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I was divorced but wish to give our relation another chance

Hello sweetheartI have recently gotten divorced. at the time i was sure i wanted to end my marraige but now after divorcing im having second thoughts. i love my husband and want to give things another chance. we have a son together and I want my baby to have his dad in his life.

but we had many communication issues while married and im torn between moving on and trying again. another problem is that my exs does not express anything towards me and ignores me. also my family would never agree to it if we were to get back together

-Dunya


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  1. Assalamu allaikum farukh
    you might have misread the sister's post, but
    There is no where in the post does she state
    She got a irrevocable divorce.
    To the o.p sister think about the reasons why
    It didn't work out the first time and pray salatul
    Istikhara insha'allah.

  2. ASSALAMALAIKUM-

    In my humble opinion, While your first paragraph talks about reconciling with your husband in a bid to avoid depriving your son of his father. In your second paragraph, you unequivocally know that he has little or no interest in you.

    DUNIYA
    PL TELL CLREARLY YOUT HUSBANDS WAY OF TALAQ WHICH HE PERFORMED EXACT EXPLANATION WILL HELP GIVE YOU THE CORRECT REPLY FROM QURAN AND HADEES ...
    THIS NOT DOES NOT APPLY -

    And if he has divorced her [for the third time], then she is not lawful to him afterward until [after] she marries a husband other than him. And if the latter husband divorces her [or dies], there is no blame upon the woman and her former husband for returning to each other if they think that they can keep [within] the limits of Allah . These are the limits of Allah , which He makes clear to a people who know (Surah Baqarah 2:230)
    IF HIS WAY OF TALAQ WAS NTO AS PER THE [ROCEURE-OF THIS VERSE
    COMMANDENTS IN QURAN ON TALAQ.......
    O PROPHET[SALALAHUALAIHIWASALAM]WHEN YOU DIVORCE YOUR WOMEN,DIVORCE THEM IN THEIR WAITING PERIOD,COMPUTE THE WAITING PERIOD ACCURATELY, DO NOT TURN THEM OUT OF THE HOUSES IN THEIR WAITING PERIOD,NOR SHOULD THEY GO AWAY FROM THE THEIR HOMES,UNLESS THEY HAVE COMMITTED ANY MANIFESTLY EVIL DEED,SUCH ARE THE BOUNDS SET BY ALLAH,ANY ONE TRANSGRESSES THESE BOUNDS SET BY ALLAH SHE COMMITS WRONG AGAINST HIMSELF,YOU DO NOT KNOW MAY BE ALLAH WILL CAUSE SOMETHING TO HAPPEN TO PAVE THE WAY FOR RE-COINSELATION,IF YOU HAVE TO DIVORCE YOUR WIVES YOU SHOULD DIVORCE THEM TILL THE WAITING PERIOD.SURAH TALAQ-65 [AL-QURAN]

    WHAT IS WAITING PERIOD-
    THE SYSTEM OF SHARIAH TALAQ IS NOT TO BE GIVEN [IN MENSTRUAL PERIOD DAYS]BUT AFTER THE MENSTRUAL PERIOD BEFORE HAVING SEX....
    1ST MONTH 1ST TALAQ……
    2ND MONTH 2ND TALAQ …...
    AND 3RD MONTH 3RD TALAQ TO BE GIVEN IN FRONT OF ARBITRATORS FROM BOTH FAMILIES,BY GIVING AWAY ALL THE JEWELS,CLOTHES ALL THAT WAS GIVEN BY THE GROOM AT THE TIME OF MARRIAGE AND GIFT HER AND RELEASE HER WITH GRACE AND KINDNESS…….
    IF THE HUSBAND PROCLAIMS THE 3RD TALAQ [IN THE ABOVE SHARIAH MANNER ]THEN THE WOMAN WILL BECOME HARAM FOR HIM THIS IS CALLED TALAQ-E SHARIATH……

    PL TELL CORRECTLY HOW HE STARTED HOW HE ENDED THE TALAQ FOR YOU-

    REGARDS

    ALI YOUSUFF

    • Ali Yousuff, you seem to have a very strange understanding of talaq that I have never seen before. What is this 1st month 1st talaq, 2nd month 2nd talaq, etc? That makes no sense. Quite simply, if the husband declares talaq, and the 'iddah passes with no reconciliation, they are divorced (with the ability to remarry if they choose). There is no need for a second declaration and third declaration.

