False claim of zina.
My husband has a friend who is Sayed and according to my husband, he is a very nice person just like a wali. Once a girl was missing in our neighborhood and my husband's friend rightly told us where this girl is and she has gone on her own consent.
So my husband respects his friend a lot as he thinks that his friend knows everything due to his piety. One more thing, once my husband's friend told something about our married life which was only known to me and my husband. Now last week he told my husband that I a having a relationship with some other guy and that I had sex with that guy.
This is not correct, as I am very loyal to my husband. Besides, I had taken an oath on Quran that I am honest to my husband but my husband is confused. He thinks that his friend can't lie and that I am guilty. But my Allah knows that this is just imputation on me. I am loyal to my husband.
Now my husband is not happy with me. He is avoiding me and talking about leaving me. What should I do? How do I prove to him that I am not guilty? Is there any dua to prove my innocence? I am very tensed. Please help.
-Mrs Shoaib
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assalamu alaikum sister
Your husband's friend needs to mind his own business and attend to his own life. Obviously he doesnt have one because he is trying to be noisy of yours. I believe that when men or women get chatty about others it is because of their own insecurities or envy. He probably envies what your husband has which is you and wants to break that up..
sister there is really nothing you can do. To be honest..this is horrible. How does he know for sure if you had sex with anyone unless he has video proof and/or has a dna sample of you on another man? he cant prove it. Also your husband should KNOW you and your personality and if your capable of something like this.
also, i dont know why you mentioned him being syed..that is not a determination of him being a good person.
i can understand the initial shock of such a false claim to your husband and yourself but for you husband to trust his noisy friends word over yours is wrong. your husband should know you better than that...no one knows me better than my parents and my husband and im sure its the same with you.
there is nothing really you can do but try to talk to your husband but if he wants to leave because of a freinds gossip and no SOLID PROOF...that is his mistake.
i dont consider the claim of anyone as valid without considering the source.
i hope your husband comes to his senses soon. i know my husband would bash any man's face in if he even put my name in the same sentence or alluded to me having a relationship with them or even if they stared at me for too long.
Salaams,
Your husband is wrong to trust his friend over your word. If your friend were truly a pious person, they would never go to your husband and tell him any of your wrongdoings (even if they are true) to begin with. Pious people do not do that. Allah Himself covers our sins, and keeps them from being known to others, so how much more would Allah cover and protect someone who is innocent? And if this is the case with Allah, how can anyone who is near to Allah do anything different than what Allah would do?
True Awliya are not going to meddle in people's marriages or personal affairs. True awliya are there to help and uplift people, not destroy relationships or sow mistrust. Just because someone seems to be very intuitive or "know certain things" (as in the case of the missing girl), does not necessarily make them pious or saints.
Truly pious people have good intentions. They don't backbite, they don't slander, and they don't spread lies. Those things are all sin, which are opposite of piety. Your husband clearly doesn't know how to correctly judge the character of another. If he continues to disbelieve you no matter what you say or do, I suggest you take the issue to a local imam or spiritual authority to have the matter resolved and have your name cleared once and for all.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam,
I agree with all, but not this sentence:
"If your friend were truly a pious person, they would never go to your husband and tell him any of your wrongdoings (even if they are true) to begin with."
If the friend of the husband should know, that her wife is cheating on her husband it would be great to tell, but as we can see from this story, he is big Liar and we all know, what happens to this kind of people.
If someone is cheating on his partner, than the cheater destroyed the family, not the one, who told the truth about it.
Would you not want to know, if your spouse is cheating on you?
BUT AS I SAID, just tell your husband, that your friend has very bad influence and tell lies and he should call his friend to swear on quran.
Brother or Sister how wrong you are. The friend of her husband should remain silent if he cannot produce an acceptable proof of adultery. Otherwise he is sinning greatly and he is cursed by Allah SWT for slandering a chaste woman.
24:4
And those who accuse chaste women and then do not produce four witnesses - lash them with eighty lashes and do not accept from them testimony ever after. And those are the defiantly disobedient,
24:23-24
"Surely those who accuse chaste believing women, unaware (of the evils), are cursed in the world and the hereafter and they shall have a grievous chastisement. On the day when their tongue and their hands and their feet shall bear witness against them as to what they did."
How could a person make such claims. Your husband should understand the concept of true islam and how the shaytan is the cause of breaking up a family. These are baseless claims unless there are witnesses of such thing. Truly Allah is the witness of everyone. Don't let shaytan rouin your home. Your husband will stand infront of Allah and maybe asked who are your witnesses to such claims? How will he respond? A friend told me? May Allah give you both guidance and protect you from shaytan and his evil whisper.
