How to get more closer to Allah?
Asslaam o allikum
dear islamic brothers and sisters
I don't know where to start my life has been a massive struggle i m in a very complicated stressful marriage hardly have any friends and family is next to nothing because of all these hardships in life i am going away from deen i have committed sins which people who know me will not even believe but Allah almighty has gave me strength to see sense and to repent and ask for forgiveness.
i was a lot more practicing Muslim than what i am now. I am so busy in my worldly chores (from going to work ,looking after children ,cooking , cleaning and looking after useless husband) i just tend not to even say prayers five times a day but I feel really bad about it and ask Allah SWT to give me strength to be a better Muslim I try my best but i will be so busy or so tired to do any thing .
I am so confused and scared don't know what to do I don't have peace in my life I don't have barkah in my life it feels like i m on the run all that time please help me I don't want to go on the path which leads to hell fire i want to be close to Allah SWT and want to live my life according to sunnah of prophet SAW i need some guidance living in West is not a great help either i live in society where every one is in a race against time for wealth name and fame
who ever reads my post please do dua for me .
Rosses.
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Assalamualaikum Rosses,
What it takes to become a better Muslim and avoid sins is determination and belief in yourself.
When a person does good, Shaitaan strives to make that "one time deed". Rather it should be continuous. It is easy to do something once or twice, but it is difficult to remain steadfast upon it. Shaitaan works to make us lazy and pulls us away from the Lord and towards himself.
A person does all the five prayers, does Sunan, does extra nawafil, reads Quraan frequently, does dhikr, and has high taqwa. After some days, he slowly begins to leave dhikr and finds excuses for the same. He says "it is not obligatory". He then gradually leaves the nawaafil and says "I offer the obligatory prayers and the sunan". Then after some days, he leaves the sunan and says "I have no time, so I will just offer the obligatory prayers". Then he leaves the obligatory prayers and says "May Allah Forgive me, I could not find time for the prayer, I will make it up later". This eventually leads him to Kufr.
How to avoid all this mess and remain steadfast? The answer is "determination". Shaitaan is highly experienced, but his plot is weak, as Allah Says in the Quran.
You are not busy, but are made to feel busy. You can take time out for prayers, and with Khushoo'. People also reduce khushoo' due to their busy schedules. It need not be thus. Determination can solve this issue, too.
Learn how to develop khushoo' in Salah. One thing is to pray as though you can see Allah, standing in His Court, imagining yourself falling on your face to Him. Whenever you find time, read about Islam, listen to duroos. Go to http://understand-islam.net and make good use of the resources there.
Also work on repairing your married life, as it will fuel your tranquility. Seek Allah's Help in Sujood, in the middle of the night, because Allah Is nearest to a servant when he is in sujood and He Is nearest to a servant in the middle of the night.
May Allah Help you become a better Muslim amd give you success in this life and the next.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
ASSALAMALAIAKUM-
i want to be close to Allah SWT and want to live my life according to sunnah of prophet SAW i need some guidance.........
The similitude of the one who makes remembrance of his Lord and the one who does not is like the living and the dead.
The sign that Allaah has turned away from a servant is that He makes him busy with matters that are of no concern to him -- when a person reaches such a point, he must repent and ask Allaah to guide him to those matters that are important and beneficial.
O Allaah, enlighten what is dark in me, strengthen what is weak in me, mend what is broken in me, bind what is bruised in me, heal what is sick in me, straighten what is crooked in me, and revive peace and love that has died in me Aameen!Obedience to Allaah Most High is not attainable without self-restraint.