      If they have been divorced three times, however, then the divorce is irrevocable.

      Futhermore, you have declared in other comments that talaq declared in anger does not count. This is incorrect. According to the majority of the scholars, a talaq declared in anger counts. After all, does anyone declare talaq in a state of happiness? The whole point of limiting divorce to three in Islam is to prevent the husband from using it as a tool of oppression against his wife by threatening her with talaq anytime he is angry.

      So if the person was angry in the ordinary way which most people become angry, whereby he retained his sanity and understood his actions, then the divorce is valid. See Islamqa.com Ruling on divorce at a moment of anger.

      The exception is the case of ighlaq, or extreme anger to the point where the person does not know what he is saying. In that case, he becomes like one who is temporarily insane and therefore not responsible for his actions. Talaq uttered in such a state would not be valid, according to the scholars.

      Furthermore, it is not necessary to have witnesses to the divorce. See IslamQA ruling, Divorce (talaaq) in the state of anger; and is it necessary to have witnesses to divorce?

      Lastly, please do not give people fatwas here and tell them you are divorced or you are not divorced. You were not there and you do not know what transpired, nor are you qualified to issue a fatwa. Restrain yourself to giving people the relevant information and letting them decide.

      Jazak Allah khayr, brother.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Yes I was also wondering on your new method of talaq ! O.o . On all your talaq posts, you gave a similar response and it seems as though you are so confident like its a 'fatwa'. Can you please give me some Islamic scholars name who have the same opinion as your 'talaq' method (one talaq one month etc)?

  3. You can do istikhaarah prayer. n ask ppl of wisdom....n make sure if u give...

    do this more inteligently see wht thin befre hands u have to do to make it work...

    n if u n him are able to becme.n lead this relationship om common understanding n vision tht may help ...

    gt ppl around u involved to take this frward if u do decide thts my view.

  4. Farrukh, divorce is only irrevocable if they have been divorced three times. There is no indication of that here. Please be careful that you are not giving out misleading information. Don't advise people if you do not have an understanding of basic fiqh on the issue in question.

    I have deleted your comment as there was nothing helpful in it for this questioner.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Assalamualaikum sister Dunya;

    It is good to know that you wish to reconcile. But it is important to know if your man feels the same. If yes, you SHOULD go ahead and remarry. Do not worry about your parents. Let him come to them and tell them he likes to take you back and take care of his kids.

    No parents like that their daughters stays home without a husband, except if it is not in her favor. They surely love you and would want to keep you away from any future grief of this nature. For this reason, they mau deny in the beginning, but they will eventually approve of it. You can renew your marriage then and start your life anew.

    Make sure both of you abstain from the factors that led to your divorce in the past, so that history does not repeat. I pray that Allah makes thus reunion filled with barakah and His Pleasure and guide you to what He Is Pleased with.

    Abu Abdul Bari
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  6. I have been leading a solitary life for the struggle of existence for last few months. I can't step forward due to my children's prosperous future. The truth what I believe that when mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual respect are broken then no definition of love can be existed. I look for a genuine dignified, educated and pretty woman who understands the meaning of relation. The relation from my sense doesn't only rely on sexuality, it is natural. No need to highlight it. Highlighting points are dedication, understanding, caring, educating, affectionate, above all, good human. No matter, widow, divorced, separated or single. If she non-Muslim then has to be converted in Islam. Priority places are Arabian countries or Europe or North America.

