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Foreign Marraige to obtain citizenship, what does Islam say?

broken woman

I have question. I don’t know much about divorce in Islam as I was raised in America since birth.
I’m muslim Elhumdulillah.
A Muslim man married me and deceived me by using me to get citizenship.
Before I married him I asked him if he has married before he said Yes then I asked him is he divorced he said Yes.
I would not marry him if he was married because I didn’t accept to be his second wife.
My family asked him if he is divorced he said Yes
My imam which married us asked him if he is divorced he said Yes
After I married him we applied for his green-card.
The lawyer required his divorce paper which he gave.
He signed many application for greencard he is divorced from his first wife.
We went in for interview and he confirmed he is divorced to first wife in the interview (myself lawyer and the interviewer as witness).
Then after 3 years he applied for citizenship.
He had to provide many proofs that he is divorced to his first wife. He also signed many applications he is divorced to her.
I keep asking as I didn’t feel right in our 5 years marriage “are you divorced to your first wife” he would say “wallah I’m divorced”.

Now when he finally became US citizen he tells me he accepted his first wife back as his wife!!
Then he divorced me and left...
I find out he never divorced her and while I was married to me he got her with child...

My question is I know what he did is harram and Allah knows best for what he will deserve in this world and here after.
But doing this did he end up automatically divorcing his first wife???? Isn’t there a limit in uttering the word “divorce” and abusing it while making the divorce really happen even if he only wanted to trick and deceive all of us??

He says he didn’t tell her and he didn’t mean it in his heart.
Does that mean he is not divorced to his first wife?

Please give me your advise. What does Islam say!

Thank you!

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  1. OP: He had to provide many proofs that he is divorced to his first wife. He also signed many applications he is divorced to her.
    I keep asking as I didn’t feel right in our 5 years marriage “are you divorced to your first wife” he would say “wallah I’m divorced”.
    ........Now when he finally became US citizen he tells me he accepted his first wife back as his wife!!
    Then he divorced me and left..............I find out he never divorced her and while I was married to me he got her with child...

    It is quiet possible his wife knew her husband married you to get his green card/citizenship. Your ex-husband also committed fraud with immigration service by claiming to be divorced. He also broken US law by marrying you while he was married.

    His wife may not even get a Visa to come to US if her husband claims he divorced her and remarried.

  2. He can't divorce you by just saying "Talaq" it's a 3 mnths cycle.

    Sister before marrying someone do "Istikhara "

    And why did you married a guy who was already divorced ....

    Inshallah he will pay the price in this or hereafter.

  3. Please report your ex-husband to the authorities - make them aware that he scammed his way to citizenship and that he provided them with fake documents. Easy come, easy go. It's people like your husband that give presidents like Donald Trump a good reason for wanting to build up walls...disgusting.

  4. @humaABD, you having very great nature because of you married a divorce man knowing about him, So 1st thing i wanted to tell you that in Islam if a Man Married and he wanted to do another Marriage then he 1st have permission from his 1st wife for marry another woman if his wife decline then he cannot do another Marriage ,this is rule you will found written for sure.

    I am too a Divorce my ex wife leave me just in 7 days leaving together because of she wanted to go with her love, She replied to me her parents forced her to marry me because of my nature and family knowledge, so i admitted her too much request of just leave her so i forced to leave her by herself.

    At my case i taken my divorce from court, Now i will get shortly my bachelor certificate provided by court as my proof of " Legally Divorced and No Charges on Myself ". So this is called as Legally Declared Certificate.

    So about you he cheated You and Allah both, Allah watching all of us don't panic " 3 Times Saying Talaq at ones sitting didn't written anywhere " and That doing doesn't prove you separated, about what happens with you just complain authority about this i am sure you should have complain about false divorce papers he given to authorities.

  5. Divorce happen even if he say in joke. He signed it many times. Admitted it before others . So divorce happened

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