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Confused and struggling to overcome my negative thoughts

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Aslaamualikum brothers/sisters

I have some strange questions in my mind. Please don't judge me by asking these questions.

First of all I always think why Allah punish those humans who are not muslim or very religous??? The reason I have this question in my mind because as everyone knows everything is in Allah's hand. Good, bad, big, small, humans or animals - everything Allah has control over. This means he can give hediyath to those people whom are going on wrong path or not obeying Allah. If it's a muslim they know what's good and what's bad but still they choose the wrong path and prefer this world over akhira then this is a good reason of punishing them. But I think it's not fair with those people who are born non muslims and they have no clue of why we are born and even some have hard and full of sadness lives and they will be punished after dying as well? Isn't this unfair?? We are all humans and all want to be happy. Why doesn't Allah give everyone hehiyath and aware them of why we are born, akhira, heaven and hell. After that if they chose the wrong path then it's their fault of being punished.

Even going on right or wrong path of a human is Allah's wish and Allah's doing, so then why do we get punished soo badly?? There are some good muslims and non muslims people in this world then why they get punished just because Allah didn't show them the right path?? Allah can make every single person in this world a good muslim then why does he choose only some people and give them hedayath and then punish others..???

Secondly how can we be so sure that heaven and hell do exist and after we die we will start a new life in akhira either good life or bad life??? How can we know this will definitely happen after dying??? I have sacrificed most of my happiness and tried to control my naf only to make Allah happy and live peacefully and happily in hereafter. But sometimes I just get these thoughts that what if things don't turn out to be how we all muslims expect to happen???

Please please brothers and sisters once again don't judge me for what I'm asking. I actually believe in Allah, love Allah and fear of him a lot. I do my best to make him happy and worship him properly but still I don't know why I have these questions in my mind. Maybe it's shaitan playing with my mind but mentally it's disturbing me a lot and not letting me to concentrate on my life. That's why I want to clear all these thoughts of my mind. Please help me.. Try to answer my questions as much as possible it's very important for me. I try to ignore these thoughts and questions in my mind and be positive but then after a day or so everything comes back to my mind and gives me headaches somtimes. I would really appreciate if someone advice and give me information about this.

Jazakallahukhair...

broken_hearted


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  1. Sister salam, You have alot of questions.These are questions i asked when i became Muslim 12 yrs ago. I am married to a Alima who Studied 7 yrs in England and thats what i needed . you can say my medicine cabinet.The questions you pose are common questions that the weak person asks. When his foundation is not solid or correct shaitan ....master of disguise knows are weakness and so he makes effort 24 /7 this his way of dawah ...always inviting people to false hood deception everyway possible to take the son of Adam to Hell.Remember Allah asks the chief of jinns Iblis to bow to Adam but he refused and so cast down from here until a appointed time. And so he asks for one request which is granted .I will take all them to Hell with me. Allah says only my believing slaves i will protect...My sisters somany stories of prophet convincing there kings master fathers mothers sons to except Allah as the one God dont worship these idols.Look in the story of Noah and wife sons didnt except the invitation. The story of moses.Allah is telling us look i give you free will unlike Angels.You have choices. We are the last ummah to come after prophet Muhammad s.a.w no more prophets to come... so we are blessed to be muslims Now it is are responsibility and duty to call and bring people back to the correct belief so they can call others.The problem with you and many young people is that Iman is very weak . As i will say the basic remedy for cure of heart. 5 time salah on time and if you cand go to local mosque were the sisters are there to learn and meet up.Daily read from Hadiths .morning and evening quran .3 tasbih 100× durood astagfir 3rd kalimah . DawAh to anyone. We also must utilize are time and day .If we go to work we watch are eyes and what we say. we should observe kindness and to be patient.We should not spend on eating haram or watching anything that might effect our hearts.Until you can do this you will live a very happy prosporous life.Remember when Allah is happy and like this person he tells angel Gabriel .And angel Gabriel makes an annoucement to other angels and so on until the people the earth becomes at your service.so my advice strive and be number 1 .and dont think too much.Allah knows what you dont know!

  2. Slm broken heart. May Allah forgives us always Amin. My answer to your question is that once you are a Muslim. That's you believe in the Oneness of Allah SWT and believe in the Angels, prophets, last day , etc. Then you are a pure muslim. So pls be careful with the bad thoughts of shaitan. He is instigating you to his way that's why he is giving you negative thoughts on all you mentioned. Allah SWT tries every human being either Christian,Muslim or pegan to test him. But mostly we Muslim are tested to see our imaan to him. Because if you are not tested you should check yourself. And Allah SWT said he will test us either with our wealth our loved ones or our imaan to see how we will react to him. So be alert . Focus on your religion and believe in Allah and the last day because is real. Read the Quran and you see it in many surahs. And pray very well to distance yourself from shaitanic thoughts. There are many duaas in the Quran that you can distance yourself from shaitan and his attributes. E.g Ayatul Kursi.
    May Allah bless and guide us Amin.

    • Stop blaming the shaitan if someone is using their brain. You all just love evading the most logical questions.

  3. Sister ,

    Below video might help you to get answer .

    Dr. Zakir Naik - How will Allah judge a person born in a non-muslim Family ?

  4. Dear broken

    Let us consider the example of a farmer. He ploughs the land, plants seed of random variety then each seed grow according to their potential. Some turn out to be bad and gets spoiled and wasted.The farmer does not care about collecting bad seeds or confining them to a place for purification.