  7. I dont know what is the state of my so called marriage. My husband and I are always fighting and he keeps saying I will divorce you and I want separation. Then today he was so hurt by my crazy behavior and Allah knows how patient he has been with me, he said I give you 1 talaq then he said I will divorce you on paper and you will sign it, I will also divorce you orally.
    What is the state of this marriage, am I divorced or not? Please answer me, and pray for my husband, he is in a lot of pain.

  8. I have also said give me divorce and he said ok then later that night we went to the quadi office but he didnt talk about divorce. Then later I said I want divorce and he said prepare the divorce letter and call me. After this the aforementioned incident took place. I am not sure if I am still married and if he is my husband anymore. Please help

    • please answer this question and I am very scared about my state. All of these non sense happened yesterday. Does his word and my actions mean I have been divorced irrevocably? please answer me according to sunnah and Quran

      • Assalam'alaykum sis,

        To the best of my knowledge, a divorce will not take place if your husband utters it using a 'future tense' phrase like 'I will' etc but this sentence you wrote " he said I give you 1 talaq " seems valid to me. So from here, you are divorced once IN MY OPINION. Regarding your request for khul' and his acceptance when you said "I have also said give me divorce and he said ok", I'm not sure what's the status and intention of his 'ok', is it 'ok I will divorce you' or 'ok I divorce you' or etc, therefore, its uncertain.

        Your best course of action would be to visit an authentic Islamic scholar/Imam/mulla etc and explain to them your situation and follow their advise.

        I highly doubt that your divorce is irrevocable. Whatever it is and if you plan to reconcile, try to avoid the fights and arguements by doing much compromising and sacrifices. You seem to feel sorry for your husband etc and so try your best to make this marriage work and stop throwing around the word 'divorce' and tell your husband to stop playing with it. Make a commitment to never use that word. Subhan'Allah how many times you guys uttered that word ? Wallahu alam what is going on in your marriage.

        Again, never take our words as absolute truth, talk to an imam instead or ask a scholar from some authentic website.

      • If your husband uttered divorce, whether thrice or once, it is one divorce.

        Divorce out of extreme anger is not valid because a person may do what he is not aware of or even of he is aware, he may not be doing what he wants to. This is something Shaikh bin Baaz says (Rahimahullah).

        If one is not in EXTREME anger; his utterance is taken as valid and the divorce counts. When you talk about "extreme" I do not know if I have ever become EXTREMELY angry. And divorce is not something to be played with, it is serious.

        Allah Knows Best, but I think you have been divorced once and you can return to him if you both wish to reconcile.

        Abu Abdul Bari
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • Assalamu alaikum
          I am actually tensed and he is also very tensed. It is a complicated and crazy situation. I have a post on this website before our marriage, titled 'Marry without father's knowledge'. So, now we are married by family.
          I dont want to discuss what situation is now but he is a patient man and that day we were in a crazy fight where I kept saying I want divorce and he was denying and never intended to give divorce.He just said ok. However after long fighting and at one point he closed his eyes as his head felt heavy. Then we went to the office to get divorced but he denied. Later he said after I again I told him I want divorce, he said prepare the divorce letter and call me.
          Then later that night he called me in a state of anger and he was saying come out and I will do the divorce. Then he said I divorce you, 1 talaq. After that he stopped talking and then said I will divorce you orally and in writing.
          He was very angry and to me I think he didn't intend to actually divorce but just said it because he couldn't bear anymore.
          I know what happened is entirely my fault but I myself am in a very critical state of mind and really can't explain in words what is going on with me. I just want to know if we are still married or not. Jazakallu khair.

