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He has given me four times divorce while pregnant, am I divorced?


My question is regarding divorce. I was given divorce consecutively two days while I was 3 months pregnant. One divorce  one day and second the next day.

My husband then took me back by starting sexual relation ship. While I was 8 months pregnant my husband and I had  urguments and he divorced me, one divorce one day and the second the next day. So far he divorced me 4 times during my pregnancy, my husband said that I can´t be divorced during pregnancy.

My concern is I have been given 4 times divorce on separate occasions if this divorce is valid can he take me back as a wife.

I am still living with him, I do not want to stay with him after my delivery.

Please explain if this divorce is irrevocable divorce?


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  1. Assalamu alaykum,

    Divorce must be announced once - then you have to keep the iddah period of three monthly cycles.
    he has to take you back in this time or announce a second divorce - you have to observe the iddah period of three monthly cycles.
    During this time he make take you back or announce a third divorce. Once he does so, you become unlawful for this man.

    You should make your husband aware of divorce guidelines. As per the BOOK of Allah, this one divorce today and another tomorrow is non existant and Allah clearly mentions in the Qur'an, not to make fun or jokes of the revelations of Allah by our behavior.

    228. Women who are divorced shall wait, keeping themselves apart, three (monthly) courses. And it is not lawful for them that they should conceal that which Allah hath created in their wombs if they are believers in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands would do better to take them back in that case if they desire reconciliation. And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness, and men are a degree above them. Allah is Mighty, Wise.
    229. Divorce must be pronounced twice and then (a woman) must be retained in honour or released in kindness. And it is not lawful for you that ye take from women aught of that which ye have given them; except (in the case) when both fear that they may not be able to keep within the limits (imposed by) Allah. And if ye fear that they may not be able to keep the limits of Allah, in that case it is no sin for either of them if the woman ransom herself. These are the limits (imposed by) Allah. Transgress them not. For whoso transgresseth Allah's limits: such are wrongdoers.
    230. And if he hath divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she hath wedded another husband. Then if he (the other husband) divorce her it is no sin for both of them that they come together again if they consider that they are able to observe the limits of Allah. These are the limits of Allah. He manifesteth them for people who have knowledge.
    231. When ye have divorced women, and they have reached their term, then retain them in kindness or release them in kindness. Retain them not to their hurt so that ye transgress (the limits). He who doeth that hath wronged his soul. Make not the revelations of Allah a laughing stock (by your behaviour), but remember Allah's grace upon you and that which He hath revealed unto you of the Scripture and of wisdom, whereby He doth exhort you. Observe your duty to Allah and know that Allah is Aware of all things.
    - Surah Baqarah.

    As per verse 228, if you found you are pregnant within the three monthly cycles following the first divorce, your husband better takes you back as his wife, by words or actions of love or any other good actions indicating that he takes you back as his wife. So if he did that within three monthly cycles of your first divorce, there is no problem.

    Then when things became normal and he gave you a divorce second time, then your period of "iddah" is until you deliver the child ( which makes it known for certain that the man is indeed the father of the child and no one puts any blame on the woman).

    If he takes you back during this period again, there is no problem.

    But after this, if he divorces you third time, then you are not lawful (halaal) for him anymore.

    Sister Z said rightly, you may consult a local Imam. We try to answer from what we see in your question, and due to our lack of understanding the sequence of events, we may give an incorrect answer in ignorance.

    So better is to verify whatever I said with the Book of Allah and a qualified Imam.

    As I said: Divorce once, then waiting for three monthly cycles - no second divorce till then. Then again the same and after the third divorce, you become unlawful for your husband.

    So one divorce one day and second another day is not as per the Book of Allah and rather it is going against the nature of the law and the wisdom with which the law of divorce and iddah has been given by Allah.

    Talk with a local imam and you may also write back here to us without any hesitation.

    Hope the advice helps and your question is answered.


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    Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to my bondmen, who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.- Surah 39, Az Zumar, verse 17-18.

  2. Dear Kainaat, Asalaamualaykum,

    I am sorry that your marriage is causing you so much grief. You asked that since your husband has verbally divorced you four times while pregnant, are you are divorced? I do not know the answer to this and will advise you to consult with a qualified Imam/Mufti.

    If you are still married, some important questions to ask are: Why is your husband toying with divorce and marriage? Can you think of what could be triggering such irrational behaviour from your husband? How is your relationship with your husband in other areas of life? Is marriage counselling an option before you decide on whether to end your marriage or not?

    SisterZ Editor

  3. My husband talked to the lawyer n she called me about divorce, but he did not tell me the talaq word. I begged him n agreed to his conditions n he stop the divorce process. R we ok to live together after that?

  4. My husbnd divorced me three times at a time I m pregnant can I go bak to him ?

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