How can I guide my Hindu parents to Islam?
I was a Hindu girl and reverted around two years ago to Islam by the grace and mercy of ALLAH(SWT). My parents don't know about this. They are planning for my marriage with any Hindu boy. I can't marry any Hindu boy.
Now I want to tell them that I am Muslim and want them to know about the truth of Islam. The purity of Islam.
May I tell them? Please suggest. Jazak Allah Khair.
~Aisah ba
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Masha A'llah My dear sister Welcom 2 Islam
Well just tell the why and be honesttell them how u feel and that this is how you want ur life to be x
ask Allah to guide him and maybe he will covert inshallah goodluck!
MashaAllah good to hear you reverted, i would say tell your parents the same way you became to know islam and accepted it, and tell them how you feel about islam and how it impacts your life, be calm and tell them in a sweet manner, show them the blessings and the beauty of the religion and pray to Allah that inshaAllah your parents accept islam.
Hope it works out inshaAllah.
Salam, Sr. Aisha
Whenever I have a difficult conversation to have with anyone in life, whether personal or work related, I recite Hazrat Moosa (AS)'s dua that my dad taught me in elementary school to pray before I gave my exams This is the dua that he recited before confronting the pharoah to tell him about Allah (SWT)'s existence:
"My Lord! Open up for me my heart. And ease for me my task. And untie the knot of my tongue. That they may understand my speech." (20:25-28)
I have never had an issue/distress after reciting this dua and facing the person I am supposed to. Even though it was mainly in the context of his speech impediment, it also addressed the underlying fear of confronting the pharoah.
Best wishes!
May A l l a a h guide your parents to the truth soon.
make lots of dua for them, and believe Allah will answer them
I really don't know; i am a convert as well and it seems there are very few people who can really understand us;
will that be able for you to not marry? 'cause 'marrying' that man albeit this won't be considered as marriage - but then am a former hindu as well, and, i believe that as such marriage will definitely entail towards distancing yourself from Islam.
I don;t know how your family situation is, but can you try to postpone or just wait for some more? i know that it's quite difficult for 'reverts' like us to be really accepted as there are so many people who think of us as something else besides muslim?
It's been now five years that i've accepted Islam and i still haven't told my parents anything for that will i know wil create a turmoil in my life as my family situation and environment is the most Islamophobic but i still have fait and i pray for that my, our parents to see Islam from our point of view and as it really is.
I guess that you will have to be patient, and you'll have to persevere a lot; it may be just a trial that Allah(sw't) is encumbering upon you and insha'Allah you'll succeed - ameen.
please do take care and notice and about if telling your parents will be really wise and if after telling them you still will be able to live your Islam.
wa iyaaki.
Welcome to islam, and may Allah guide you and give you paradise in the afterlife. It's highly unfortunate that some people have so much hatred for islam, and your parents might not be one of them. So try to talk to your parent 'indirectly' about islam and see there response to it. I mean you should say something like 'mom (or dad), how about the religion of islam, what do you know about it. I think it a very good religion and i can see it from my muslim friends. They always worship and acknowledge the one true God and they are good people.' you know, continue saying things about islam and see there response to it.. If you they are open minded and they respond positively to islam, then you can tell them about your conversion and only then would you convince them to accept it. But if they are very narrow minded and you know your life is at risk (because i know of a lady who used to be hindu but latter revert to islam. for this, her parents and relatives wanted to kill her but she escaped), then its better you shouldnt tell them about your conversion for now. Try to be independent by searching for job or think of other ways that you can strive and survive on your own without your parent or relatives help, then after you are successful, you can inform them of your conversion to islam. Now at this point if they try to disown you do anything rash by threaten your life, you can cut away from them for a while. At least when they are ready to accept you for whom you are, they would come after you, and they would always come around.. This is one alternative, the second is; try to convince the fiancee to accept islam. Again you have to talk to him indirectly at first and see his response, Not least so that he shouldnt know your identity and disclose it to your parents. Try to persuade him, and if he response nicely, then you can reveal your identity to him and ask him to convert to islam so that both of you can marry... But if he is narrow minded or hates islam, then my advice to you is do anything possible to end the relationship. . . You know, some people naturally have hatred for islam they write books on daily bases to blackmail and criticize islam so that they can stop people from seeing the truth and light of islam. They go through the media and spread false propaganda and misinterpretation on islam. They go through the internet and try to deceive people. Now if someone want to know about islam and he googled or search for it through the net, many of the results/response that would show up would be from non islamic sources, and those sources are to mislead people from the path of Allah.. It has even get to a stage that you might even be killed if you go to some nonmuslims to give da'awah (ie invite them to islam). an indian friend of mine who is also into this effort of da'awah told me about how the hindus abduct and kill muslims fellows that go to them preaching islam. . . . A Similar thing is happening in my home country in africa. If some brothers visit some areas to give and invite them islam, the carnibals would kidnap the brothers and kill them and even feast on there flesh. . The few brothers that escaped would come with the sad story... I think i would stop here, others would give you better advice.