  9. assalamalaikum Author: علي بن عبد الله آل الشيخ
    you are so confident like its a 'fatwa'.
    ONE MONTH ONE TALAQ ETC-
    ANSWER-

    NOTE THIS IS NOT THE IDDAH[4-MONTHS 10 DAYS PERIOD] WHICH IS OBSERVED IN THE GIRLS HOUSE AFTER THE 3RD TALAQ IRREVOCABLE TALAQ-WITH SETTLEMENT BY THE ARBITRATORS.......

    THE WHOLE CYCLE OF THREE MONTHS REQUIRED FOR DIVORCE IS PERMITTED TWICE IN A LIFE-TIME:
    2:229 In a given couple's lifetime, a divorce is permissible twice. (The whole period of divorce i.e. three menstruations / three months). Then the divorced woman must be retained in honor or released in kindness.
    DIVORCED WOMEN SHALL WAIT CONCERNING THEMSELVES FOR THREE[3] MONTHLY PERIODS. Nor is it lawful for them to hide what Allah Hath created in their wombs, if they have faith in Allah and the Last Day. And their husbands have the better right to take them back in that period, if they wish for reconciliation. And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree (of advantage) over them. And Allah is Exalted in Power, Wise. [2:228]
    65:1 O Prophet! When you men intend to divorce women, make sure that the waiting period is observed. Keep precise account of this interim. Be mindful of Allah, your Lord. NEVER-EXPEL THEM FROM THEIR HOMES,NOR SHALL THEY THEMSELVES LEAVE THEIR HOMES-unless they commit open immorality. These are, then, the limits imposed by Allah. And whoever crosses Allah's limits, he verily hurts his own 'Self'. You know not that Allah may bring about thereafter a new situation (help create reconciliation).

    NOTE THIS ALSO-NEVER-EXPEL THEM FROM THEIR HOMES,NOR SHALL THEY THEMSELVES LEAVE THEIR HOMES-IS THE WAITING PERIOD MENTIONED IN QURAN

    AND I HAD TAKEN A GIRL TO A SALAFI IMAM OF MOSQUE WELL KNOWN IN CORRECT GUIDANCE ON TALAQ- HE WROTE IN THE PAPER THE QURAN VERSES AND ALSO EXPLAINED IN THAT IN WRITING WHICH WAS GIVEN TO THE BOYS MOTHER WHO TOOK BACK THE GIRL AS THIS PROVED THAT HER GRAND CHILDREN WERE NOT THE CHILDREN OF DIVORCED MOTHER BUT A LEGAL DAUGHTER IN LAW-

    SORRY TO SAY Author: علي بن عبد الله آل الشيخ‎ THE ROUTE WHICH YOU PEOPLE TAKE IS THE ROUTE OF FOLLOWERS OF TAQLEED AND OPINIONS OF SELF APPOINTED SCHOLARS WHO HAVE MADE A FUN OF ISLAM WITH THEIR WHIMS AND FANCIES [DEOBANDI TABLIGHI SUB CONTINENT SUFI SUNNIS ETC]

    BECAUSE THEY GIVE THEIR VERSION WITHOUT EVIDENCE FROM QURAN &HADEES ........................... AS THEY HAVE STOCK OF SOME GREAT -BUZURG PASSED BEFORE THEM THEY TAKE THEIR FATWA AS INDIANS TAKE THE SUPREME COURT ORDER AS REFERENCE FOR NEW CASES AND STRIKE THE JUDGEMENT WITH THAT POINTS-

    HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND THE CONSEQUENCES OF FOLLOWING THE ARTIFICIAL TYPE-ISLAMIC SCHOLARS MENTIONED ABOVE AND THE TRUE QURAN AND HADEES REFERENCE FOLLOWERS-
    REGARDS

    • Wa'alaykumsalam bro Ali Yousuff,

      I still don't understand your conclusion of 'one month one talaq, second month second talaq, third month third talaq' from where did you get this ?

      It seems you are a salafi, are you ? Not long ago, I was told by a mate of mine that there is a much recent movement called 'salafi', I really wasn't interested in researching about any NEW movement and so I just checked the net and found that the salafi movement you might be folowing was created on the late 19th century. Interesting. Talk about modern scholars.

