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Indian Muslim male confused whether to marry Christian female

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Me and the indian muslim boy was in love for with each other for three years now. I read about islam and i study about it. I am willing to be a converted muslim and follow the ways of islam. He is scared with his family as they said that they dont accept me. Now he will be fixing the arrange marriage 3 months from now in india. I want to marry him but his family opposes as i am not coming from their caste and i am not a muslim.

The indian muslim boy is confuse what he will do as his father is also very sick and was asking him to marry the choice of their family.

Please advise as I dont know what to do to convince his family to accept me.

- micham


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  1. micham, if you accept Islam it must be sincerely, from your heart, because you believe it to be the truth. If you do this then Allah will be with you, and He will guide you and help you find the way forward in any difficulty.

    I cannot promise that the boy's family will accept you if you convert to Islam. I don't know them. It's possible they will still reject you for whatever reason, I don't know.

    If you do accept Islam voluntarily, with faith and sincerity, then the next step would be to meet his family and see if they accept you. If they do not accept you it might still be possible for the boy to marry you. That would be up to him. If he is unable or unwilling to marry you, then it would be time to end this relationship and move on with your life. You should not remain in this relationship indefinitely without marriage. That is an invitation to sin and corruption.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Hello Micham,

    I agree with Wael. Here are a couple of questions you need to ask yourself. What are your reasons for wanting to accept Islam as your religion? Are you doing this because you want to marry this boy? Is this conversion sincere? Would you have considered Islam had you not fallen in love with this boy? What will you do if the family does not accept you? Will you still accept Islam as your religion.

    As Wael said, if you accept Islam as your religion it must be from the heart. You must truly believe in Allah with sincerity and love. You never come to Islam because someone tells you that you have to.

    If you are sincere, then I would say try to meet the parents. Let them know that not only are you sincere in your conversion to Islam but you are also sincere when you say you love their son and you want to marry him. If they still reject your offer then you should move on. Continue to learn as much as you can about Islam. Ask Allah for guidance for finding a husband.

    I hope this has helped you.

    Abdul Wali
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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