His family won’t accept my non-muslim family.
I am a converted Muslim girl. My story of conversion starts when I fell in love with a Muslim boy when I was 17 years old. I didn't know anything about Islam until the third year of our relationship. I didn't know that my life was going to be changed in one day until he asked me to keep fasting on Ramadan that year. That night I simply searched online about Islam and Ramadan. But still I didn't feel anything. But the kalima LAILAHA ILLALLLAHO MUHAMMADUR-RASOOLULLAH was stuck in my mind.
On the fasting day I recited the kalima even without understanding its meaning. After that whole day I found it different. I don't have any words to explain what I felt on that day. I understood the truth of Islam and I started repenting about my past life which I led as a non Muslim. I felt someone is there invisible, with me and protecting me. I thanked Allah for guiding me in the right path.
I hid these things and my change from everyone; including my boyfriend. I secretly started learning Islam. But I continued my relationship with my boyfriend as I felt that Allah sent him to my life with some purpose. I waited for the right moment to tell him that I have accepted Islam. I understood that the only way for me to live life as a Muslim is to marry him, and he too understood all these later. The real problem came when he presented this to his family. His family is not ready to accept a girl from a non-muslim family. He tried to convince them, telling my situation. But they are not accepting.
-al noor
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1ST OF ALL ISLAM DOE NOT EBCOURAGE PREMARITAL RELATIONSHIPS
AND Marital love is not static, for it grows and flourishes with each day of marital life. It requires work and commitment, and is nourished through faith when we are thankful and appreciative of Allah blessings.
Seeing the situation it is important that you make your self -
1.Thorough Hijabi-
2.mke sure you are strong in your iman[faith]
3.try to make arrangement with the family to meet and explain.
4.as your past relationship is not the basis of your reason to revert
tell them Alah guided you to this stage.
5.see that tehy are convinced and tell them that prophet salahaualahaiwasalam
did respect the reverts and gave them best reatment and also got them married to many
anasra families by even the ansars offered to divorce their wives to give in marrige to the new reverts.
so many great points are there to convince them so YOU MUST MAKE A GOOD
ARREANGEMENT ATELAST THE PARENST CAN SEE YOU ONCE AND DONT LEAVE THE CHANCE WHWN
YOU GET MAKE THIS ABOVE POINTS CLEAR TO THEM-
HOPE YOU CAN GET THIS THROUGH-
FINALLY IF THEY DONT BUDGE WE CAN THINK OF SOME ALTERNATIVE BY USING RELATIVE TO MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND-
REGARDS-
It is a big thing in our 'culture' to accept other religion races casts... Which is absoloutely ridiculous as you should be welcomed with open arms... I respect your man standing by u and introducing u to the family when some people just keep it on the sly side, which definiatly proves that he loves you... It is a good thing being converted to Islam the true religion and no matter what happens to your relationship please dont let that put u off... You have found Allah SWT and Allah has run towards you hence the secure feeling, i'd love that, as a muslim i feel im a shame as i have never looked into religion as you have done whole heartedly..so well done. But as to your question.. Just have patience, tell your BF to have patience, u can understand why theyre feeling this way as they have worldly views, respect them and give it time.. They will come round to it, but if they dont just remember Allah has a better plan for you, everything happens for a reason.. You met him... Allah wanted you to embrace Islam... For eg read this.... Basically from the negatives turn to positives..
Awesome conversation between God And a Man. Read it and don't forget to share it with your friends.
Man: God, can I ask you a question?
God: Sure
Man: Promise you won't get mad...
God: I promise
Man: Why did you let so much stuff happen to me today?
God: What do you mean?
Man: Well, I woke up late
God: Yes
Man: My car took forever to start
God: Okay
Man: At lunch they made my sandwich wrong and I had to wait
God: Hmmm
Man: On the way home, my phone went dead, just as I picked up a call
God: Alright
Man: And to top it all off, when I got home I just wanted to soak my feet in my new foot massager and relax. BUT it wouldn't work!!! Nothing went right today! Why did you do that?
God: Let me see, the angel of death was at your bed this morning and I had to send one of my angels to battle him for your life, I let you sleep through that
Man: (humbled) OH
GOD: I didn't let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your route that would have hit you if you were on the road.
Man: (ashamed)
God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick and I didn't want you to catch what they have, I knew you couldn't afford to miss work.
Man: (embarrassed) Okay.
God: Your phone went dead because the person that was calling was going to give false witness about what you said on that call, I didn't even let you talk to them so you would be covered.
Man: (softly) I see god.
God: Oh and that foot massager, it had a shortage that was good to throw out all of the power in your house tonight. I didn't think you wanted to be in the dark.
Man: I'm sorry god
God: Don't be sorry, just learn to trust me... In all things, the good and the bad.
Man: I will trust you.
God: And don't doubt that my plan for your day is always better than your plan.
Man: I won't god. And let me just tell you god, thank you for everything today.
Goodluck babes...
If you need to chat just email me.x
Salaams,
It really grieves me when I hear about situations like this. Life can be challenging enough as a new convert, so it certainly is ridiculous that converts would have to deal with rejection from a Muslim family simply because of their family being non-Muslim. You can't control what your family believes now or will believe in the future, so for that to be held against you is totally wrong. There is no Islamic basis for such bias whatsoever.
The good news is, when a son of Muslim parents is being prevented from marrying someone without a valid Islamic reason, they are not required to follow the urges of their family. This young man has every right to exercise the option of marrying you anyway, in spite of how his family feels about it.
If this young man really cares about you, he will need to understand he has just as little control over what his family does as you do yours. He shouldn't let that be a barrier to you being together. The most important thing in such cases is following the sunnah with best intentions, which in this case is going forward and planning your wedding (nikkah). In shaa Allah, his family will come to a more reasonable and accepting position toward you and your family in time after you marry.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam. Converting from another religion to Islam means that you have been specially picked and blessed by Allah. Keep your faith strong and pray and ask dua. I will also dua that his family changes their mind and is accepting towards you.