      Anyways, yea I'm a muqallid (doing taqlid) of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, sahabas, tabi'een and taba al tabi'een. Not taqlid of some lastest scholars who might give opinions of whims and desires. Lastly, this is also my first time hearing about "deobandi, tablighi" ? Whats that ? and what made you think I'm Indian or I follow "deobandi etc " lol. Never heard of it mate.

      • -علي بن عبد الله آل الشيخ- Asalaamualaikum warahmatullah Wa Barakatuhu
        SHUKRAN FOR YOUR ESTEEMED REPLY-
        1[I still don't understand your conclusion of 'one month one talaq, second month second talaq, third month third talaq' from where did you get this ?'PLEASE - 1ST- KNOW MEANING OF WAITING PERIOD READ THIS HAZRATH IBNE-UMARS INSTANCE
        Verse 65:1, the key word used for divorce is “Tallaqtum” which is a plural word.
        834 - Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, reported: I divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him). 'Umar bin Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin 'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before touching her (without having an intercourse with her), for that is the period of waiting
        "If you have to divorce your wives, you should divorce them till the expiry of their waiting-period".[3-Menstrual periods]LEADS TO 3 MONTHS 3 TALAQS-PROVED IN HAZRATH IBNE UMARS INSTANCE ABOVE
        “O Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them at their appointed periods.” (Sunan Abu Dawood vol 2 Hadith no. 2191 p 59; -
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        2]Not long ago, I was told by a mate of mine that there is a much recent movement called 'salafi', IN ALL THE PAST CENTURIES AND COMING CENTURIES THOSE WHO STICK TO THIS ARE SALAFIS-NO ONE WILL DARE TO MAKE A NEW MOVEMENT IN THE NAME OF SALAF ........EXLSUIVE TITLE OF PROPHET SALAHAUALAHAIWASALAM-
        SALAFI MEANS PREDECESSOR-Beloved prophet[salalhualaihiwaslalam]AND SAHABAS were neither hanafi nor shafi nor hambali nor maliki-he was a salafi read:-The word "Salaf" was used by the Prophet (salalahualaihiwasallam) himself.He said to FATIMA-"How excellent a Salaf Iam for you." (Muslim, no. 2450)
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        3]yea I'm a muqallid (doing taqlid)of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, sahabas, tabi'een and taba al tabi'een-GOOD TO HEAR AFTER SO MANY DAYS...
        BUT IF ARE ALSO-FOLLOWING ANY O OF THE 4 MADHABS THEN YOUR ABOVE CLAIM[of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, sahabas,tabi'een and taba al tabi'een]BECOMES NULL&VOID-HOW PLS SEE- http://www.islamawareness.net/Madhab/blind_following.html
        AND THE 4 IMAMS WERE PURE SALAFIS AND THEY DIDNT FOLLOW ANYONE EXCEPT NABISALAHAUALAHAIWASALAM SAHABAS AND TABAYIN..........
        THE 4 IMAMS FORBIDDING BLIND TAQLEED !!
        http://the-finalrevelation.blogspot.in/2012/08/4-imams-forbidding-taqleed.html
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        "deobandi, tablighi"THESE ARE THE FOLLOWERS 4TH CENTURY FORMULATED TAQLEED AND MUQALID OF THE ONE OF THE 4 MADHABS KNOWN AS HANFIS WHICH IS NOT THE TEACHINGS OF IAMAM ABU HANIFA BUT HIS LATER ASSISTANTS-WHO HAVE MISUSED HIS NAME-The Blind following of a particular madhab from the four madaahib is not obligatory nor is it recommended-

        SO THE CONFUSION OF TALAQ IS ALSO BECAUSE OF THE 4 MADHABS OF TODAY-
        REGARDS

      • ASSALAMALAIKUM-Author: human
        I just want to know if we are still married or not. Jazakallu khair.
        YOU ARE STILL MARRIED STILL MARRIED AND STILL MARRIED-BY THE GRACE OF ALLAH
        IN ISLAM THERE IS NO ROOM FOR INSTANT DIVORCE:Islam does not hold Triple Talaq as Lawful....