JUST READ ASTGAFIRULLAH ASTGAFIRULLAH ASTGAFIRULLAH ASTGAFIRULLAH AS MANY TIMES SLEEPING LYING STANDING WORKING TRAVELLING AND ALL THE TIME YOU WILL INSHALLAH OVER COME ALL THE HARDSHIPS WIHT OUT EVEN KNWING AND UOU WILL FIND YOUR SELF TO BE PRACTICING MUSLIM-
AND THIS ALSO VERY POWERFUL DUA BE IT WEST OR EAST OR NOTH OR SOUT YOU WILL SEE THE TURNING OF YOUR HEART VERU SOON- JUST READ SLEEPING LYING STANDING WORKING TRAVELLING Allahumma a-inni ala Zikrika wa shukrika wa husni ibadatika
O Allah! Help me to remember you, to thank you, and to worship you in the best of manners
[Ref-Abu Dawud 2/86, An-Nasa'i 3/53. Abu Dawud 1 /284]
REST ALL THE BEST YOU WILL BE SO STRONG IN A FEW MONTHS YOU WILL BE SURPRISED-
A man complained to Al-Hasan about a drought, and he said to him: “Pray to Allah for forgiveness.”
Another man complained to him of poverty and he said to him: “Pray to Allah to forgive you.”
Another man said to him: “Pray to Allah to bless me with a child.” He said: “Pray to Allah for forgiveness.”
Another complained to him that his garden was dry. He said to him: “Pray to Allah for forgiveness.”
He was asked about it and he said: “This is not my personal opinion, for Allah says in Surah Nooh (interpretation of the meaning): ‘Ask forgiveness from your Lord, verily, He is Oft Forgiving; He will send rain to you in abundance. And give you increase in wealth and children, and bestow on you gardens and bestow on you rivers.” Tafseer Al-Qurtubi (18/301-302)
One of the narrators of a Hadith was asked about the manner in which forgiveness is to be sought, to which he answered: "The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) used to say: ‘Astaghfirullah! Astaghfirullah! (I beseech Allah for forgiveness, I beseech Allah for forgiveness)’.” [Sahih Muslim].
Call unto Me, I will answer you. Those who are too proud to worship Me will enter Hell(40:60).
SUBJECT TO YOUR NOT INDULGING IN ANY MEDITATION TYPE OF DUA TO ALLAH BY GIVING.......... FOR THE SAKE OF PROPHET SALAHAUALAHAIWASALAM OR SAKE OF THIS SAKE OF THAT IT IS AGAINST THE TEACHINGS OF PROPHET SALAHAUALAHAIWASALAM AND SHARIAH] BECAUSE ALLAH IS REHMAN AND RAHEEM AND GAFFAR AND SATTAR ETC -SO HE NEEDS NOT ANY SAKE OF STORIES IF YOU USE IN THE SAKE OF ANY CREATURE IT IS AS GOOD AS YOU HAVE DENOUNCED THAT HE IS NOT RAHMAN AND RAHEEM AND YOU DONE BLASPHEMEY IN HIS ATTRIBUTES-
REGARDS
I understand exactly what you mean. Keeping up with life's problems is very hard, especially if you work, have kids, and no help. and to top all that everyone's problems are being thrown at you.
but you can not forget that this is all a test from Allah and this world is a journey for us. material things and the "american life" isnt something we are here for or believe in. We shouldn't care about buying expensive stuff, fancy homes, or have a good job. This stuff doesn't mean ANYTHING. it makes you forget why Allah sent you here, It makes you want more and work harder to get it.
now think about it .. what do you really want? all that energy and effort you're putting to get the most out of this world. aren't you forgetting the bigger picture? Don't you want to get the most for the afterlife?
Relook at your life and make changes. Allah Stw tests us and the Shataan pushes away from Allah. Dont let the Shatan get to you.
I will make duaa for you.
