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Haraam Relationship : Phone Sex. Now I want to repent.

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Asalaamualaikum....

 

I feel shame to tell my story but i don't have any other option except this website.

I am 24 old male Muslim .. 9 months ago 1 girl accidentally talked with me on phone... And she liked me alot .. I told her that I don't have time for these relationships but she continuously called me and she strongly fell in love with me... I was ignoring her... But after 2 months I started getting close to her on phone somewhat I liked her.

But after 4 months I started talking bad things to her ( phone sex ) and first she was not responding well. but after some time, she started responding to s*x talk on the phone and we got further and we done 6 times phone s*x... I was blaming myself for this every time we done phone s*x.... But I was also loving her... She told me she can't live without me. I was feeling bad for her when she said she is crying for me she is dying in love with me.. i thought she is deeply in love with me... 9 months passed and recently she joined WhatsApp and I was thinking she will now daily chat with me and we will not miss each other more.. but everything changed on first day of WhatsApp she started sending breakup texts.. she started ignoring me... And now she is acting like she doesn't care anymore... I am really upset. And I got hurt...

Now I want to leave all these things ...

Question is: I done phone s*x with her in these months.. will ALLAH forgive me.. is she will forgive me first.. is I am only which is responsible for this sinful act ( phone s*x ) .. is Allah will not forgive me till she forgives me.

Is she also responsible for this act ...

I want to get out of these sinful acts.. haraam relationship... I want to get close to ALLAH

I want to repent.. how I can repent ... WILL ALLAH FORGIVE ME?

WAITING FOR YOUR ANSWER I AM REALLY IN BAD CONDITION.

 

Sorry for bad english

Zuhaib


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  1. I can relate to you..
    I'm trying to leave someone. We both like eachother but he I think is just interested in keeping me as his girlfriend. I never wanted to be a part of this. When I like someone, I'm willing to take responsibility and marry him. I hate relationships because of all the bad it brings to our Spiritual, Emotional, Mental and Physical health. I feel sinful even being in contact with him. Even knowing him makes me feel bad. Because its like a part of the bigger sin. I end up committing some kind of a sin. Everyday every night i cry. I cry out so badly. I just can't help it. And I just want to end it. I know, I know leaving him is going to hurt real bad but I want to end all things. Being a Muslim, I can't do this. I can't face Allah Almighty like this. I feel so ashamed. I feel like killing myself, physically hurting myself; every time I do anything not liked by Allah Almighty but then I remind myself that I have no right to hurt myself or try to take my life because He(Allah) is surely the One who has the right to take my life. I'm a nobody.
    I'm trying to talk to him in a way that he'd agree. Because I have a part to play in this as well. And when we'd leave one another, he'd be hurt too. And the least I can do is talk to him and then leave. Leaving abruptly feels like a bad idea to me.

    • Sister May Allah heal your pain. i know it really hurts but i want to tell you something whenever a person does something that he hates but do it for the sake of Allah then know that you are having the best chance to achieve Allah’s love and he’s loving you and will grant you with Something or someone much more better than that you loved before....But i think (May Allah forgive me if the idea is wrong) That u should talk really politely to him for last the time and tell him your clear intention tell him that you want him to be your husband, you want his love in the halal way which is nikah if he makes excuses or insist on the haram relationship then make pure intention to leave him for the sake of Allah even if it is hurting you but Allah Is very Merciful HE SWT will help you....May Allah make things easy for u that are for your betterment...AMEEN...a beautiful verse of the Quran came in to my mind l’ll Share with u its translation only “ may be that a thing is hard upon you though it is (really) good for you, and it may be that you love a thing while it is bad for you. Allâh knows (all things) while you do not know. salam o alaikum

  2. Salaam bro,

    make a sincere repent to Allah, and he will forgive you. Allah is the Oft-forgiving. As far as I know, every sinner will be forgiven if they repent to Allah and don't make sins again except those who worship the Almighty Allah with partner (Shirik)


    you have to make sure that 1) you completely stop the sin. 2) Regret deeply and truly for the sin you committed. 3) Return to the Almighty Allah for forgiveness. 4) Make a strong intention never to return to that same sin again.

    (Click to read more: http://productivemuslim.com/sincere-repentance-a-sure-path-to-forgiveness/#ixzz52EyHVc4P )

    “Say: O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily, Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Surah Az-Zumar 39:53)

    “Indeed Allah loves those who repent and purify themselves.“ [Surah Al Baqarah, 2:222]

    “And Allah has the most excellent and perfect names, so worship and invoke Him by them” (Al-A’raaf, 7:180) So my brother, ask for forgiveness using Allah's 99 names

    Abu Hurairah (R.A.A) reported: Messenger of Allah (S.A.W.S) said, “One who weeps out of fear of Allah, will not enter Hell till milk returns back in the udder…” [At-Tirmidhi]. weep to Allah out of fear and he will forgive you In Shaa Allah

    “Our Lord! We have wronged ourselves. If Thou forgive us not and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the losers.” (Al-A’raf; 7:23)

    “My Rubb! Forgive me and pardon me. Indeed, You are the Oft-Returning with compassion and Ever Merciful.” (Reported in Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi).

    “O, Allah! Forgive my sins, my ignorance, my intemperance in my affairs and all that I am not aware of but You know. O, Allah! Forgive my play and my seriousness. Forgive my sins, be they un-deliberate or deliberate, for all of which I am responsible.” (Source: Sahih Al-Bukhari # 6398)

    May Allah forgive us all, Ameen

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