How can I repent from this and move on?
Salam, I have been in a sexual relationship of 3 yrs with my boyfriend. Recently my parents engaged me with another guy. I still kept my relation with my boyfriend but after some months I realised that everything I did so far was wrong, now I want to get out of this, I know I did zina, but now I want to do tauba and want to marry the guy I'm engaged with. I want to repent and want to be clean from all the sins. What should I do now?
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Salaam sister.
Here are conditions of repentance taken from: http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1069
"Because this is a serious matter, there have to be conditions attached. The scholars mentioned the conditions of repentance, based on aayahs from the Qur’aan and ahaadeeth. There follows a list of some of them:
1 – Giving up the sin immediately.
2 – Regretting what has happened in the past.
3 – Resolving not to go back to it.
4 – Making amends to those whom you have wronged, or asking for their forgiveness. (If able)"
In some cases, it may not be possible/ may cause more problems seeking the persons forgiveness. In this case, make dua for the person regularly (that Allah forgives them) and InshaAllah you will not owe them any of your good deeds as a compensation.
With respect to earning Allahs forgiveness, you must first give up the sin. So end your relationship with your boyfriend and cut contact. Do it as you fear Allah, do it to please Him and He will reward you. Do not feel guilty/sad for your boyfriend, he will mvoe on.
Also make tawbah. Work to improve yourself - if you do not pray, start praying your obligatory prayers. If you are really struggling, start with 2 a day and increase. every few days.
Most imprtantly do not despair of the mercy of Allah swt.
"The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, says, ‘O son of Adam, as long as you call on Me, I shall forgive you of what you have done, and think nothing of it. O son of Adam, even if your sins were to reach up to the clouds in the sky, and then you were to ask for My forgiveness, I would forgive you and think nothing of it. O son of Adam, even if you were to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth, and then you were to meet Me after death, not worshiping anything besides Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as the earth.’” [Tirmidhi]"
Commentary: "Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) loves it when people ask Him to forgive their sins. He is overjoyed with their repentance, since He hates to punish anybody. At the slightest excuse He washes people’s sins away. The only condition is that the human being must truly regret in his/her heart that they did what they did. The sinner should be ashamed of their misdeeds, and discontinue committing such sins. If the resolve to avoid the sin is not there then one has not actually repented.In this hadith, Allah (subhana wa ta’ala) tells us that no matter how many a person’s sins are, should they even reach the sky in heaps, Allah would forgive the sinner if they were to turn to Allah in repentance. In a different hadith, the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) told us that Allah’s bounty is so vast that He would actually convert all the sins into good deeds, should the person truly repent. We should not postpone repenting of our sins and reforming ourselves to when we become old, since nobody knows when they will die."
And more to that,, after making the tawba (asking God for forgiveness), dont ever do d mistake of revealing ur past sins to anybody (especially ur husband to be) after Allah has conceal it for u... It may ruin ur marriage and more over u are going against Allah's order when u expose ur sins after He conceal it for u.
Thanks alottt 🙁
If u want to repent than u should cut off all the link which may/might lead u towards ur boyfriend
Ask for forgiveness from allah
And stay commited to ur fiance
Thanks, i did that, m sooo relaxed now, i ended the relation with him since then, i went for umra n prayed alot ....i hope He forgave me :(, m getting married next month....