Bisma Allah, walhamdulillah,
My dear sister, I could feel your pain, being in need to compete with both time and life, at the same time the people you struggling for do not show signs that they care, or even appreciate it, and with all that going around, you see your deen just slipping and wading away just like that. you have so much love for Allah and fear of ending in hell for it, but it's just like you're paralyzed, and that, again, tears your inside with huge pain and agonies even in your sleep, you don't sleep like others do, you're afraid if you died in your sleep, before correcting your relation with Allah, then you're going straight to hell. but you sleep only from sheer fatigue. It's just a huge bundle of torture in a shape of a life. Believe me, it's all gonna disappear, just like that, if you repent and start praying your five daily prayers, and after you start doing it, then start asking Allah in your prayers to help you. The evil one will never leave you alone, and might not let you do it in the beginning, but if you keep remember that the five prayers is the only thing that makes you Muslim, and the only thing that will rescue you at all levels, and i'm not theorizing, i was in situation so far beyond what you have described, i would sleep with the help of.....(you can only imagine) but alhamdulillah (thanks to Allah) Allah saved me after i started doing the five prayers, and in those prayers i would eagerly ask Him for His help to be out of it. Allah loves the sons of Adam, and He shows His immense mercy to those of them who turn to Him and seek it. Allah is most merciful to those in situations, even when they can't even feel it, He would be the One Who make you unable to live in peace without the five prayers because He wants you to come back and repent it and correct your course. If you have that agony because of it, it's because He wants you back, for the sake of your own self, so that you do your part and avoid hell which is not only atfer death, but also in this life.
Allah promised the believers who do the good deeds He described through His messengers to live a good life and to reward them far better than what they do. Allah says that in the Quran- Surah (Al Nahl) verse 97:
مَنْ عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيِيَنَّهُ حَيَاةً طَيِّبَةً وَلَنَجْزِيَنَّهُمْ أَجْرَهُمْ بِأَحْسَنِ مَا كَانُوا يَعْمَلُونَ (97) } النحل
Translation of meaning : (( Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he or she is a believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life in this life and in the hereafter We shall pay them certainly a better reward in proportion to what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter).
I pray Allah to help you out of it, but you need to do one thing, make tawbah, stop and repent and regret your major sin of not praying the five prayers and correct your course, you start by making ghusl from janaabah (uterus) and pray 2 raka'a after which you say the istighfar and ask Allah to forgive the past deeds, and then start and keep the five prayers. A small piece of info my sis, skipping the five prayers is the biggest sin any Muslim can commit, even bigger than homicide, and i'm saying this only to let you see how big it is not to pray the five prayers. it means you lose everything, starting from losing yourself, if you do not pray the five prayers, so tawba and correcting of your course starts by going back to the five prayers, and once you do that, and keep the prayers on time (also doing the prayers out of time is considered as if not doing them, so keep this point in mind) then everything else is far easy. It really helps if you read the Quran regularly or listen to it regularly, eve if during your house works, or on your way to work and from work.
I pray Allah to help you with it all, insha'Allah
wassalamo alaikom.
Assalam u alaikum wr wb sister.
Well me myself is victim of it.
I am neither married nor do I work just caught in this worldly race. though I am aware that this life is test or dream/bubble it will burst. I can't tell you anything but say ALLAH give us all hidayah and bless us all here and hereafter
Asalaamu alaikum
My life has been like the hell since I was children. I lived without parents and I grew up with the fear that the all thing was because of me, because I was useless and I make people far away from me. Everyday I looked at the windows, wondering if someone could come back to pick me up but then I realised and inside I had the death that nobody will come. I gave up praying because I thought what's the point in it, it's useless. And yet in this period I started to pray five times per day and doing du'a. My life didn't change very much, I have no friends, and the only few friends I have, they ignore me. I don't know maybe it's just my life, it's too hard accepting it. It's hard to accept the fact that I'm useless and I don't deserve a thing. I read I should have patience but how can I have patience if I didn't have a family and now I don't have friends ?? What the point in this ???
Do baith on the hands of a allahs vali ( any vali from naqshbandi silsila find on net their numbers) and tell ur problems to him he will help u dont post on net no one will solve ur problems except Allah perform 5 salat & do complete hijab & fear Allah