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Confused and very depressed

hijabi sister

I'm a 29 year old woman I am very depressed in my life. I had a 2nd divorce a month back and right now I am in iddah. I've had a very hard life and now after this 2nd divorce I'm all broken, hating my life so much. I am so confused that how will I face all the family? Although that my family and relatives know that I'm not in the wrong, that I did my best to keep the marriage.

I'm so broken and my mind does not work at all. It feels that I'm so unlucky. Why it happens with me? I just cry and cry and get depressed all the time. Please guide me with duas to make myself stable mentally.


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  1. Oh Allah! Nothing is easy except what You have made easy. If You wish, You can make the difficult easy:
    اللّهُـمَّ لا سَـهْلَ إِلاّ ما جَعَلـتَهُ سَهـلاً، وَأَنْتَ تَجْـعَلُ الْحَـزَنَ إِذا شِـئْتَ سَهـْلاً

    You said you have tried everything to save your marriage but it didn't work out, see it as you did your part and Allah saw that. You divorcing is the qadr of Allah, so it is only for your goodness:

    How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all his affairs are good, and this applies to no one except the believer. If something good happens to him, he gives thanks, and that is good for him, and it something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience, and that is good for him.” (Muslim)

    Put all your trust in Allah and make lots of dua for Allah to ease your diffculties. Keep your self busy with activities, join the gym, go to quran classses, memorise quran etc, keep your mind preoccupied with beneficial things. And sometimes reminding yourself that many sisters divorce can help as then u won't feel alone and isolated going through this.

  2. بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيم
    In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

    The above words is enough for us to understand every thing from him is mercy for us.

    Your current situation is also a mercy from Allah.He knows your heart and the pain you are going through.
    We should trust the destiny for what has happened.As your brother in islam , I pray for your happiness and success in this life and hereafter.We all feel down during difficulties but alhamdulillah there are many muslim brothers and sister who are praying for the fellow muslims to Allah to make their difficulty into ease.

    Dont worry.The situation will move on.Allah has kept the rewards for you in akhirah.

    Ask Allah for better spouse with the above dua posted by another sister.Its a wonderful dua.Your tahjud prayers are going to change your life in a beatiful way.

    Allah has promised in Quran about peopl who adopt taqwa.So make your things easy .
    Leave it to Allah.Our Creator is responsible for all our affairs.

    Live in peace and this is the time you make your bonding with Allah very strong.

    Learn islam with your fellow sisters in islam and teach others .

    I really can feel your status in front of Allah.

    May Allah help you.. Aameen

  3. Salam Sister,

    First of all my condolence, I would say have faith in Allah. Time is best remedy and it will heal your wounds, you didn't mention a lot about your personal life, and causes of your divorces. But life goes on, i think it would be good for you to see a psychologist or psychiatrist where you can discuss in detail your personal issues. They might give you some medicines to help you relax, i think it is common that you are having these negative emotions after a divorce. I think everyone does, after a tragic experience in life.

    I pray that you recover fast and have a healthy life. God bless you!

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