        According to the Qur'an, there is absolutely no room for an instant divorce. The process must take months in order to allow reconsideration on the part of the husband and wife.
        ACCORDING TO HADEES-
        Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be Allah's peace)some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related that the Holy Prophet was infomed that a person had pronounced three divorces on his wife in One sitting. He stood up in anger and said:'`Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present among you?"
        http://www.cpsglobal.org/content/islam-does-not-hold-triple-talaq-lawful

        • The waiting period is meant for reconsideration and reconciliation. But once a person peonounces divorce, it holds. Then he or she can reconsider and get back together for a second chance. But if he pronounces another divorce when he is allowed to (when the woman is not menstruating), that is second divorce.

          (P.S.: I think I have figured out the logic behind Ali Yousuff's 1st month, 2nd month and 3rd month Talaqs. I think he means one divorce, then they get back together, one menstrual cycle should pass before the next divorce.)

          Abu Abdul Bari
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • lol. In that case you are a Salafi yourself, because you follow the Salaf as Saliheen (Rasoolullah, his Sahaabah and their followers). All the scholars including those from the times of the Aimmah, the Aimmah themselves, and until today among Shaikh Albani, Shaikh ibn Uthaimeen and others fall under this category - striving to follow what is best, taking the deen from the right sources.

        Deobandi is a sect from India that comes from a place called Deoband. Their fiqh is Hanafi and their Aqeedah is Ash'ari and Ma'tureedi, as their leaders have written. Tableeghi is another group of poeple who also include Deobandi, and some others. I think this group exists in many parts of the World, but originated from India.

        Brother Ali Yousuff is from India and thinks whoever does not agree with him is also Indian among Deobandis and Tableeghis - just joking.

        Abu Abdul Bari
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • lol. In that case you are a Salafi yourself, because you follow the Salaf as Saliheen (Rasoolullah, his Sahaabah and their followers). All the scholars including those from the times of the Aimmah, the Aimmah themselves, and until today among Shaikh Albani, Shaikh ibn Uthaimeen and others fall under this category - striving to follow what is best, taking the deen from the right sources.

          lool something new :O!! If thats what 'salafi' meant, then wallahu alam why bro Ali Yousuff is against madhab which was founded by the salaf as saliheen like Imam Hanifa, Imam Shafi'i etc

          Deobandi is a sect from India that comes from a place called Deoband. Their fiqh is Hanafi and their Aqeedah is Ash'ari and Ma'tureedi, as their leaders have written. Tableeghi is another group of poeple who also include Deobandi, and some others. I think this group exists in many parts of the World, but originated from India.

          Oh okay jazakAllah khayr. Maybe this the reason why bro Ali Yousuff is against the Hanafi 'modern' scholars who are mixed 'breed'. But he should be careful in dealing with other madhabs as not all madhabs are same bro Ali Yousuff. Remeber that hadith collectors are muqallads of madhab.

          Brother Ali Yousuff is from India and thinks whoever does not agree with him is also Indian among Deobandis and Tableeghis - just joking.

          looooool

          • Only brother Ali Yousuff can answer that best, perhaps. He has been interacting with a lot of people who follow an Imam blindly. So perhaps that is the reason for his generalization.

