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Will I get my husband and unborn baby back in the eternal life?


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(Editor's note: sister leelu has a previous post here as well: "Why do people divorce and what happens to divorced couples in the hereafter?")

I got divorce just after my first miscarriage at 3rd month. I never remarried again and now I have become too old. My only question is that will I get my exhusband in eternal life if I wished so?

My other question is that my this miscarried baby of 3 months age which got aborted just becoz of a result of a medical disease called BLIGHTED OVUM will meet me InshaAllah in the next world (hereafter)? After 3 months of my pregnancy I got abortion on doctor's prescription. To her it was actually a missed miscarriage in which gestational sac was observable but there was no baby visible in that sac. The emotional love and affection for that pregnancy is still in my heart.

Never wanted to loose husband but he divorced me and married again. I can never forget him out of my heart.


~ Leelu


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  1. Assalam o alykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu, Bismillahir rahmanir raheem.


    Its is mentioned in the Hadith that the women of this worldly life have a 70% more superiority over Al-hur Al-`In due to the acts of worship and obedience that they performed in this world. Therefore, the believing women will enter Paradise just like the believing men. If a woman had a number of husbands, she, upon entering Paradise with them, would choose among them the one with the best character and behavior.

    Then after the question and answer on the Day of Judgment, when we will finally enter into Paradise, Allah (SWT) will marry those were married on this earth. But if one of the spouse will not be a person of Jannah then Allah will marry them with an another pious person. So if both of you will go to Jannah (which I hope and pray) then you and your husband will be married again in Jannah. Just imagine getting married in Jannah will be how much wonderful. And I am not making it up... this is all in the Quran.

    Now I didn't say that there will be no sex in Paradise. I have heard from several scholars that sex WILL be there in Paradise, but it will definitly be of much higher quality and pleasure then this earthly sex.

    So sister, you will not lose any of the memory about your husband, you will not lose any love for your husband, as a matter of fact your love for him and his love for you will increase many many fold in Jannah. You children will no longer be children but they will also be 33 years of age and have their own Jannah and spouses. InshaAllah.

    So can you imagine, how much pleasure and fun you will have when you have no work, no responsibility, no sickness, no shortage of any kind of food, and on top of it, hundreds of palaces and thousands upon thousands of servents to serve you and your husband forever. What more would you want.

    As far as memory is concerned you will be surprised how much memory and information you will carry from this world to hereafter.

    First the book of deeds you will receive will have all the minute details of whatever you did on this earth. Even the deep feelings and emotions and secrets you had in this life will be in that book. We don't know what that "book" would look like, but if we humans can make DVD and microchips to store vast amount of data, then Allah (SWT) surely can store all of our deeds on a medium which will show us our deeds as a movie to us. So you see, you will not forget anything of this earth.

    So bow down to your Lord and ask for his forgiveness and hold His rope tightly and you will be successful InshaAllah.

    And please also make Dua for me too

    Jazakumullahu khairan

  2. Asalamualaikum,

    @imane I don't know much about this stuffs just want to make it clear if you don't mind.
    Leelu's husband is married now so on the judgement day if they both go to Janna they will get married again what about his second wife what if she also go to Janna? And Nother thing on judgement day will we be able to recognize our relatives?

    Sorry if my question are silly.


    • Salamu'alaikum,

      sister Nadia, a couple that spends life in Allah's Obidience and dies on Eemaan, insha Allah will live together in Jannah:

      They will be with their spouses, reclining in the shade of Paradise, filled with the deepest joy. Allaah says (interpretation of the meanings):

      “They and their wives will be in pleasant shade, reclining on thrones.” [Yaa-Seen 36:56]

      “Enter Paradise, you and your wives, in happiness.” [al-Zukhruf 43:70]

      Among the bountiful and abundant blessings that Allaah bestows upon His creation is that if the believers’ offspring follow them in faith, they will be joined with their fathers in the same level of Paradise even if they themselves did not reach that level, so that their fathers may have the joy of seeing their offspring. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who believe and whose offspring follow them in Faith, - to them shall We join their offspring, and We shall not decrease the reward of their deeds in anything…” [al-Toor 52:21]


      But if a lady married a man and then got divorced, then married another man, if they go to the Jannah, insha Allah, she will join her last husband.

      I'm not sure if they will marry again, but there is a mention that the righteous men will marry Hoorun 'Een. Anywayz, they'll live together insha Allah.

      Yes insha Allah, we will recognize our relatives, from what has been said above, and from what I have heard from the 'Ulama. Before being admitted to Paradise, there is an Aayah in the Qur'aan that the people, when they will see their mothers, fathers, brothers, spouses and sons, they will run. So from this we can say that we will insha Allah recognize them.

      May Allah be Pleased with us and admit us, our spouses and children to the Jannah al Firdaus
      Muhammad Waseem

  3. Asalamualaikum,

    @Muhammad Waseem thank you so much now I understand.

  4. Salaams,

    Leelu, I feel that this inquiry is virtually the same as your previous one, and the answers are not going to change no matter how many times you re-phrase the same question. You are seeming to stay preoccupied on having some sort of security by reuniting with your ex husband in the hereafter.

    I will try to say this as sensitively as I can, but the truth is you need to get your focus on to something else. No one can tell you what to expect in the next life, or even give you a hint as to whether you will even be in Paradise at all. None of us know how we will be judged or who will be there with us or not. I strongly suggest you start spending a portion of your time helping others in critical need, so that you will stop living in a world where your lost love and failed pregnancy are not the constant main event.

    As far as your miscarriage from the blighted ovum, from what I can tell based on the medical description of that condition is that there really was no baby. It never began to form, all that was there was fluid and sac. Yes, in certain conditions tissue and such can grow without meaning it's another being. For instance, cysts, tumors, polyps, these are all similar to what happens in a blighted ovum. By the medical definition, there never was an "embryo" or baby. I tend to think with that being the case, there will be no soul to represent it in the hereafter (Allah knows best). Given the information we have about it, it seems like you would be wise to start trying to find closure on that aspect instead of hanging on to what quite possibly is a false attachment.

    All things considered, I think you really need to work through some of these emotions with a professional counselor. If you don't, you will stay fixated on these two things for the rest of your life and miss the real purpose of this existence. If we should be fixated on anything, it should be our ibadah and love for Allah first, and then doing good and improving the lives of others around us second. If we spend all our years gazing at our past under a microscope, trying to find a way to rewrite what Allah has decreed, we are wasting our time.

    -Amy Editor

  5. yes if a woman married to a husband then divorced. but she never remarried again. if she wished her ex husband to be with her in next world then will she join him? i am not talking about that woman who marries more than one husband but i am just talking about a woman who never remarries again after her divorce. she had only one husband in this world but not the other. so she will definely get her ex husband because she only married to him and not to other one in this world?

    • Leelu, with all due respect I believe you have gotten adequate feedback on that issue between both your posts. I really think you need to shift your focus onto something more meaningful for you in the here and now.

      IslamicAnswers.con Editor

  6. Asalamualaikum,

    Sister leenu sorry for my rude comment I apology before I write my comment because I know you won't like it after reading but I really want to say sister Amy is right. You really wasting your present and future we don't know who will go to haven or hell. We really don't know no clue. Please sister don't be too much emotional on this kind of issue. Sorry I know I am being rude I am really sorry. Was feeling very pitty for you sister.

    May Allah bless you and give you more strength to be strong.



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