I committed zinaa, now he’s threatening to suicide
I am guilty. I committed zinaa to satisfy a boy.
Now, he doesn't love his wife and I wanted to repent and I don't want to repeat the same mistake, I ask forgiveness in front of Allah, but the boy tells he will commit suicide.
Please help me and this boy how to overcome from this problem. I can't live with this feeling of guilty.
I try my best in seeking forgiveness from Allah but due to this boy I could not overcome this problem.
- ambreen
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As salamu alaykum ambreen,
Why is he threatening you to kill himself? I suppose it is because he wants you back to him, you should be clear to him that you want to close your past and begin your life following the straight Path and if he loves you as much he should do the same, insha´Allah.
He should apply his energy in improving himself as muslim and learn about his religion and about his duties as muslim man, if he listens to you talk to him.
If you want to be with him, do it in a halal way, he is a married man, he should repent for what he has done, ask for forgiveness, and if he doesn´t want to be with his wife, the first person that should know this is the wife, not you, and then act consequently, insha´Allah.
Don´t let him use you as a excuse not to act as a straight man, he is responsible for his own life, not you, he is responsible for his acts, not you, open his eyes if you can and be transparent to him about your feelings and situation, this way he will have to do what it is the straight behaviour for a muslim man to do, insha´Allah.
Keep striving, ambreen.
Barak Allah Feekum
María
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salam ambreen
You commited zina you say to satisfy a boy. But nowhere in your statment do you say you love him or want to be with him in terms of marriage.
Take your self as far away as possible from him (to save your iman sister) your sin is one of the greatest a Muslim can commit. Keep away from him and through email or texts/letter let him know that you need space to sort yourself out. Advice him to work on his marriage and if its unworkable then tell him to deal wth it with his wife- does he want a divorce etc??
Only when you've sorted yourself out and his marriage has gone one way or another should you decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
But please sister, stay away from him and repent- Allah forgives all sins. Don't repeat your sin.
Perhaps through your strenght and conviction of faith, the young man may also find the strenght to deal with his issues.
keep praying-
take care sister.
Sister
it seems like this boy is threatening you would suicide to keep you in his life. If he doesn't love his wife then why doesn't he tell his wife what happened and end his relationship with her. Let him sort this problem and decide what he wants.
Ssiter you need to repent for your sin then only you can get over this guilt.
Rumaysa
do you want him?
youre lucky he is willing to be with you; some guys get it off the girl and then leave them. but it's clear you want nothing to do with him repent move on make du'a for him explain it's a sin to commit suicide and inshallah he';;ll get over you and explain he has others to consider
and it's unfair on his wife if he doesn't love her he should have the guts to tell her and sort it so she can give her deserving love to someone more deserving