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Elope and marrying for internationals

Hello everyone

I have been in this relationship for 5 years now with a school friend of mine since 12th grade, now we have told our parents for marriage and neither of our family is agreeing with our relationship. We know each other really well. The thing is she is Pakistani and I am Bangladeshi, we were together with each other in both worst, and good times since school days so from last 5 years we are in a relationship before that we were really good friends for few years, we never gave up nor are we ever gonna do that. We grew up in an Arab country which has strict rules for expats and foreigners plus we can't marry cuz we both are still under dependent visa which simply makes it harder for us to get married in this country. We both are done with our masters degree. I have the residency of this country under my father as a depedednt visa so does she under her father. One of the major problem is that her father doesn't treat her like a daughter he hits her violently , hits her, abuses her mostly unnecessary since she was a kid, and there is no way her family will ever accept us. Even if I convince my parents somehow, there is no way she can do the same because she belongs to an orthodox family where honor killing is still a part of their culture. We really love each other a lot and have made our mind to marry but the thing is we don't really have any other option rather than eloping, we plan to run my Bangladesh get married, or go to a different location and then get our legal marriage documents signed.

So if i could get some easier way to get married in a halal way i would really appreciate it.



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  1. assalam alaikum brother
    first you should ask allah for help because allah is the one to guide or help any in any way.
    second thing have you done istakhara about your marriage if not then should do first ane third thing is that
    if you take a step to running away it then it will be a huge impact to your life if not then to your life partner's life
    you know what will your partner's father will do her mother if you take a step like that and what kind of impacts it will have in your life and your partner's life so please do not take a step which would have worst impacts on your life as you mentioned that her father is brutal and he was too much strict towards her if he has done any thing bad to anyone in her family or to her then you will not be able to any ask allah that your will be solved and please do istakhara immediately mostly interracial marriages works successfully you should take precautions before getting not saying that you should not married to her because you are from bangladesh and she from pakistan but you know its some time for the people from from different cultures to understand each other(refers to both of your families).

    • Pakistani and Bangladeshi are not that different culture. Bangladeshis are more humble and men are less dominant. I wouldn’t say it is considered a interracial marriage. Where did get that notion that interracial marriage works 10%.

  2. Write Allah with capital A

  3. Dear Wohoooo,
    I’d be very cautious of eloping. The dad seems like a serial killer and he can do something to you too. I know she feels safe with you and she knows that you come from a normal family. However, she can’t make her dad accept it. Imagine she brings it up to him what will happen next he will force her to marry her cousin or so honor killing. I don’t know what advice to give you. Either let her go or get a mediator to talk to her dad.

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