ASSALAMALAIKUM-
DEAR MRS SHUAIB-
THIS IS A CASE OF MOUKAL THAT FRIEND IS PLAYING NOT PIETY OR RIGHTIOUSNESS-
We can not ordinarily see the Jinn, unless they take a material form, which is usually in an unpleasant or ugly form such as a snake or a black dog, as opposed to angels who take pleasant and handsome forms. They can also take a human form. For example: In the battle of Badr, a kind of Jinn known as Iblis, assumed the form of a man named Suraqah Ibn Malik, and urged the disbelievers to move forward to the battle-
They debar them from the path, yet they still think they are guided. (Surat az-Zukhruf, 36-37)
They Believe They Are on the True Path......
2ND HE IS MAKING FOOL OUT OF MANY PEOPLE TO BUILD CONFIDENCE AND THEN TRY TO BREAK HOUSES LIKE YOURS-Those who have no real knowledge or secrets but depend on telling their customers about general incidences which happen to most people. They often go through a series of meaningless rituals, then make calculatedly general guesses. Some of their guesses, due to their generality, usually come true.
The Jinn may first be divided into three broad categories in relation to their modes of existence. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "There are three types of Jinn: One type which flies in the air all the time, another type which exists as snakes and dogs, and an earthbound type which resides in one place or wanders about. " (At-Tabaree and al-Haakim)
The Jinn are referred to by various names in both Arabic and English: 'Ifreet, Shaytaan, Qareen, demons, devils, spirits, ghosts, etc. They try to misguide man in various ways. Whoever listens to them and becomes a worker for them is referred to as human Shaytaan (devil).
Some people have attempted to deny the reality of the Jinn about whom the Qur'an has devoted a whole chapter, Soorah al-Jinn (72).They were named Jinn because they are hidden from the eyes of mankind......
Dr. Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips
There are among mankind, people who claim knowledge of the unseen and the future. They are known by various names, among them: fortune-teller, soothsayer, foreseer, augur, magician, prognosticator, oracle, astrologer, palmist, etc.
1ST THING YOUR HUSBAND AND HE BOTH ARE UNDER CURSE OF ALLAH AS THIS TOTALLY HARAM IN ISLAM-But as for their brothers [i.e., those among mankind who listen to the devils and obey their orders], the visitors lead them further into error. And they do not stop at that! (Surat al-A`raf, 202)
Man is always accompanied by a Jinn, who tries to incite him to evil, but the Prophet (saws) was protected from this harm.On the authority of Ibn Mus?ud the Messenger of Allah (saws) said:?There is not any one of you except that he has been assigned his companion from among the Jinn and his companion from among the Angels.? They the Companions said, ?Even you, O Messenger of Allah,? He replied ?Even me, except that Allah has helped me against the Jinn, so that I am unharmed, and so he orders me to do nothing but good.?[Muslim]
Satan enters his victim's subconscious, and rules every part of his body. For example, he inhibits the formulation of a sound thought. Satan is now so disposed to offer continual negative inspiration.
Those of his victims, whose souls Satan enters and whose bodies he rules, employ the same methods as their fiendish partner to turn others from the path of Allah, and to prevent them from behaving rightly. Like Satan, they spread the message of his religion by laying a thousand and one traps by which to combat Allah's influence on people, and to cause them to forget that which will aid them to act in a conscientious manner. In this case, it is no longer necessary to refer to Satan himself, and those under his control, as separate entities, because they themselves have become satans. They are then satans in physical form.
The satans inspire their friends to dispute with you.... (Surat al-An`am, 121)
Shall I tell you upon whom the satans descend?
They descend on every evil liar.
They give them a hearing and most of them are liars.(Surat ash-Shu`ara´, 221-223)
LAST 3-SURAS OF KHUL AND AYATAKURSI =4[ ]IF READ EXTENSIVELY WILL BREAK THE EFFECT OF THIS PERSON AND HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND-
READ ALL FILL UP ALL THE DRINKING BOTTLES IN THE FRIDGE SO THA YOUR DRINKS ONLY THIS WATER AND TRY TO BLOW ON HIS HEAD WHEN HE IS DINING GOING FROM BEHIND AS IF YOU ARE PAMPERING HIM -THIS IS PROVED IN HADEES THAT NABI SALAHUALAHAIWASALAM USED TO BLOW THE AFFECTED PART AND SLIGHTLY MOVING WITH HAND AFTER READING THE ABOVE VERSES FROM QURAN-
NOW HIS HEAD IS AFFECTED TRUST IN ALLAH AND DO THIS DONT THINK EVEN FEEL SOME ONE ALONG WITH ALLAH LIKE SOME SAINT OR TRICKSTER KNOWN IN YR LIFE CAN DO SOEM THING GOOD THEN THE VERSES OF QURAN WILL NOT WORK-
NO SHRINES NO BABAS NO HUMNA BEING ON THE EARTH CAN HELP EXCEPT ALLAH-
AND YOU CANT SWEAR ON QURAN IT IS ONLY ALLOWED TO SWEAR BY THE NAME OF ALLAH NO OTHER SWEARING IS VALID-
READ THE 4 SURAS AS MUCH POSSIBLE SITTING LYING DOWN COOKING ALL THE TIME FOR FAST EFFECT-
REGARDS-
salaam
sister i would also let your parents what is going on
Assalaam u Alaikum,
Respected Sister,
We Pray that Allah guides your Husband and the Muslim Ummah to the right path of Islam and Bless us all with the company of righteous Muslims.