    "First of all I always think why Allah punish those humans who are not muslim or very religous??? "

    Now Allah(Farmer) has created the universe and dispersed planets(farmlands) and suns of each possible type across every part of the universe according to some laws. Cosmologists are trying to discover such laws through astronomical observations. One of the planets i.e.our earth got suitable conditions for supporting bio-life and eventually we were born or sent.

    We are the seeds that were planted through Allah on the farmhouse(earth). Some of us will turn out to be bad and some will turn out to be good and fruitful one. I believe that Allah is more merciful than a farmer, who(farmer) neglects bad seeds and focuses on good ones only.

    Instead Allah has created a place Hell for collecting such souls(bad seeds) for punishment(or purification), only Allah knows best) .

    The final plan for souls collected in Hell is only known to Allah only but their fate in hell is not the fault of Allah, just like the farmer cannot be blamed for trying to plant bad seeds along with good ones.

    I hope that you understand my opinion.

    Take Care

  5. But I think it's not fair with those people who are born non muslims and they have no clue of why we are born and even some have hard and full of sadness lives and they will be punished after dying as well? Isn't this unfair??
    Ans: All are given signs, all see them every day. All know that they will die, they have no doubt about this. The rest is whether they choose to accept there is a God and to obey. God does not prevent them from doing good, they choose what to do themselves. It is not unfair, it's actually very easy, fear God and believe and God will grant you a garden with permanent happiness. To pass the test get more good deeds than bad ones, good ones are counted multiple times, bad ones are counted once. Avoid major sins and your minor sins will be forgiven so there go your minor ones too. You don't have to get an 'A' in this life, you can pass with a low grade. Lastly, don't judge others situation as good or bad. There are Evil people that are rich but they are rich so that they miss and regret what they lost in this life. There are good people that are going through severe poverty, but their patience during this time is rewarded with permanent ever lasting good.

    Even going on right or wrong path of a human is Allah's wish and Allah's doing, so then why do we get punished soo badly?? There are some good muslims and non muslims people in this world then why they get punished just because Allah didn't show them the right path?? Allah can make every single person in this world a good muslim then why does he choose only some people and give them hedayath and then punish others..???
    Ans: All have access to the Quran, the signs, everything. God goes out of his way to help people believe. Pharoah, as evil as he was, had every sign shown to him. And in his heart he realized that what he was shown was true, that God was real, but despite God showing everything to him he persecuted his people and wished to continue doing evil. He denied God after multiple signs and each time he would say he would believe, only to disbelieve after the calamity was removed. He chose evil, just as others choose evil because it gives immediate gain. They disregard permanent loss so they can get an easy gain now.

    Secondly how can we be so sure that heaven and hell do exist and after we die we will start a new life in akhira either good life or bad life??? How can we know this will definitely happen after dying??? I have sacrificed most of my happiness and tried to control my naf only to make Allah happy and live peacefully and happily in hereafter. But sometimes I just get these thoughts that what if things don't turn out to be how we all muslims expect to happen???

    Ans: Are you sure that you will die? Do you see life returning to plants every season even though before this they had been dead? So will you be brought back to life and you will be held to account in justice. Not just to bring you back, but to reward you or punish you. And if you didn't fear God and wronged more than the good you did, hell is permanent and they will ask you if you were warned before this. You were warned and there will be no escaping then. So, stay patient, do what you can do and try to improve, this life will end and it will go fast. You are not 4 years old anymore and as quickly as that has passed, soon you will be old or your time will have ended here.

  6. Dear Broken

    "Secondly how can we be so sure that heaven and hell do exist and after we die we will start a new life in akhira either good life or bad life?"

    The actual answer is no one was needed to be sure about heaven and hell or angels and jinns but we muslims are sure only because this information was delivered in a message through a person(Last Prophet(Peace be upon him)), whose truthfulness and honesty was even accepted by his enemies . So faith in heaven and hells along with angels and jinns is equivalent to faith in truthfulness and honesty of our last Prophet(Peace be upon him) .

    Now i shall discuss the latest philosophical thoughts about our existence and the universe.

    Before the beginning of 19th century, scientists and philosophers were convinced that the entire world can be explained including ourselves in terms of mechanical laws and the building blocks of this world(i.e. atoms and human mind can also be explained by mechanical laws. Energy was found to be indestructible(i.e it can be converted from one form to another, like a part of energy due to the motion of a brick falling on street is partially converted to sound and vibration)).

    But the observation of atomic phenomena like analysis of emission of light from solids and gases revealed that different sets of laws are operated . A chair is solid and is different and distinct from a wave generated in water or air(sound waves). But on atomic level, a same thing like electron sometimes behaves like a chair(i.e solid) and sometimes behaves like a wave. And most weirdly properties of one electron(after being destroyed) can be transferred instantaneously to other electron(after being interacting with the first one) separated by distance as large as you wish.

    So scientists(at the least physicists) are humbled in their study of nature and are more open to beliefs in unseen. Psychologists and biologists are still firm in the old mechanical model of evolution theory and human consciousness.

    See the videos at
    http://www.metacafe.com/videos_about/dr_quantum/

    Take Care

  7. He is not a scholor. this is a fact!

  8. Thanks evryone for ur kind and helpfull replies. I appreciate everyone's replies they all helped me alot. Im glad i asked these quistions on this site.
    Jazakallahukhair

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