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How do I go about getting a divorce from my husband?

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My husband and I were separated last year in April. We had a good marriage, but then things started getting a little hard for the both of us. I was going through menopause and was not very sexual with my husband. I know it was not a good thing to do, for my husband went to someone else and cheated on me.

When we separated he went to this other woman. My husband has a habit of doing this for I am his third wife and he did this to his other two wives also. We happened to be soul mates and we went through a lot and stayed with each other and had a good life for a while. I let him know that I think we made a mistake walking away from our marriage, but I think that he is really involved with this other woman. She is not Muslim, and he has been calling me almost everyday since our separation. But he isn't being honest with me or the other woman.

I'm not sure if I want a divorce for I don't believe in them, but I don't see us getting back together.

How do I go about getting a divorce?


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  1. AA;

    As usual, my advice would be to try to work things out. Ask family member to get involved, Imam, friend, etc. someone that might be able to get you guys to sit and talk about it.

    Please think about it and inshallah ALLAH will give you guidance and patience.

    If I am correct, it is from ALLAH. If I err it is from me, and I pray ALLAH forgives me.

    AA

  2. clearly he needs more than one wife...

    tell him to respectfully marry more than one or be happy with one and stop adultery! if he does decide to marry more than one help him do that. If you cant then respectfully separate... its simple - why are muslims making their lives more difficult than they need to be.

    Allah has given us many options lets use them before we do haram and help each other maintain what is halal.

  3. Firstly your husband is a hypocrite to have a relationship with a non-muslim women which is strictly forbidden, and his weakness led him to cheat on you, if he truly loved you he would have never gone elswhere to satisfy his desires, i would say before you divorce, pray salat-ul-istikhara and ask Allah if their is a future for your marriage, based on the istikhara make your decision and keep faith in Allah to guide you, i hope it works out for you sister inshaAllah.

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