Please let your husband refer to the Words of Allah SWT - The All Knower. He SWT Says in the Holy Quran Chapter# 24 - Surah Noor Verse# 4
وَالَّذِينَ يَرْمُونَ الْمُحْصَنَاتِ ثُمَّ لَمْ يَأْتُوا بِأَرْبَعَةِ شُهَدَاءَ فَاجْلِدُوهُمْ ثَمَانِينَ جَلْدَةً وَلَا تَقْبَلُوا لَهُمْ شَهَادَةً أَبَدًا ۚ وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْفَاسِقُونَ
"And those who accuse a chaste woman of fornication (zina) and do not produce 4 witnesses to support their allegation, shall be flogged with 80 lashes and their testimony shall not be accepted ever after, for they are the ones who are wicked transgressors"
Based on the above Ayat, ask your Husband to take guidance from the Law of Allah SWT in the Holy Quran in dealing with such matters and to stay away from the Fitna | Bida'aa of impostors such as his friend, as following such people will only face the Wrath of Allah SWT in this World and the Hereafter.
Your Husband's friend cannot be considered as a Saint or a Wali of Allah; in fact he is playing the role of the most Beloved Person to Shaitan from his troops who causes - Misunderstanding | Fights and finally causes Husband - Wife to Get Separated from each other, refer the Hadeeth below -
The throne of iblis is in the sea. Imam Ahmed bin Hanbal relates that Jabir said that the Prophet said, ‘Iblis places his throne on the sea. Then he sends forth his armies.The nearest of them to him in rank is the greatest in sedition (corruption of a state).One of them comes and says, “ I did such-and-such.”He says, “You did not do anything.” Then another comes and says, “I did not leave him until I split the husband from his wife.” He brings him near-or clasps him-and says, “You did well.”
This is what your husband's friend is doing without any witnesses or proofs mis-leading your spouse with his false visions.
As Good righteous Muslims, it is expected from us to do our best in keeping the sins and secrets of fellow believers of Islam Hidden. Hadeeth has been quoted below for reference.
Allah’s Messenger said:
“He, who relieves a hardship of this world for a believer, Allah will relieve (from him) a hardship of the Day of Resurrection; he who makes easy an indebted person, Allah will make it easy for him in the Dunya and the Hereafter; he who covers a Muslim (meaning his mistakes and shortcomings), Allah will cover him in the Dunya and the Hereafter” [Muslim]
May Allah SWT Help you to explain the above mentioned Law of Holy Quran and the Hadeeth quoted to your Husband and Enlighten his heart with trust and love for his wife again. Also, Give You the Strength to Forgive his Misunderstanding about your Chastity. Ameen!!! The husband should Forgive and Forget the wife’s mistakes; the wife should have the Same attitude with her husband.
Frequently recite the below Powerful Ayat (Dua) and Allah Will Be Sufficient for You to Stand against any Enemy or False accusations against you - Insh-Allah. Ameen!!!
حَسْبُنَا اللَّهُ وَنِعْمَ الْوَكِيلُ
Allah SWT (ALONE) is sufficient for us (Qur'an 3:173)
Your brother in Islam - Remember me in your prayers.
اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ، وَعَلَى آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ، كَمَا صَلَّيْتَ عَلَى إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَى آلِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، إِنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيدٌ، اللَّهُمَّ بَارِكْ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ، وَعَلَى آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ، كَمَا بَارَكْتَ عَلَى إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَعَلَى آلِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ، إِنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيدٌ
AsSalaam Alaikum Sister and also Salaam and thank you to anyone who can bring light and/or correction to my thoughts,
The man must produce witnesses to the alleged crime! And is it not correct that there is a punishment due him, if he cannot? Whether or not they are in an Islamic country, the husband should be made aware that there is no slander in Islam. There is only case and fact.
@Sister Hana,
The thing is that such a husband will never care if there were four witnesses or not, the so called Wali is enough witness for him, and no one can stop him from divorcing his wife. So the way to solve this problem is to let him disbelieve in that evil man first.
