How can I get this man in a Halal way in marriage?
Pre-Marital Relationship v/s Marriage
I am currently going out with a boy and I know it is wrong, but we both want to get married
I'm 17 years old and he's just turned 19. He's looking for a job and says as soon as he gets a job he wants to marry me but i was reading a few notes on Marriage in Islam and it made me think that I should break up with him and InshAllah if its meant to be Allah will make us get married, but is that good enough?
And is there any dua I can read to help me in getting him in a more halal way as I don't want him and myself to sin.
~ maryam-xkhanx
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Firstly you have to stop talking with this boy as it is a sin and you know it. Boyfriend-girlfriend relationsip is haram so do tawbah. This is the first step to halaal. Secondly, talk to your parents and convince them that you interested in that individual and you want to marry him. If your parents deny, then you have to accept it and move on. If they accept, good.
The only du'a to make this halaal is for his parents to come and meet your parents or vice versa and you both should not do the talking, planing etc privately as this will lead to SIN. Once family meeting is done, if they agree then marry him immediately, if they disagree then have patience and put faith in Allah and never ever talk to that boy again. Do not haste, you are tooo young and obey your parents.
Aslamu alaikum,
Sister its to early to think about marriage, one thing you must understand about Love & infatuation. however pre marital in islam is forbidden. allah said promise us regarding wedding that he create the humans pair by pair, so you pair may be born already. so all you need is let it be and stay away from private person ( in terms of relations), this age gifted by allah so explore your self and study well and increase your knowledge towards islam. teach your friends and relative about good way of being a ummah..dont commit your life under commitments, dont miss you 5 times prayer.
Ask forgiveness from allah what you did past, insha allah, allah will grant you the jannah and always remember (propht S.W.T) in your duas.
Insha allah, Allah will show you the right path Ameen,
If you want further clarification just drop a comment. Insha alla we here to help you.
Regards,
Nazar
Salamualaikum,
Sister, firstly, Islam does not approve girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. But there is an option to make it Halaal through marriage.
Sister, how you can proceed is by doing Istikhaarah with Trust in Allah, then having this boy approach your father asking for you in marriage, or you can talk you them yourself.
Other than this, I don't see any way for you to get him in a Halaal way in marriage.
There's this Dua in the Quran, you can insha Allah read:
"Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A'yunin waj'alna lil- muttaqina imama."
"Our Lord! grant us in our mates and offspring the joy of our eyes and make us patterns for those who guard against evil." (25:74)
And Allah Knows Best
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Ma shaa Allah very comprehensive and good answer. Dua for me too. Jazaak Allah Khairan.