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AsalaamOAlkuim,

I am deaf and 32 years old. I am artist. I have cancer. I have no job. I am more depressed about my life in future. I always jealous of my cousins who are happy married life. I really hate myself. I am not happy with Allah as He gave me deaf. I need positive advices.

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  1. Assalaamualaikoem my dear brother / sister in Islam. Im truly sorry to hear about your situation and feel your pain. Put your trust in Allaah swt and know that everything in this world / life is temporary. A true believer will never be truly happy in this dunya. The aakhira is much more enduring and everlasting for the believers. We are all put into this dunya as a test, to obey our creator, and in return, will we earn paradise, which is everlasting. Please remember that Allaah is with those who are ill. Try focusing on the positives in your life. Like, eg, you still have your sight, ears, nose, limbs etc. Try to make use of these other parts of your body and make wudhu and read salaah. Try reading at least 2 pages or more of Quran after Salaah. Wallahi, reading Salaah and Quran, eases all pain and takes away all negativity. Know that Allaah swt loves you and each and every one of us. Have patience and put your trust in Allah swt alone. Only HE could make things better for you / us. I pray that Allah swt grants you patience,ease and good health. Aameen. Jazakallah u khairan.

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  3. My sister Salam listen carefully understand..

    ALLAH GAVE PEOPLE SO MANY GIFTS QUALITIES BUT OUT OF THOSE THE BEST GIFT IN THE SIGHT OF ALLAH IS TO IMAN...THAT IS TO BELIEVE IN WORDS AND ACTION THAT ALLAH IS THE CREATOR OF THIS ENTIRE UNIVERSE HEAVENS EARTH EVERYTHING THAT WE KNOW AND CAN'T IMAGINE....WE MUSLIMS WHO HAVE THIS GIFT NEED TO TAKE CARE OF IT AND PROTECT IT...EG..THE HEART IS LIKE A MIRROR IF IT'S POLISHED IT WILL REFLECT CLEARLY..
    SIMILARLY IF WE DO GOOD DEEDS PRAY SALAH READ QURAN HELP OTHERS THEN ARE HEARTS WILL FIND PEACE TRANQUILITY SATIFACTION LOVE FOR ALL.JUST LIKE ARE PROPHET MUHAMMAD. .YOU SEE ALLAH CREATED US FOR TEST TO SEE WHO IS BEST IN PIETY ETC...AND ARE INVISIBLE ENEMY SHAITAN IS ALWAYS THERE WAITING TO WHISPER EVIL IN ANYWAY SO YOU CAN FORGET ALLAH..THIS IS WHAT IT'S ALL ABOUT..
    DON'T LOOK WHAT OTHERS HAVE BUT LOOK AT WHAT OTHER WHO ARE IN WORSE SITUATION. JUST BE GRATEFUL ALLAH GUIDED YOU HERE...DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE WORLD IT HAS NO VALUE IN THE SIGHT OF ALLAH
    .ALLAH WILL GIVE YOU MORE IN JANNAH AND YOUR GRAVE WILL BE FILLED WITH NOOR.
    PROVIDED YOU CHANGE YOUR THINKING...READ QURAN PRAY SALAT ON TIME CORRECT YOUR INTENTIONS....THIS IS THE ONLY THING THAT WILL HELP YOU AND SAVE YOU IN THE HEREAFTER. .
    .THOSE WHO FEAR ALLAH CREATION FEARS HIM .....AN IDLE MAN'S BRAIN IS A DEVILS WORKSHOP! GET IT....SO LIVE IN THIS WORLD THAT ALLAH IS PLEASED WITH YOU..THIS LIFE IS SHORT SO BE WISE.DO NOR ASSOCIATE WITH THE WEAK OR HYPOCRITES. ...DON'T LET YOU SICKNESS BOTHER YOU....YOU KNOW MY FATHERN LAW WAS DIAGNOSED WITH bone marrow CANCER Doctors said you have a month to live. ...but he said if Allah wills...10YRS gone by still worked never took money from the government because he didn't believe in this..but was puntual in his amal and never let that go...Although he has 2 hip n shoulder replacements...he never stopped to help others love his kids and still go places as if nothing was wrong with him.....That's what I'm talking about....Iman puts you in another level...You must have a daily routine. ..My wife is a scholor studied in U.K...we have been married for 13 yrs and till this day she reads quran after FAJR before esha..some hadith's 15min. And daily zikr min 100x durood 100x astagfirullah 100x 3rd Kalimah. Morning and evening...and then learning the basic duas eating sleeping washroom ..this is a must...All learned people practising people have a daily routine. ..other then this life will be very hard and stressfull because Allah's has said those who find no time for my rememberancestors then I will fill there Hearts with worries and problems because of disobedience. ..So don't worry about marriage and all that stuff...just learn who is Allah because he is the controller of hearts.

  4. Asalaam O'Alaikum,

    What you are going through is not easy and I'm really sorry about everything you are struggling with. However it makes me very happy to know that Allah is testing you and he loves you dearly for you to go through these trials. Consider yourself blessed!!! I am envious in all honesty. Mashallah Allah has given you the ability to think, to walk, talk, create art, and see. Alhumdulillah for that.

    If I were in your situation I would pray, find the strength to go volunteer and connect with the Muslim community at a local mosque. I would recite the Quran. I would try to use my art towards a good cause. Hold a fundraiser. Try to to help others as much as possible. It will help you feel like there is a purposes to your life. MashAllah Allah has given you so much power and you can do many amazing things if you put your mind to it.

    Get up on day early in the morning and go for a jog. Then come home and treat yourself to a nice breakfast. Make some eggs and drink some orange juice. Then create some art. Have a cup of tea. Help someone. Give donations. Do things that will help you feel amazing about yourself. Make lots of dua, cry your heart out in sujood. Pray salaat.

    Trust me, surround yourself in positivity and you will feel so good about yourself.

    Don't hesitate to contact me. Im very happy you found this website and shared your problem.

    May Allah make it easy for all of us and forgive us for our sins and guide us to the right path to become a better Muslim Ameen.

    You will be in my prayers. 🙂

  5. Allah swt is just testing you. Get online and connect with disabled muslim groups online. You will find a deaf muslim sister that would be in a similar situation - marry her. Also contact the local musjid you may qualify for zakat funds that way you can have a happy family. Do not for get me in your duas.

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