Dua to help my husband quit bad habits and become a practising Muslim.
"Allah is the Protector of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will lead them forth into light." Quran 2:257
Assalamalaikum,
I have been married for 1.4 years. Right from the day of our marriage we had problems. It was because some of my husband's friends and relatives didn't have food in our nikkah due to late preparation of food. So, my husband had developed an aversion towards my parents and my family. From that day till now he keeps on repeating the same in each and every matter. He doesn't allow me to call them or go to my house. He never takes me even during Eid or some important functions. He is not very religious and loves worldly pleasures. He smokes daily and drinks occasionally. Because of his acts my parents are very much worried. My husband keeps on telling that my parents are not giving respect to him. I love my husband but due to some of his acts I am very much depressed.
I am expecting my child in November insha allah. I want to change my husband and make him religious. He never prays or does any acts of islam. I am very much worried for him. He behaves like a psycho at times. Sometimes he says he doesn't like me and talks about his past GF. I want my husband back. Please help me. Is this a psychological problem or is there any solution to this? I want him to understand that my parents are good and that my love is true. Please help me. Is there any dua to change him. ?
Wasalam,
Pareveen.
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Salaams,
You said, "right from the day of our marriage we had problems", yet you are asking for a solution to "bring your husband back". From your post, it doesn't sound like your husband has ever been the type of man he should have been- even the type of Muslim he should've been! You have named several warning signals about his behavior that are clearly indicating that this man has no current intentions of changing his habits.
There is nothing wrong with making du'a. If Allah sees fit, He can change the most corrupted person into the most pious. I would certainly make du'a for your husband every day or even more often as you feel inclined. However, remember that even though you are doing this, there is no guarantee of the outcome you hope for. It is truly in Allah's hands.
Even if you are making du'a for him, if I were you I wouldn't stay living with him and tolerating this disrespectful behavior. By engaging in haraam acts he is devaluing himself as a creation of Allah, as well as you, your child, and your family. I would move back in with your parents and create a more stable and nurturing environment for your baby to be born into. You can tell him that unless he changes his ways and starts to be the father and husband you and your child deserve, he can expect you to remain apart from him. Hopefully this will motivate him to cultivate some taqwa about his current path; otherwise you and your baby deserve much, much better.
-Amy
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Hi,
I am a guy and i am not that much of a practicing muslim .. i have not been married and have never been in this sort of situation however i am aware of the culture in the east. Its common in eastern cultures for guys to misbehave with their wives, be it any reason at all, from serving cold or not properly cooked food (which is absolutely normal since women arent master chefs) to family matters as in the one mentioned above.
I am sure that Madam Parveen above has her issues with her husband but i think there could be a way in which this problem might be resolved, for example a very thorough discussion in between the couple where Parveen notifies the husband that she is uncomfortable with the guys behaviour and would prefer it if he changes it. My advice is that you should do it staying with him rather than going to your parents place and then telling the guy your conditions. In the eastern cultures its not always easy for women to breakup with guys due to cultural implications so i think a better way would be to fix the problem and if you are not capable of doing so like if the guy doesnt budge then Islam gives you the right for a seperation, you are legally entitled to it.
May ALLAH give some morality to our so called islamic society so that you and many other women like you trapped in this cultural drama of the east might be able to live proper lives.
Best of luck .
i would like to know if there is a dua i can read for my parents. Their daughter-in -law is very rude to them and makes up all kinds of lies. she is my mums niece but is not a good human being. i would like to pray to allah to guve my parents strength and help them to do the right thing. Can you help me?
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Wael
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Salaam
I have been married for several years... and have one child...
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CURE FROM ALL KINDS OF ADDICTIONS
The following prayer is for curing all kinds of addictions, from drugs to tobacco, alcohol to womanising, and also any other forms of evil habits. INSHA ALLAH.
The following should be read for 41 days by either the person who wants to change his / her ways, or someone else can read on behalf of the person that is addicted.
After reading the following ask Allah to relieve you if your addiction or bad habit.