Ask your husband to leave the matter for a while and then let him excises some patience (and then you complain to Allah at the same time). After a while, let him plan some strong fake questions (in his heart) that has no reality, and then let him ask the so called Wali about them. If he answered them, your husband will then understand that, he is just a big liar, because how could he answer them while they are not even real?! I have come across such liars, and I have plaid with their minds and laughed at them a lot.
Though it is not necessary for your husband to go ask him those fake questions, but at least it should help him know the reality of this evil man (however, I do not highly recommend this option, because if your husband didn't know how to do it well, he will eventually be poisoned to believing the evil man more).
The option that I will recommend is that, you should just pray while your husband leaves the matter for a while, and then Allah will reveal the truth to your husband (whether in his dreams or in real life, where the secrets of that so called Wali shall be uncovered).
You have been oppressed by this so called Wali. And the Prophet (s.a.w.s) said: "The prayer of the oppressed is answered (by Allah), even if he (or she) is a sinner as his (or her) sinning is only against his (or her) own soul."
Just pray the normal night prayers as much as you can, you don't need any specific prayer for that, and if you wish you may include fasting on Mondays and Thursdays. You may pray 11 Rak'aat or 5 or 3 Rak'aats at nights (Cry a lot to Allah, for Allah will be shy to see an innocent wife whom have been oppressed, crying and complaining to Him, without him responding… In deed Allah the Exalted One is beyond that, He is The Only Just King and The Merciful).
If possible, I could say you should invite your husband (to this site) and let him read your post, and responses you got from your brothers and sisters around the world. This in itself should get him to think twice, because if you were not innocent you wouldn't have taken your story to this extend.
May Allah ease your husband's heart, and may the truth be revealed soon, Ameen!!!
A true wali of Allah will never do that (we believe in the presence of true Awliya of Allah), he will pray to Allah for guidance and protection, rather than revealing a secret in order to destroy a marriage. This is known to be the work of Awliya of Shaitaan, and they never see reality of anything, except that they combined psychological and astrological assumptions to mislead weak people.
Hope this helps Insha'Allah
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
"My husband has a friend who is Sayed"
Which is the equivalent of dust on yawm al Qiyamah. Lineage is irrelevant-superiority of some over others is based on taqwa of Allah.
Assalamualaikum brother,
Let's try and be careful when speaking about matters related to Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alayhi wa sallam. May Allah forgive us and give us knowledge and understanding.
The marriage of `Umar with Umm Kulthum al-Hashimiyya (6-49) the daughter of `Ali and Fatima took place on the year 17 of the Hijra. `Ali gave her away to `Umar upon his request although he was afraid at first that `Umar might not accept her due to her youth and because he wished her to marry one of her cousins among the sons of Ja`far ibn Abi Talib. But `Umar said, "Marry her to me for I swear I have toward her more dedication to excellent companionship than any man on the face of the earth."
`Umar gave her a dowry of 40,000 dirhams in honor of her lineage to the Messenger of Allah, upon him blessings and peace.
He came to the Muhajirun among the Companions as they sat between the Grave and the Pulpit, their usual place for meeting `Umar to discuss news: "Felicitate this newlywed!" Then he told them he had married `Ali's daughter Umm Kulthum and said: "I heard the Messenger of Allah say, upon him blessings and peace: 'Every lineage and means will be severed on the Day of Judgment except my lineage and my means.' I have kept company with him and wished to add this also." Later he again said, on the pulpit: "Do not disparage me [for marrying a young girl], for I heard the Prophet say, upon him blessings and peace: 'On the Judgment Day every means will be cut off and every lineage severed except my lineage.'"
I need authenticity for hadith, but that does not contradict what I said. Lineage is merely that-lineage. It's true however that the Prophet sallahualayhiwasalam made dua for his descandents.
In any case, superiority is based on taqwa, on iman and good deeds, on character. It is not based on lineage.
wa alaykumusalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
As for those narrations, that the lineage of the Prophet sallahallayhiwasalam is preserved, while this may be true, we need to take it into context. It's clear that the linage of Ahlil-Jannah is restored. When we are in Jannah we get to meet our family members who made it there.
Ibn `Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, replied, “There will be no kinship among them that Day, nor will they ask of one another” (23:101), this will happen when the Trumpet is blown for the first time, “All who are in the heavens and all who are on the earth will perish, except him whom Allah wills” (39:68), and at that time there will be no kinship among them, nor will they ask one another. Then when the Trumpet is blown again, “They will turn to one another and question one another” (37:27).
http://www.dailyhadithonline.com/2013/05/28/hadith-on-tafseer-ibn-abbas-explains-the-quran-to-a-confused-man/
Furthermore, everyone will be called by the names of their fathers, i.e, "Oh son of so and so" on yawm al Qiyamah.
