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He blackmailed me and made my life hell

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Oh my brothers and sisters please help...

At the age of 5 years my 3 neighbours started to sexually abuse me. I don't remember till the age of 8 or 10. This ruined my life and also 2 men - I don't know them - physically abused me during childhood. During my teenage years I started masturbation and had an affair which I later left. Unfortunately I met a boy in university who showed so much of love and somehow convinced me for the relation. In the beginning he showed so much of love and don't became physical and I shared with him my childhood tragedies. Later he started changed and become physical. I tried to convince him that this is illegal but he didn't understand and we became physical. After 2 yrs of relation we started fighting and things get worst. I abused him and he abused me. I got to know he had relation with another girl and I broke with him.

After 5 months he came back but I denied him. He started blackmailing me that he would upload my pictures on google and show it to my parents if I don't marry him. I convinced my family to marry me with him and later they agreed and we fixed the date for engagement. From that date he ignored me and his father didn't like me and before 3 days of engagement he and his father said no to this marriage. Now I'm so depressed and ma mom coz I only knew how he blackmailed me and made my life hell throughout the 1 yr he blackmailed me.

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  1. sorry to hear this, dont be afraid. if he blackmailed you again tell him that you have told everything to your parents and they will see you and will go to the police station for FIR.
    if he continuously threaten you dont be afraid he blackmails you only because you get afraid and he knows it.
    just tell him do what you can do i am not afraid of you..

  2. sister dont u worry about these things u can bear all things get ur self prepared no matter what happen just dont loose hope.
    now about blackmailing just talk to the guy and tell him that u r not afraid do what ever he can do..and do tell him that u r going to tell all this shit to ur family..and his family..

    and just do it. without wasting time tell ur family first and then ur dad or mom or brother talk to his family.

    this world is full of demons and if u wont ask help from ALLAH no one can help u..

    in this case i would say try to see those who love u who really want to see u happy.
    like ur family
    ammi abbu...siblings..

    just go to them and tell them every thing trust me nothing will happen more...like u have faced much bad part of it just try to make sure ur parents are with u in start u may see them angry but it will work soon...

    trust me never trust on ur friends in these type of matters...go and talk to ur parents family members
    inshallahtalah u will get ur soul mate very soon 🙂

  3. if he indeed blackmailed you,do Tahajjud salah and ask AllahSWT in dua to teach him a lesson.

    • Dear sister,

      Constantly make dua and seek istigfaar.

      Don't worry about anything, make sure you don't show him that you're afraid. Threaten him with the police if he continues to harass you.

      Allah is the Protector and nothing can happen without His permission.

      My dua's are with you.

  4. Sister, u should tell your parents about all of this. I know it's a bit difficult but still don't lose hope. Offer 5 times prayers daily. Seek for ALLAH's forgiveness and ask for His help. Because only and only He can help you.

  5. Slaamuilykum
    Sister dont allow him to control your life tell your family everything and lodge a complain of blackmail by the police then he wont dare post anything about you
    Dont forgot you are oppressed and the dua of such a person has no vail between him/her and Allah
    Hope things gets better
    Ahmed

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