If someone is reading on behalf of another person, then the person who is doing the Dua should mention the full name of the addicted person and that person's mother's name, for example:
Ya Allah relieve and cure {the addicted person's full name} son / daughter of {the addicted person's mother's name} of his / her bad habits. Ameen.
INSHA ALLAH THE PERSON CONCERNED, WILL OVERCOME HIS / HER BAD HABIT(S).
Read the following DAROOD 11 times
ALLAHUMMA SALLI ALA SAYYIDINA MUHAMMADIN SAYYIDIS SALIHEEN WA SAYYIDIL MUQINEEN WA SAYYIDIZ ZAHIDEEN
(ALLAH SEND BLESSINGS UPON OUR MASTER MUHAMMAD, MASTER OF THE RIGHTEOUS, MASTER OF THOSE OF ASSURED FAITH AND MASTER OF ASCETICS (THOSE WHO FORSAKE EVIL))
Next read the following DUA 11 times
BISMILLAH HIR RAHMAN NIR RAHEEM
SUNNAT ALLAHIL LATI QAD KHALAT MIN QABLU WA LAN TAJIDA LI SUNNAT ILLAHI TABDEELA(N)
WA HUWAL LAZEE KAFFA AIYDEE HUM ANKUM WA AIYDEYA KUM AN HUM BI BATNI MAKKATA MIM BAADI AN AZFARA KUM ALAIHIM WA KAN ALLAHU BIMA TAAMALOONA BASEERA
(IT IS THE LAW OF ALLAH WHICH HAS ALREADY TAKEN COURSE IN THE PAST. YOU WILL NOT FIND ANY CHANGE IN THE LAW OF ALLAH.
AND IT IS HE WHO HAS RESTRAINED THEIR HANDS FROM YOU AND YOUR HAND FROM THEM IN THE MIDST OF MAKKAH AFTER THAT HE GAVE YOU VICTORY OVER THEM. AND ALLAH SEES WHAT YOU DO.)
Finally finish by reading the above DAROOD 11 times again.
Dua to Get Rid of Alcohol
Wazifa To Stop Drinking Alcohol
Dua to Stop Bad Habits
To get rid of bad habits like Alcoholism, Adultery and Drugs etc.
Dua to Get Rid of Alcohol in English
• Recite Auzubillaahi Minash Shayataanirrajeem BisMillaahirRahmaanirRaheem– 3 times;
• Recite any Astaghfar 7 times. Find the full Astaghfaar here;
• Recite Zikr-ul-LLAH – LA ILAHA ILLALLAH MU’HAMMADUR RASOOLALLAH, SallALLAHU `Alayhi wa Sallam – 7 times;
• Recite any Durood-e-Pak 7 times;
• Make An intention for the purpose- say this “Ya ALLAH Ya Shafi, please cure me of this sickness and grant me good health”, “Ya ALLAH Ya Mumeetu Please destroy and neutralize all the evil influences and evil plots of sahir and jinns on me and grant be good health” for which you would be doing this dua/ wird/ amal. Recite “Dua E Isme Illahi” (written below)– 3, 7, 11 or 21 times or more;
• After this recite the below 1 to 6 “Ism-e-Ilahi”:
1. Ya ALLAHU YA BARRU (The Source of All-Goodness) and
2. Ya ALLAHU Ya MATEENU (O The Firm One) and
3. Ya ALLAHU QUDDOOSU (The Most Holy) and
4. Ya ALLAHU Ya MUQALLIBAL QULOOBI WAL ABSAAR (O The Transformer of hearts and eyes) and
5. Ya ALLAHU Ya WALIYAL HASANAT (Oh He who sponsors good things!) and
6. Ya ALLAHU YA QUDDOOSU YA NOORU (O The Most Holy, O the Light).
7. After reciting the above Ism-e-Ilahi in the best way, continuously and repeatedly till you get tired/exhausted.
8. Recite any Durood Shareef -7 times;
9. Then blow on some cleansed water or sweet or food;
10. Give it to the addicted person to eat or drink. If not possible to “blow” only make intention it would be sufficient insha ALLAH.