Well judging by the environment of india and whether u live in rural or urban area(both are not safe ) but urban area are a little bit safer ill highly not advice u to disclose ur identity
Coz it may lead to honor killing and force conversion back to ur religion by your parents even ur fiance
The best thing is become independent coz as long ur with ur family and looking at the culture of india whether rural or urban the girl has to be dependent first on their parent second on their husband so u should first be dependent
Secondly , do nothing tell no one coz u can never trust even ones own blood when the situation is so complex dealing with religion I can say that play it cool as u did for 2 years and hope when u revel every thing turns out good
Assalamu alaikum Aisah ba,
I completely disagree with the reply of two brothers "mohd" & "Truebloood".
First generation Muslims may have problems due to lack of support and cultural difference. To be pioneer is honorable but it is hard to be. so what, because of our ancestor's struggle we are peaceful now. in your family you are the initiator. Opposition to Islam is not new, it started when our prophet(sal) started giving latest version of islam. Hope you would have read his life history, struggles of him and his companions.
They were calm and obedient, God gave them victory finally.
Yes this is a challenge but it is known and clear, we need to know how hit and get what we want!
agitation to Islam is due to their like of their own cultural living, own family values, afraid of social neglect, Ignorance about God and etc.,
most Chose the mentioned above than choosing God, because they them self not given time to think!
Who is important, "God or my own culture?"
Who is important, "God or my relative's saying?"
Who is important, "God or my own will?"
which is important, "my daughter's correct path or my dignity?"
=> So before telling them we are Muslims, we need to take Islam to them indirectly.. so that all the black spots against Islam and God fearing will go off.. they have embarrass Islam..like which, "they missed it before (or) there is no harm in this religion". Likewise with the help of Allah, we have to create environment, some supporters(may even cousins). parents also have to enter 'Jannath' right? we can't let them go to 'wrong side'
when everything is working well then you tell, "I can marry who accepts Allah, so look for me a Good Muslim Guy". So tell them to hold this marriage plan for a year for some reasons. Utilize this time very well, Be prepare make your life not dependent on them.
you have to be stubborn in this and you have to be "very cautious", because they may cheat also... convincing fiance is not good, because internally he/she we will plan to pull back to their religion. it will create new problems and Haraam
so you know the battle field clearly.. you know the challenges... you know what you will get if you win... make sure that you are not looser and at any point and be kind and honest to them. because your actions/activities tells them the message of Islam, which is a hidden call to Islam.
Be prepare make your life not dependent on them...
I wish you to get good, God fearing life partner who will support all your life and kind to you!
Pray Allah to make this journey smooth.
Welcome to Islam Allahu Akbar!!
Well sis, you must tell them the truth. Nothing gold remains I guess. Either they find out or you tell them. But remember, respect them for they are still your parents. Allah says no matter what, your parents are the priority, after religion. From my experience, its bettter to tell them