Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Drifting away from deen/Allah


I am a muslim girl who has tried abstaining from anything haram. I pray 5 times a day and do my best to be a good muslim but for the past month I hate praying, I don't want to pray because I am angry I am lonely and have to wait for allah to give me someone to love me but it is hard when everyone who sins is getting married and I am just waiting and not doing anything haram yet people who sin are getting married. I want to go back and pray but I was so stressed and depressed with life I smoked weed a couple of days ago. I regret it but I still have no motivation to pray. I honestly don't know what to do.


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  1. i am 28 and have no hope for marriage though some wanted to marry me but at the same time i decided not to marry anyone coz i m not a responsible person. many women feel same like you. those who are married most of them are not happy .dont worry you will get married if it is written. leave it on Allah.
    dont compare yourself with anyone everybody will get according to their fate. at least you are not facing any other problem. the way i m living my life i know, you should be grateful for everything

  2. This is not the answer shatain is whispering to you. I have been through what you going through and the one thing i learnt and say to you is leave marriage in hand's of ALLAH. It will happen if its meant to be. This is a test we are all in. There's more to life than marriage or sinning. Say ulhumdilllALLah your blessed not to have fallen in the wrong path why should you feel sad or depressed i spend years in you're shoes looking for answers but this is out of your control. You dont and shouldnt feel angry or lonely in fact your never alone. Continue in your prayers dont give up be honest and dont worry about things that aren't worth worrying. Your blessed more than you think.

  3. You must go to a mosque and let some sisters know there they might be able to match you up with someone suitable

  4. Bismillah al Rahman al Raheem,

    Dear sister,

    Allah is testing you now.....He is looking to see if you are patient enough and have a strong character to withstand such hardship.

    It is now your duty to get closer to Allah, to be stead fast, to find comfort in him and be his complete and utter slave. You have to surrender your soul truly to him and ask for his help and for his forgiveness.

    If you are not able to handle this hard and lonely time, then how will you handle things if you have problems with your future husband, or if you difficulty to get children, etc.

    Sister, if you are not able to cope and be close to Allah and become strong in these days, then you will have a very difficult time to become a good and successful Muslim wife.

    This is a test....get closer to Allah and watch the door open for you Inshallah.

  5. Salam sister.Dont you think your not using your brain...but i guess your not that bright...but its ok we all are imperfect i quess.I take it your young and so your impatient harmones at 100%?maybe.Look life is test and Allah has said this himself in the holy book.Those who chose a life other then Islam will never have peace of mind .He will keep you busy 1 problem after the next.......until death will sieze him...and a painful punishiment awaits them...Look your foundatio is weak and smoking weed made it worse because it takes atleast 40 days min to clean your blood.I know this because my friend is a doctor. Praying properly with proper recitation ruku sadja concentration devotion 5TIMES A DAY is for your benefit nobody elses loss.Salat is like head on a body....Hadith.. salat will be the first thing asked on the day of judgement....FACT.Anyways the story is that theres a friend i guess whose always by you who knows your weaknesses and whispers frequently to your little head and do you know who he is........She is your shaitan...So all this loneliness?REALLY LIKE IF I WERE YOU I WAIT AND WATCH HOW LONG THESES RELATIONSHIPS LAST OR THE PROBLEMS THAT WILL COME ABOUT.BE SMART.STUDY YOUR FAITH MASTER IT PERFE T IT BECAUSE IT WILL BE THE DECIDING FA TOR OF YOUR LIFE....LOOK GO TO MOSQUE MEET NEW SISTERS WHO ARE PRACTISING HELP COMMUNITY BECAUSE THATS UNITY GIVE CHARITY AND LOVE ALL HATE NONE. THEN WHEN YOU HAVE LEARNED AND AT THE SAME TIME EDUCATE YOURSELF (career)SO YOU CAN BE INDEPENDANT THEN SETTLE DOWN.heres a hint Allah likes the patient.When the time comes Allah will bring him but dont give in until you see and know that he prays 5 times a day cautious about eating haram and halal and talks softly and is polite he also loves to be apart of the mosque. Alearned man carries all the qaulities and blessings.If he is scholor hafiz tabligh and has a degree your laughing women...becsuse marriage is another test and without PROPER FAITH IT WILL A WRITE OFF. good luck sis.

  6. I tried to comment like 5x and there has been some error.

    But here. Try these two duas.

    1. ربي يسر ولا تعسر ,ربي تمم بالخي
    Allahumma rabbi yassir wa la tu’assir ,rabbi tammim bil khayr
    "My Rabb make it easy and do not make it difficult. My Rabb make it end well."

    يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِى عَلَى دِينِكَ
    Ya Muqallib al-Quloob, Thabbit Qalbi Ala Deenik
    “Oh Turner of Hearts, keep my heart firm on Your Deen.”

    Also, if one were to marry a "bad sinful muslim" then would that help them go to the right path. Since marriage is loved in the Eyes of Allah....? Is there an example from the sunnah?

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