            Abu Abdul Bari
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • assalamalaikum-shukran
            Against madhab which was founded by the salaf as saliheen like Imam Hanifa, Imam Shafi'i etc-
            YES 100000%AGAINST THE DEFIERS OF ISLAM IT IS NOT ALLOWED TO MAKE SECTS AND MADHABS EXCEPT THE SAVED SECT OF NABISALAHU ALAHAIWASALAM AND HIS ONLY MASLAKH AND HIS PATH ONLY TO BE FOLLOWED-THE AUTHENTIC PATH-
            Deobandi is a sect from India that comes from a place called Deoband.THEY BELIEVE IN THE CONCEPT OF WAHDATUL WAJOOD[AND MANY NEW BIDDAHS] SO THEY ARE REJECTED IN ISLAM MAY BE THEY THEMSELVES AND THEIR FOLLOWERS THINK OTHERWISE-
            TABLIGHI ALSO FOLLOW SUIT LIKE THE DEOBANDIS-
            Remeber that hadith collectors are muqallads of madhab.PLEASE REMEMBER THEY ARE RESEARCHERS AND THEY THEMSELVES DIDNT ASK THEIR ASSISTANTS TO WRITE THEIR EXPLANATIONS-Imam Ahmad was the foremost among the Imaams in collecting the Sunnah and sticking to it,
            so much so that he even "disliked that a book consisting of deductions and opinions be written."[43] Because of this he said:
            "Do not follow my opinion; neither follow the opinion of Malik, nor Shaafi'i, nor Awzaa'i, nor Thawri, but take from where they took."[44]
            THAT MEANS FOLLOW THE ORIGINAL SAYINGS OF HADEES.NOT THEIR ASSISTANTS FABRICATED UNAUTHENTIC MADHABS-
            There were many sects, but only four have survived. People have abandoned all others .They follow their Imams, though they know that following of anyone else other than the Prophet(s.a.w) is prohibited. http://www.islamawareness.net/Madhab/blind_following.html
            REGARDS

          • Brother Ali Yousuff,

            You better talk to a sound scholar and correct your beliefs instead of speaking yourself about the madhaahib. Yes, people today claim to follow an Imam while follow something the Imam never was upon. For example; Imam Abu Haneefah's book al Fiqh al Akbar has his 'Aqeedah that is something many people oppose, while calling themselves Hanafi. But brother, we should not exaggerate.

            Yes, you are right about the Aimmah of Hadith not being Muqallideen of a particular person. Imam Bukhari himself said that taqleed was haraam, as I heard from Shaikh Safiur Rahmaan Mubarakpuri Rahimahillah. One should refer to his duroos on the Aimmah of Hadeeth.

            I think there is no benefit in fighting over all of this without knowledge and this is not the correct place for this. So please keep such debates away, as much as possible.

            Jazakumullahu Khair

            Abu Abdul Bari
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • @ Ali Yousuff,

            Afterall you don't even know who are the salaf al saliheen O.O ?

            ”The best of my Ummah is my generation (Qarni), then those who follow them, then those who follow them.“ [Bukhari and Muslim]

            Learn this hadith

  10. ASSALAMALAIKUMI KNOW VERY VERY WELL ABOUT THIS -”The best of my Ummah is my generation (Qarni), then those who follow them, then those who follow them- [Bukhari and Muslim]
    NOW YOU PLEASE RECOGNIZE THE SALAFUS-SALAHEEN AND STICK TO THEM THEN THE TALAQ OF MANY INNOCENT GIRLS WILL NOT HAPPEN-
    I AM NOT REFUSING THEIR STATUS OF THE BEST UMMAH-I AM REFUSING TO FOLLOW THEIR ASSISTANTS WHIMS AND FANCIES I AGREE TO RESEARCH BUT NOT OPINIONS WITHOUT EVIDENCE FROM QURAN AND HADEES..