However, we can see that the Prophet sallahualayhiwasalam made dua for his family, and this is a great good they have been given.
So, Mrs. Shoaib, do not take this mans lineage into account. Even if he is a Sayed, and this is next to impossible to prove today, it's irrelevant. He is a clear liar and someone who does not lie is better than him even if he is a "Sayed." Someone who does not lie and does not try to break his friends marriage is superior to this "man" who has acted a trait of the hypocrites.
Uqbah ibn Amr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No one is better than anyone else except by religion or righteous deeds; a man is held accountable for his being obscene, abusive, miserly, and cowardly.”
[Al-Bayhaqi, Shu’b Al-Iman, Number 4769, Sahih]
عَنْ عُقْبَةَ بْنِ عَامِرٍ أَنّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لَيْسَ لأَحَدٍ عَلَى أَحَدٍ فَضْلٌ إِلا بِالدِّينِ أَوْ عَمَلٍ صَالِحٍ حَسْبُ الرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَكُونَ فَاحِشًا بَذِيًّا بَخِيلا جَبَانًا
4769 شعب الإيمان للبيهقي الرابع والثلاثون من شعب الإيمان وهو
المحدث السيوطي خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح
Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “What do you consider nobility? Allah has made clear the most noble to Allah is the most righteous. What do you consider lineage? The most virtuous in lineage are those among you with the best character.”
Source: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 899
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ مَا تَعُدُّونَ الْكَرَمَ وَقَدْ بَيَّنَ اللَّهُ الْكَرَمَ فَأَكْرَمُكُمْ عِنْدَ اللهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ مَا تَعُدُّونَ الْحَسَبَ أَفْضَلُكُمْ حَسَبًا أَحْسَنُكُمْ خُلُقًا
899 الأدب المفرد للبخاري
المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No man travels a path in search of knowledge except that Allah will make easy for him the path to Paradise; and whoever is slow to perform good deeds will not be advanced by his lineage.”
[Sunan Abu Dawud, Number 3161, Sahih]
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا مِنْ رَجُلٍ يَسْلُكُ طَرِيقًا يَطْلُبُ فِيهِ عِلْمًا إِلَّا سَهَّلَ اللَّهُ لَهُ بِهِ طَرِيقَ الْجَنَّةِ وَمَنْ أَبْطَأَ بِهِ عَمَلُهُ لَمْ يُسْرِعْ بِهِ نَسَبُهُ
3161 سنن أبي داود
Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “He who relieves the hardship of a believer in this world, Allah will relieve his hardship on the Day of Judgment. He who makes easy what is difficult, Allah will make it easy for him in the world and the Hereafter. He who conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in the world and the Hereafter, for Allah helps the servant so long as he helps his brother. He who travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy a path to Paradise, for a people do not gather together in the houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying together, except that tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will cover them, angels will surround them, and Allah will mention them to those with Him; and he who is slow to good deeds will not be hastened by his lineage.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2699
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Imam Muslim
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم مَنْ نَفَّسَ عَنْ مُؤْمِنٍ كُرْبَةً مِنْ كُرَبِ الدُّنْيَا نَفَّسَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ كُرْبَةً مِنْ كُرَبِ يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ وَمَنْ يَسَّرَ عَلَى مُعْسِرٍ يَسَّرَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالآخِرَةِ وَمَنْ سَتَرَ مُسْلِمًا سَتَرَهُ اللَّهُ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالآخِرَةِ وَاللَّهُ فِي عَوْنِ الْعَبْدِ مَا كَانَ الْعَبْدُ فِي عَوْنِ أَخِيهِ وَمَنْ سَلَكَ طَرِيقًا يَلْتَمِسُ فِيهِ عِلْمًا سَهَّلَ اللَّهُ لَهُ بِهِ طَرِيقًا إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَمَا اجْتَمَعَ قَوْمٌ فِي بَيْتٍ مِنْ بُيُوتِ اللَّهِ يَتْلُونَ كِتَابَ اللَّهِ وَيَتَدَارَسُونَهُ بَيْنَهُمْ إِلاَّ نَزَلَتْ عَلَيْهِمُ السَّكِينَةُ وَغَشِيَتْهُمُ الرَّحْمَةُ وَحَفَّتْهُمُ الْمَلاَئِكَةُ وَذَكَرَهُمُ اللَّهُ فِيمَنْ عِنْدَهُ وَمَنْ بَطَّأَ بِهِ عَمَلُهُ لَمْ يُسْرِعْ بِهِ نَسَبُهُ
2699 صحيح مسلم كتاب الذكر والدعاء والتوبة والاستغفار باب فضل الاجتماع على تلاوة القرآن وعلى الذكر
Abu Umamah reported: Abu Dharr reproached Bilal about his mother, saying, “O son of a black woman!” So Bilal went to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, and he told him what he said. The Prophet became angry and then Abu Dharr came although he was unaware of what Bilal told him. The Prophet turned away from him and Abu Dharr asked, “O Messenger of Allah, have you turned away because of something you have been told?” The Prophet said, “Have you reproached Bilal about his mother?” Then the Prophet said, “By the one who revealed the Book to Muhammad (or however Allah willed for him to swear), none is more virtuous over another except by righteous deeds. You have none but an insignificant amount.”