Note: While reading the above 6 “Ism-e-Ilahi” add “Ya ALLAHU” before each as written above.
Insha ALLAH soon the person will be cured and quit his/her bad habits with the help of this dua to get rid of alcohol soon. Ameen.
Powerful Dua-E-Ism-e-Illahi
BISMILLAAHI ALLAHUMMA INNI ASALOKA (or ‘A-OO-ZOBIKA) BI TAW-HE-DIKA YA AHADU WA BI JALAALIKA YA JALEELU WA BI IZZATIKA YA AZEEZU WA BI QUDRATIKA YA QADIRU WA BI HAMDIKA YA HAMEEDU WA BI AZMATIKA YA AZEEMU WA BI HIKMATIKA YA HAKEEMU WA BI HAQ-QHEKA YA HAQQU WA BI QUD-SIKA YA QUDDOOSU WA BI NOORIKA YA NOORU WA BI RAHMATIKA YA RAHEEMU WA BI AFWIKA YA AFUWWU WA BI FADHLIKA YA RAHMAANU WA BI MANNIKA YA MANNAANU WA ALLAAHUMMA INNEE ASALOKA(or ‘A-OO-ZOBIKA) BI ASMAAIKAL HUSNA WA SIFATIKAL AZEEMI! YA ALLAHU; YA BADI ‘US SAMAA WAA TI WAL ARZ; YA HAYYU YA QAYYUM; YA ZAL JALALI WAL IKRAM ; UN-ZUR-E-LAYYA, UN-ZUR-E-LAYYA,UN-ZUR-E-LAYYA BI RAHMATIKA YA ARHAMAR RAHEMEEN;AMEEN. YA RABBIL ‘A-LAMEEN
Meaning of Dua-E-Ism-e-Illahi
In the Name of ALLAH, O ALLAH, I ask you (or I seek refuge with You) through Your Oneness, O The Only One and through Your Sublime Majesty, O The Sublime One and through Your Honour, O Noble One and through Your Power, O Most Powerful One and through Your Praises, O Most Praiseworthy One and through Your Greatness, O The Great One and through Your Wisdom, O The Most Wise One and through Your Truth, O The Most Truthful One and through Your Holiness, O the Holy One and through Your Light, O The Light and through Your Mercy, O Most Merciful One and through Your Forgiveness, O The Most Forgiving One and through Your Grace, O The Most Gracious One and through Your Bestowal, O The Benefactor And O ALLAH, I ask of you (or I seek refuge with You) , by Your Beautiful Names and Your Magnificent/Great Attributes! O ALLAH, O Originator of the heavens and the earth, O The Everliving, O The Self-subsisting, O Lord of Majesty, Bounty and Honour,Look towards us ! Look towards us ! Look towards us !through Your Mercy, O The Most Merciful of the Merciful. Ameen. O Rabb Of the Worlds
Jazakalahu khairan
My husband treats me in ugly manners. He tried to rape me at the same time saying he is not interested in me. He takes yaba and has been taking yaba for more than 2 years now. Please pray for my small beautiful son 4 years old. He is suffering. I feel like I have been too revengeful on his family and him because of their mischieves towards me. Can you tell me a dua which will help. I will follow the one you have posted.
Is there really Duas for a man who rapes and abuses women ?? I think the best Dua is for Allah (swt) to protect your child and yourself and get out of there and leave start a fresh and make a Dua that you meet a pious Muslim man who will love and respect you and your child, don't waste another minute with this man he sounds disgusting, the fact you are blaming yourself is extremely worrying , he is mentally and physically torturing you and you are blaming yourself! The only thing that you can be blamed for is staying with this creature and putting up with this digusting behaviour , realise your worth and respect yourself and leave.
May Allah (swt) give you the strength and respect for yourself to leave.
Assalamu alaikum dr pareveen,dont worry allah is with us.a thing which i heard from my guru to make husband love us was recite surah jummah daily and friday after luhr,surah muhammed every friday after luhr..and make dua say all ur problems to allah in sajdah..surely allah will put a great change in your husband..dont worry sister things wilĺ changa..dont miss prayers