, there is no need to take a new born from its mother, that is cruel and counterproductive. What he should do is be amicable with his ex for the sake of the baby. He should request that he be given time to spend with the baby as it his right. If his ex does not comply only then should he take matters to court. His ex is married and if her husband is allowing her to keep the baby with her then your friend should let the baby be bought up by his ex and her husband providing they have mended thier ways but he must always remain present in the babies life, provide for him/her fiancially.
First and foremost...this child is not haram even though he came about from a sexual encounter. Secondly, your friend must have a DNA test performed. Sounds as though this woman was very busy sleeping around and that child could be anyone's. A DNA test will show definitively if this man is the father or not. He should not delay and get one as soon as possible. He may find out that he in fact is not the father at all.