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What is the best way to ask for the girl’s consent?

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Marriage Proposal

Assalam O Alaikum!

I want to ask that if somebody likes someone and feels that she is his perfect choice for marriage partner then how should he ask her? Please suggest a modest way in which both can maintain respect of each other...

Wassalam,


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  1. Assalamualaikum,

    Brother, the most modest way is that you do not ask her directly. That is to say that you ask her through her mahram or in presence of her mahram. That ensures that your interactions do not cross the limits set in the sharee'ah.

    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Walaikumussalam,

      But what if the parents and relatives are not in the same city? That boy and girl used to see each other in some lectures and classes organized by Muslim Community there. Sometimes they get chance to talk with each other. He approached some elder married brothers in the community to talk on his behalf but they suggested that its better that he talk directly with her first and take some initiative. So what should do in this situation?

      • You may then approach the community organizing the classes to talk to her, or find out about her parents and approach them in their city and put your proposal forward. Or have your sister or other Mahram woman to get to know her and talk to her, if possible. There maybe alternative ways, but surely, direct proposal may not be an ideal option.

        But if nothing is possible, you may in sha Allah, in presence of someone among her Mahrams (if available) or the elders, talk to her, without letting the discussion go forward to a relationship without marriage.

        Muhammad Waseem
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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