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Can nikah be done twice with the same person?

Doing the Nikah again

Doing the Nikah Twice

ASA!

Is it Islamically ok to have a nikkah with your family and friends ( small gathering) and later on have another nikkah (with the same person of course) but with more people, better location, food, etc.

Kind of like what christians do when they renew their vows years later.

Thanks in advance!

- Amira


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  1. Salaams,

    Having a vow renewal ceremony is not something rooted in Christianity. In fact, apart from it being a general western cultural phenomenon, I am not aware of any particular faith or belief that particularly promotes vow renewal ceremonies. Nor am I aware of any specific prohibitions against it.

    In Islam, everything is deemed to be halal or permissible unless it has been specifically declared haraam. Having a second marriage, in the absence of a divorce and completed iddah inbetween, was not something practiced at the time of the Prophet SAWS so there was no mention of whether this should be followed or not.

    My personal feeling about the matter is that there is nothing negative about a couple who has been together re-declaring their love and commitment toward one another, and celebrating the hard work that got them as far as they've come together. Needless to say, the festivities should be conducted with modesty and propriety, with the men and women not freely mixing, no alcohol, etc.

    Speaking personally, my husband and I had a second nikkah. When we first married, we had the nikkah in the pizza store where he was working. I had just gotten off work myself so I was wearing my uniform. The witnesses were his coworker, and the imam had to be conferenced by speakerphone. My husband's boss was my wali (I was a divorcee and not Muslim at the time). It was very informal, and needless to say had no trappings of a wedding at all. My first marriage was also done at the local courthouse, so I felt like I never had the chance to have a traditional wedding with friends and family, a pretty dress, and a yummy cake. My husband promised me on our first wedding day that he would give me a better ceremony someday.

    Seven years later, we saved our money and I had my wedding dress custom made, we chose our cake, and had another nikkah in a more festive way. For my husband to be willling to do this, and help make it happen, made me see how much he really cared for me and made me feel more determined to maintain my commitment to him. Not once before, during, or after our second ceremony did someone come to me or my husband to tell us we were doing haraam or bidah (and believe me, usually people are quick to let us know if they think we are!). As a matter of fact, everyone said it was a beautiful idea and more couples should do it.

    This is just my personal opinion and experience for you to weigh against others that may be shared.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Salaam, lovely story. I need some advice pls.
      I'm a divorcée and have found a good muslim man I want to marry but my family don't agree for me to marry him. If i do my nikkah in secret then if the family agrees could we re do our nikkah.

  2. As Salamualaikum,

    I think it need not be done, unless necessary. That is, if the first Nikah was void for some reason.

    Though I am not aware of prohibition, I believe it is better to avoid it, than be doubtful if there is no reason for repeating the Nikah.
    I don't think we find it in the practice of the Sahaabah and others among the Salaf as Saliheen.

    And Allah Knows Best

    Yes, if the celebration has to be repeated, one small party for those who were not present at the Nikah ceremony would suffice, in sha Allah.

    This is no Fatwa, just my personal opinion.

    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  3. My only concern is that some people may think that your first nikah was not valid, and that's why you are redoing it. So they might think you've been living in sin all this time.

    Since you've already had a nikah, why not just have a waleemah party?

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  4. How about if the first one was done without family knowledge and involvment
    Because they live in a different country and we want have a second wedding with them ???

    • If the first nikah is done without parents permission/knowledge then the nikah is invalid in other sense you ain't married. Therefore the nikah should be done now with parents permission.

  5. Thank you for replaying , but we both are over 30 years old
    And don't need parents permission !!

    • As long as your parents are alive, their permission is NEEDED, no matter how old you are. Even if you're in your 40s.

      There are four absolutely obligatory conditions for a marriage or ‘nikaah’ to be deemed lawful in the Sight of Shariah and of Allah :
      -Proposal by one party and acceptance by theother.
      -The determination of ‘mehr’ for the bride.
      -The availability of at least two witnesses to the marriage contract.
      -The consent of the parents/guardians (wali) of the bride.
      If even one of the above four obligatory conditions of a ‘nikaah’ are not honored, the marriage will not be deemed lawful, null and void in the Sight of Shariah Law and of Allah. And if lived under same roof, constitute zina relationship.

      Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2078 Narratedby Aisha, Ummul Mu`minin
      The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: "The marriage of a woman who marries without the consent of her guardians (wali) is void." (He (Prophet) said these words three times.)

      Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3137 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
      Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "A woman may not give a woman in marriage, nor may she give herself in marriage, for the IMMORAL woman is the one who gives herself in marriage."

      It is unlawful in Shariah Law for a woman to give herself in marriage, or to marry someone without the prior consent of her ‘wali’ (parents, guardians, etc.).
      If the parents/wali/guardians of the bride are believers, and if a woman marries someone without the prior consent of her ‘wali’, or if any of the above listed four absolutely obligatory conditions on a ‘nikaah’ are violated….that marriage contract will be deemed null and void in the Sight of Allah Subhanah and in the Sight of Shariah Law.

      • @علي بن عبد الله آل الشيخ‎ What if a girl is willing to marry but her parents do not agree and she goes for a court marriage? From your statement above, I assume that the court marriages are null and void and have no significance in the sight of Islam.

      • I believe she said she was not Muslim at the time and neither were her parents. There for the imam represented as her wali. There for she was represented by her wali because her parents are not Muslim.

  6. Dear Ali Bin Abdullah Shaikh

    Please let me know the fatwa according to IMAM ABU HANIFA Because according to him if Girl is Adult enough she dont need permission of WALI and as one of the person above mentioned about Court marriage so Please let us know what are you saying in the light of above two mentioned points by me.

  7. I was told divorcee women don't need permission because they wise enough to knw wat wrong and right...

  8. I was told a divorced women doesn't need her parents permission to remarry because she is old enough and wise enough to know what is good or bad for her and her kids, And secondly was told renewing your nikkah every year (no divore involved) with your husband brings more blessings.
    This information was given by a imam in Saudi, please tell me if this information I was given is wrong or right through the Hanifi school of thought.
    Thank you.
    May Allah guide us all on the right path Ameen

  9. Assalaamualaikum WRBT.

    I want to marry a girl, her parents have granted her/us the permission to go ahead, however my parents are not in agreement with it as of now. Can we do Nikah secretly with out the knowledge of my parents as of now and once they get convinced or once they agree, can we then do the Nikah again in front of them.

    • No, you cannot. There is no secret marriage in Islam. One of the things that differentiates halal marriage from a haram affair is that marriage is open and known to everyone. Furthermore, open marriage helps to protect the woman's rights and prevents misunderstandings or rumors from spreading.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Assalamoalaikum Sir,

        my friend performed nikah with a boy infront of her parents and boy's two friends with accepotance of mehar .Is this nikah valid?

        Now the boy wants to do publically marriage with his parents too with all rituals .can the nikah be done twice.

        • Your first question, it sounds like it is valid, Insha'Allah. Your second question, see the answers already given on this post.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • i am not getting the answers please reply with explanation.Once you explained this but I am not getting that after searching

        • The Messenger of Allah (upon him be peace) said, “A women should not marry herself off [i.e. without a wali] (Ibn maja).

          -It was in front of her parents so its not a secret BUT it was missing the mahr , which must be specified in the marriage contract and is obligatory, since it helps the women incase of a tragedy like the husbands death.

          -Makes no sense to do the nikkah again, they should just have the ceremony or the party or whatever you call it, and he should just show his parents the nikkah contract and then proceed with the rituals. While at this time he may be able to get a imam involved to edit his contract so that it includes the mahr.

          • walekumassalam
            thanks of rreply
            daian mehar was decided in the nikah.
            Can nikah be do it again infront of his parents and all public verbally only.

  10. Asalaamualaikum,

    Is it possible to do a nikah "in secret" without announcing to EVERYONE and then do another nikah at a later date with the whole family and a larger gathering followed by a valimah?
    we are doing beacuse both family they are ready for marrige but after 1 year they decide for nikah but we dont want to be sinful thats why withoout informing my parents (boy parents) if i will do nikah now n later after 1 year we will do nikah with gathering all and on that time ruksati is it possibile

    Hoping some of you have an opinion/ knowledge on this and pls quick answer.

    Nizam

  11. Aoa
    I like a person and he also likes me and we both want to marry each other and we want to do nikah But are parents do not agree so we do not want to have any haram relation between us so can we secretly do nikah?

  12. What if the boys parents are ready and accepted and the nikkah is done...can they re-marry again in the presence of girls parents?

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