Source: Shu’b Al-Iman Al-Bayhaqi 4760
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
عَنْ أَبِي أُمَامَةَ قَالَ عَيَّرَ أَبُو ذَرٍّ بِلالا بِأُمِّهِ فَقَالَ يَا ابْنَ السَّوْدَاءِ وَإِنَّ بِلالا أَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَأَخْبَرَهُ فَغَضِبَ فَجَاءَ أَبُو ذَرٍّ وَلَمْ يَشْعُرْ فَأَعْرَضَ عَنْهُ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ مَا أَعْرَضَكَ عَنِّي إِلا شَيْءٌ بَلَغَكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ أَنْتَ الَّذِي تُعَيِّرُ بِلالا بِأُمِّهِ قَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَالَّذِي أَنْزَلَ الْكِتَابَ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ أَوْ مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ أَنْ يَحْلِفَ مَا لأَحَدٍ عَلَيَّ فَضْلٌ إِلا بِعَمَلٍ إِنْ أَنْتُمْ إِلا كَطَفِّ الصَّاعِ
4760 شعب الإيمان للبيهقي الرابع والثلاثون من شعب الإيمان وهو
المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح بغير هذا السياق
I don't know which country you live in but if you live in western take police help and get lie detector to prove your innocence he will get caught if he lies. My brother is a officer and I saw that machine it's not fake.
Such people are very dangerous and are capable of deceiving people let alone a mare machine. They think they know better than those who made such machines, and with their braveness and how relaxed they are going to look like, while answering the questions, the machine will just get confused and detect them as truthful. And then the sister will be in more danger, and the husband might divorce her right away. So I think the best way is to rely on Allah until, He makes a way out for her.
Such people are very dangerous and are capable of deceiving people let alone a mere machine. They think they know better than those who made such machines, and with their braveness and how relaxed they are going to be like, while answering the questions, the machine will just get confused and detect them as truthful. And then the sister will be in more danger, and the husband might divorce her right away. So I think the best way is to rely on Allah until, He makes a way for her.
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
You may have seen the machine, but it lacks worth. It was invented a while ago and it is notoriously unreliable.
"The NAS conclusions paralleled those of the earlier United States Congress Office of Technology Assessment report "Scientific Validity of Polygraph Testing: A Research Review and Evaluation”.[22] Similarly, a report to Congress by the Moynihan Commission on Government Secrecy[23] on national security concluded that " The few Government-sponsored scientific research reports on polygraph validity (as opposed to its utility), especially those focusing on the screening of applicants for employment, indicate that the polygraph is neither scientifically valid nor especially effective beyond its ability to generate admissions."
It exists, and it's used, and it is not reliable.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lie_detector#National_Academy_of_Sciences
Assalamualaikum,
It looks like this man may have some contact with jinn/shayateen who are relating to him some hidden matters (of course with the permission of Allah). Shayateen are created differently than humans and therefore they may see or know things that we humans cannot. Of course shayateen cannot be trusted and they must have told him this lie in order to spread mischief. It is known that when one is in contact with shayateen and obeying their orders, they will command the person to do certain evil acts in order to continue 'helping' that person, and move them up to a 'higher level'. May Allah protect us from this evil. You will find many people claiming to be Awliya-Ullah and knowing certain hidden matters, that are really in contact with shayateen, and they mix truth with falsehood. Anybody who doesn't act according to the principles of our religion, how can they be Awliya-Ullah?
Please explain to your husband that there are certain individuals out there who misguide and cause corruption. Please take this verse of the Holy Qur'an into consideration:
And they followed [instead] what the devils had recited during the reign of Solomon. It was not Solomon who disbelieved, but the devils disbelieved, teaching people magic and that which was revealed to the two angels at Babylon, Harut and Marut. But the two angels do not teach anyone unless they say, "We are a trial, so do not disbelieve [by practicing magic]." And [yet] they learn from them that by which they cause separation between a man and his wife. But they do not harm anyone through it except by permission of Allah . And the people learn what harms them and does not benefit them. But the Children of Israel certainly knew that whoever purchased the magic would not have in the Hereafter any share. And wretched is that for which they sold themselves, if they only knew. (Qur'an 2:102)
This man is dangerous for your marriage and keeping in contact with him could have detrimental consequences. Explain to your husband the reality of this man. Either he is lying on his own to ruin your marriage, or some shayateen are giving him false information and he is spreading it. Either way, it is imperative that you and your husband cut off all contact with this person. Of course Salat, Qur'an, and Du'a are crucial during this difficult moment.
