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Difficulties with my family

Family shattered by husband's addiction

Hi. I'm 18 and I've had really bad relationship with my family since I can remember. I've been mean and rude to them. I haven't really disobeyed them but I haven't kept my mouth shut either.   And to be honest they're not the most caring and supporting people either. They've always thought of me as a burden. They keep controlling my life and don't let me do anything  or make my own decisions  or even listen to me because  whatever I say always contradicts their theories. They don't even let me go out. That's why I try not to make friends anymore.

They hurt me both physically and mentally and I'm in deep depression  because  of them and it's having a really bad impact on my studies and health.  I really hate coming back home from school. They just have really taken control over life.  I have recently  really started blaming them for everything too. I try to keep my mouth shut but it's really hard........................ they're my parents and I want our relationship to improve and strengthen instead of tearing apart. But honestly it's getting worse and out of control.

I know family and relations are very important  in Islam so I was wondering if there is a dua for forgiveness of such sins (disobeying parents and stuff) and a dua for strengthening family bonds? or something that will make my parents love me. I really need help!

lai_96


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  1. salam my sister we are three pepole in the house me my husband and my dughter my husband had a big box wiche he been puting mony in today he open the box and mony was missing he is balaming on me and my dughter we did not took the mony no body relly come to our house can u please tell us whats gouing on

    • Perhaps your daughter took it and is not telling you. Or a visitor or other family member stole it. Allah knows best.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. hi dont worry this is very little thing of life its same for me i am 19 years old and still facing such things , you seems me to be a patient kf depression so goto doctor and take medicians and just make your mind cool and as much as you can because happiness is not the ending of problems its how we deal with them and always remember that storms never remain forever so try to cool down.
    try to do things which your parents like the most and lnce you will do those things they will love you and its just few years for you they are with you so try to spend this time lovely.
    after you will get married and you will also enjoy the life
    May Allah help you

  3. Dua dua dua and more duas!
    Make dua to Allah for you and for your family.
    Allah tests us all and maybe your family is a test for you.
    We all have issues with family sometimes, some are worse than others.
    As for your depression, again... dua! And quran is a healer.
    Don't go on medication for depression that is only a temporary fix you'll be worse off with medication.
    Ask our creator to help you through your tests in life.

    • Everyone one of us not happy we just pretend to be happy dunya is very difficult place to be happy I believe.
      May Allah shower his blessing on you and make you rightous and strengthen
      Please make lot of dua to Allah InshaAllah you will be okay.

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