Help required with Istikhaarah result
Dua for Istikhaarah
Assalamualaikum
Till now I have received 3 Marriage Alliances. All of them were very good.
First alliance was from my distance relation, they guy was very good and well educated. Even I liked him but before anything i thought of offering Istikhara namaz. I did only one time and that night I had a dream, I saw my Late Grand Father in white dress telling me, I would live happy life ".
I dint understand this for first time......After few days the affection I had on that guy decreased and that alliance was cancelled and now he is married but still am not able to forget him..... Its not that i love him but just little affectionate...But he is married now...
Second Alliance I received after 5 months, even that guy was very good and well educated and with good personality. I actually know him. He is my neighbor. One of my family friend bought this alliance for me. My mom was really happy because we all are like good friends. I offered Istikhara even for him......
After few days he started speaking to me suddenly...... I thanked Allah and decided to marry him since everyone wants me to marry him...... but after few days he left me saying that i would get good life partner.......
What miracle happened was he started speaking to me and left me after few days..... I prayed istikhara for 3 days and all the 3 days i saw him in my dreams and had strong affection those days but after few days my love on him was decreased but still not able to forget him....
And now finally I have started loving one guy.... Even he is from good family and well educated... Totally Islamic and little modern too.... I actually started loving him from the day i offered Istikhara for my second alliance.... Problem is he doesn't know me and i don't know how to approach....... Even for him I offered Istikhara Namaz, because its very important to ask Allah permission..... I offered one time...... From that day am having strong affection on him but yes like everyone even am confused some times.......
That night of Istikhara i had a dream, I saw this guy in dream and lizard in dream....Lizard is sitting on my forehead and slowly moving from my forehead.... am killing lizard in my dreams..... It actually died...... From that day I have decided to marry him but sometimes i get confused because I don't know how to approach and am very scared whether will i marry him or not.....
Please help me.... First 2 alliances i received from relations and final one is they guy i started loving but dint approach...
Am really confused...Am still not able to forget those 2 alliances guys but i don't love them....and the final guy is I love him but sometimes I get confused and afraid whether will it work for me or not....
Please tell me what should i do.
~ unnisa
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Assalamu alaykum sister,
you really fall in "love" very quickly. How can you love someone if you dont know their character???you say he is educated and totally Islamic , whats your definition of totally Islamic?you did not even talk to him to know his character or anything about him. if you want to marry him i strongly recomend you to tell to your parents and approach for that guy. once you did that and if that guy agrees too you two can meet with a maharam of yours somewhere and you can start talking.you have to find out about his character,deen and values.....and remember always do istikhara,not just once or twice at least 7days. and please try to not love any guy as you do not even know him ,if you feel something for him already you wont be able to judge his character as he sounds like the perfect muslim guy in your opinion.do not be sad if it doesnt work, always remember if it doesnt work it was not meant to be, you just have to be patient and Allah will find the right guy for you inshALLAH
Muslimgirl. Exactly what I was thinking when reading the post..You develop feelings for men too quickly and way.too often...
I think you have a lot of growing up to do before you consider marriage. Thats just my opinion.
Hi Unnisa,
i agree with some of muslimgirl's comments as said a fore, but i need to tell you that you are not at all controlling your feeling, that's why you fall in love frequently, but i'm not saying that it is not good, but you or even any body can't stop to love, coze its happen naturally, and as we know that we can't go against the nature,
so just wait for some time and every thing will be ok,
i would like to tell you that you dont need to think about him or anybody else after ishtikara, just admit your results to your guardians and leave it they will take it for further, then you will get your loved one, this will help you to love only one man whom you deserve and love, just do the things and be happy,
God Bless You
Gopi Gaikwad (Ira & Alika)
Assalamu'alaikum sister,
If things did not work out, the result was negative. Istikhaarah makes things easy for you and things work out if they are good for you. The fact that the first two did not work is enough to believe that the signs were negative. Results of IStikhaarah do not depend on dreams.
Now that you like this man, indicate this to your parents somehow. Let them know through your friends or your older sisters or someone. Involvement of your Wali is necessary, than you approaching him yourself as it will be within the guidelines of the Sharee'ah.
Remember one thing: never let the feeling of love intensify. If it fails, it will ne difficult to overcome. Just say: if this man is good for my deen and dunya, he will be mine. Hope this helps.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Wa'alaykumsalam,
Dreams can have many interpretations and some may have no meaning at all.
Regarding lizards in dreams, one of my sheikh here said that it may mean that you are doing something of grave sin/error/mistake. You may ask, what makes lizards evil ? Basically because our prophet said that it used to blow the fire towards Allah's messenger Ibrahim AS and prophet called the lizard, "a mischief-doer" (Sahih Bukhari and Muslim).
So since you saw this guy as well as lizard in your dream, it can mean that, this guy is wrong for you and by marrying him will cause you greater harm ? and when you kill the lizard it may mean that you should kill/cut off this proposed relationship ? wallahu 'alam. Don't take this seriously, I just gave some idea regarding your dreams.
Continue praying istikharra, control your feelings and don't fall for anyone you meet. know your Islamic limits, obey and fear Allah.
Masha ALLAH nice response