You are very right; some of this Awliya of Saitaan gets little help from Shaitaan. And sometimes Shaitaan gets just a sign of little truth of something, and then he will top up 100 lies to it, and then he will inform his servant (Wali). And then this savant will also add another 100 lies to it. So by the time the information reaches out, it will completely become a different thing.
As to the "missing girl", just simple physiological questions by a normal person about the way of her thinking and about what she does, and what friends she has and many more, could help find where she was hidding. As for the secret between a man and his wife, it is actually no longer something new. Astrologists and Physiologists can predict something due to what has been repeatedly happened to some other people in the same shoe.
Exactly. The shayateen are only able to grasp bits of information, as Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'Aala does not allow them to have full knowledge. They mix this information with lies and falsehood, and give it to the so-called fortune tellers, magicians, witches, etc. to beguile naive people.
Therefore, the magician (or person in contact with the shayateen) could inform you of certain details that only you know, by having the shayateen communicate with your qareen (companion shaytan), or through other shayateen. They will use this information to deceive you into believing they are Awliya-Ullah, and are gifted with special powers from Allah, when in reality they are working through shayateen. In exchange the magician will have to perform certain evil acts demanded by the shayateen in order to please them so that they continue doing work for the magician (this includes worshipping the shayateen and committing acts of kufr, shirk, and other outrageous acts of evil). Of course these things are all part of the unseen for us, and so we may never know the exact process through which the shayateen operate, but this could be a likely explanation. Allah knows best.
"O children of Adam, let not Satan tempt you as he removed your parents from Paradise, stripping them of their clothing to show them their private parts. Indeed, he sees you, he and his tribe, from where you do not see them. Indeed, We have made the devils allies to those who do not believe."
[al-A'raaf 7:27]
Of course, Allah knows best the fine details of how they acquire information, but whatever the case, it is through evil, unlawful means. The best way to safeguard ourselves from this evil is obviously keeping up with our Adhkaar, reciting Qur'an, Salat, etc. In that case, no magician or shayateen can cause any kind of harm to us.
“And verily, there were men among mankind who took shelter with the males among the jinn, but they (jinn) increased them (mankind) in sin and transgression.”
[al-Jinn 72:6]
“And on the Day when He will gather them (all) together (and say): ‘O you assembly of jinn! Many did you mislead of men,’ and their Awliyaa’ (friends and helpers) amongst men will say: ‘Our Lord! We benefited one from the other, but now we have reached our appointed term which You did appoint for us.’ He will say: ‘The Fire be your dwelling place, you will dwell therein forever, except as Allaah may will. Certainly your Lord is All‑Wise, All‑Knowing.’”
[al-An’aam 6:128]
Also, as a side note, I do not think it is appropriate to take an oath by the Qur'an. I hope someone more knowledgable can comment.
I know for sure we are only supposed to swear by Allah aza wa jal.
@Warrior:
Very well written, and good feedback. Keep it up! 🙂
May Allah help u sister and keep u away from such ppl. And Allah protects us from
Such destructive and dangerous ppl ameen ya rabbul alameen
Ok, so this will depend on what she actually did when holding the Holy Quran,
If she said: "By this Quran", it's totally wrong.
But if she said: "By the Lord of this Quran", that is acceptable.
ASSALAMALAIKUM
DEAR SISTER PLS LISTEN FROM CHILDHOOD WE HAVE HEARD THAT THE PURE SAYED CAN EAT[CHUNA] THE MATERIAL USED IN WELDING WORK-
calcium carbide-PLS TELL YR HUSBAND TO TELL HIS FRIEND TO EAT AND SHOW IF HE IS REAL SAYED IF HE REFUSES THEN HE IS DUPLICATE SAYED-INFLUENCED BY THE JINNS WHO BECOME THEIR GHULAM [SERVANT]AND PERFORM MANY TRICKS-
REGARDS
Brother Ali,
Main issue here is not weather the Husband is a Syed or not. It is in fact the Bida'aa he is practicing of portraying to the Sister's (Mrs. Shoaib) Husband that he's been Blessed with power to know the Unseen and falsely accusing a chaste woman of zina without any proof or witness.