    Prophet (Pbuh) said “The best of people is my generation, then those who come after them, then those who come after them [Bukhari and Muslim]HE DID NOT SAY CLOSE YOUR EYES AND BECOME BLIND AND FOLLOW THE LATER 3RD GENERATIONS ASSISTANTS WHIMS AND FANCIES-
    STICKING TO THIS WILL KEEP YOU ON THE PATH OF SHARIAH-
    The Last Sermon (Khutbah) of Prophet Muhammad (Farewell Sermon)
    I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my example, the SUNNAH and if you follow these you will never go astray. AND FURTHER THAN THIS MEANING LATER GENERATION SCHOLARS 4OO HIJRI MAI TAQLEED MEANS KHAUL[WRITTEN BY KHAYAL]BY THE IJMA OF INNOVATORS AND FORMULATED MANY MANY NEW THINGS IN THE NAME OF ISLAM-SEE WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO THEM-
    RasoolAllah [May Allah bless Him and grant Him peace] stated:
    "On the Day of Judgement, some people will come to me when I will be standing by Haudh-e-Kauser (Well).
    They will be grabbed and taken towards the Hellfire. I shall say: "These are my people" but in reply I will be told: "These are the people who introduced innovations after you......
    REGARDS
    ALI

    • Wa'alaykumsalam,

      Are you really serious with what you said ? Or is it a desperate attempt ? all I see is contradictions of your own statements. Why don't you open a post and I'll insha'Allah have a good discussion with you there.

      • That will be a waste of time. And our website is not meant for it. Let us limit ourselves to helping people instead of getting involved in debates.

        Abu Abdul Bari
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  11. ASSALAMALAIKUM ABDUL BARI BHAI-
    MAY ALLAH SHOWER HIS CHOICEST BLESSING ON YOU FOR THE POINT NOTED-
    I AM NO ONE IN ANY MATTER TO DECIDE ALLAH AND HIS PROPHETS SALAHALAHUALAIHIWASALAM DECIDE AND I LEARN-
    (P.S.: I think I have figured out the logic behind Ali Yousuff's 1st month, 2nd month and 3rd month Talaqs. I think he means one divorce, then they get back together, one menstrual cycle should pass before the next divorce.)
    THIS IS BASED ON THE HIKMAH OF THE ADVICE FROM PROPHET SALALAHUALAIHIWASALAM WHO HAS GIVEN ALL THE COUPLES THE CHANCE TO SUCCEED IN MALIGNING AND DEFY SATAN THE WASWASIL KAHNNAS-WHO BREAKS THEIR RELATIONSHIP OF HUSBANDS AND WIVES-SEE IT IS CRYSTAL CLEAR IN THIS HADEES STEP BY STEP-
    THE WAITING PERIOD
    834 - Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, reported: I divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him). 'Umar bin Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin 'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before touching her (without having an intercourse with her), for that is the period of waiting.........
    HOPE NOW THE QUESTIONER WHO ASKED-I know what happened is entirely my fault but I myself am in a very critical state of mind and really can't explain in words what is going on with me. I just want to know if we are still married or not. Jazakallu khair. AND LET HER NOW SLEEP PEACEFULLY IN HER HUSBANDS HOUSE WITHOUT ANY INTERFERENCE FROM THE SCHOLARS WHO SEPERATE THEM LIKE THEY DID MILLIONS OF THE SAME TYPE OF HELPLESS POOR INNOCENT UN KNOWLEDGEABLE GIRLS AND WOMEN LONGING TO LIVE WITH THEIR SPOUCES-BUT THE WALLS OF THE SCHOLARS GREW BIG AND THEY DID NOT GET A CHANCE OF RECONCILIATION AS ALLAH WANTED THEM WITH HIS MERCY SHOWN IN QURAN.
    Only brother Ali Yousuff can answer that best, perhaps. He has been interacting with a lot of people who follow an Imam blindly
    B4 ENDING I WANT TO SAY 90%OF THE SUBCONTINENT MUSLIMS ARE ON THIS DISEASE OF BLIND FOLLOWING ALLAH ONLY MUST SAVE THEM -BUT-"Verily, Allaah will not change the condition of a people, as long as they do not change it themselves." Surat-ur-Ra'ad [13:11].
    REGARDS

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