And NOW here you are introducing a NEW Bida'aa which very innocently you say that from Childhood we have Heard eating 'CHUNA' is a sign to PROVE a person is from the LineAge of our Beloved Prophet PBUH. Firstly, SINCE childhood you say...well it is HIGH time you enter the Mature world and start thinking practically or else tomorrow someone might suggest you to eat Cow Dung with a smile on your face to Prove that you are a True Muslim coz that is what He had HEARD from his Childhood...So would you eat Cow Dung to Prove that you are a True Muslim with a smile on your face ???
Please...just to sympathize with someone you don't need to introduce or spread such Bida'aa verdicts in Islam or refer to the LineAge of the Holy Prophet PBUH with Disrespect.
And mind you even if this friend of the Husband really is a Syed that does not give him a special license to spread mischief and commit sins...Be Aware of the Fact that Everyone Syed or non Syed will be held accountable for their deeds on the Day of Judgement.
So, hope you and others will stop spreading what they heard since childhood and be more practical in quoting references from Hadeeth and the Holy Quran to support their stance.
ASSALAMALAIKUM
1ST YOU ARE TAKING A SAYING WHICH WHAT EVERYONE HEARD LIKE THAT AND IT IS NOT A TEACHING TO CALL IT A BIDDAH-
THIS SAYING WILL SET RIGHT HER HUSBANDS MIND AND HE MAY ASK HIS FRIEND ALSO THIS WILL SHOW HIM THAT HE WAS PLAYING AND THE PROVING BY EATING MIGHT REALLY AND SERIOUSLY COME UP THIS WE HAVE TRIED WITH MANY PEOPLE LIKE HIM HERE-AND THEY HAVE LEFT THE SCENE-FATER TELLING THAT-
AND YR ADDING COW DUNG THIS AND THAT IS NOT REQUIRED-IT WAS A HINT A GAVE TO HER TO PUT A LITTLE WORRY IN HER HUSBAND FRIENDS MIND-THAT ALL-
REGARDING THE REFERNCE I GAVE FROM QURAN AND HADEES HAS COVERED ALL IN MY 1ST REPLY-
REGARDS
May Allah's Blessings be with you brother Ali...
What I mean't was that you are posting as well as suggesting something you heard and have no relation with the LineAge of the Prophet PBUH. Please bring some sense to the suggestions you give to others.
Think for yourself why should a SYED undergo a filthy test such as eating chuna, he is as Human as you are and no sensible Human Being would want to go through a test which has NO PROVEN History. There is nothing special in a SYED, except for the fact of being Chosen and Blessed By Allah to be born from the Decendents of the Prophet, he too will be questioned in the Hereafter about his deeds.
And please study a little about Bida'aa; each and every Bida'aa found today started of, with someone saying them, which people heard, accepted and further started spreading and practicing till it reached the status of Bida'aa....
This is why I stated the example of Cow Dung, that is for sure a sensible Human being like you would NEVER eat but does that Give ANYONE the right to say you are not Muslim but Kaafir...NO!!!!
Likewise the test you suggested for a SYED to prove his identity is Ridiculous and Senseless...for the Husband can always counter question his wife as to where is the reference from the Hadees or the Quran that this test is relevant and suppose to be taken as a final verdict of someone being SYED or NOT!!! Then (Mrs. Shoaib) has to SEARCH for You brother for a reply and you will end up saying I can't prove that I have been hearing this since childhood...
My dear brother I said all this so that tomorrow we don't find people who read this blog walking upto each and every SYED and demanding to undergo the Stupid test to prove their identity of coming from the LineAge of the Prophet PBUH eventually disrespecting the true SYED as well.
And one more point that if the Shaitan Jinn can assist or influence this SYED with bringing Fabricated Information for the Husband then there is also a possibility that the Jinn could help him eat Chuna like a Gum as well, making his claims being accepted by more people.
Hope you understand. Respect the Descendants of the Prophet PBUH for they have been Blessed By Allah to be born in the LineAge of our Beloved Prophet PBUH...and be sure they too will be held accountable for their deeds in this mortal world....
ASSALAMALAIKUM-
IT WAS JUST A TRICK WE USED ON SOME PEOPLE HERE AND THEY LEFT THE SCENE AND LEFT THE VICTIM ALONE -SO IT WAS JUST A TRY I WILL SEE THAT SAYINGS WILL BE AVOIDED AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE BUT BECAUSE HE IMPOSED VERY SERIOUS BLAME ABOUT[ZINA ] THOUGHT THIIS CHUNA WILL WORK FOR HIM.
REGARDS
asalamu alaikum,
your friends husband needs to get lashed. he is lying. your husband is the fool. remind him in Islam if you claim someone committed zina you need 4 witness, who saw it with their own eyes with no alterations if one has a slight different view or saying then the 4 witness will get lashed its a serious matter.
ma salama..