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How do I end my forced marriage?

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assalammualaikum.. My father is very loving and caring , but he has got his temper never lets me or my mother take our decisions, and at times abuses us with ugly words.

He got me engaged to a guy who I disliked very much and even his family. The engagement was agreed upon payment of dowry and acceptance of financial needs for the marriage. Ever since the talks came up I begged and cried to my father but in vain. He did not listen to me but hit me and abuse me. he even  convinced my mother . he even emotionally blackmailed me.. they forced me into this marriage when i was doing my college itself.

every single incident made me hate that guy n his family. ever since the marriage I have never had sex but at times he tries to make out but I push him off. I have been in torture since the marriage happened. I have been threatened to be killed, sent off the house, abuse with very offensive language been beaten blue...

The guy's family have come up with false accuses about me , and the sight of him irritates me. He has his own set of flaws and neither am I perfect, but I can never take this marriage and because of all the hatred and pain I can't imagine loving him..

I want to break this marriage but in the fear of losing my family I'm clueless about what to do . If talk to my parents about his they will hit me and abuse me..but i love them.

this guy pray and very stingy and gossips like a girl, i dislike him! please help me. tell m what to do ..and make dua's to the Rab for my happiness.

- kk-girl

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  1. sister im afraid I don't know what to say your situations really bad but you know no matter what happens allahs always out there for us we just need to ask allah for help and in order to get what we want we should so sabar it takes time for things to recover or mend but they wount always stay like that forver theres always limits to everything.

    I promise u sister that il remember you in my duas praying that your situation gets solve and that your relationships with your own family and in laws mend the way it should and that they treat you like the way they should as if your their real daughter.

    not only that but your relationship with your husband will flow the way it should aswell.
    in shaa allah everything will be fine within a flash just try your best to stay strong.

  2. Asalamwalaikum, I really hope everything works out for you In shaa Allah, but you should always have faith in yourself and Allah. You should alway's continue to make Dua to Allah when you wake up, before you sleep and any time of the day as Dua is the most powerful and strongest strength and cure towards anything and everything. Allah can see the pain that you are going through and no Woman deserves the pain. You are not alone and Allah will alway's be there for you as Allah will alway's be our and everyone's witness. Also, you could try to visit them forced marriage for women campaign website's to see if they can give you a good advice or can even help you out, but if you decide to get councellor's involved, make sure you keep everything confidential with them and don't let anyone find out especially your Husband. Whichever one you decide to choose and do, I hope it all work's out for you, In shaa Allah Ameen. Sister, alway's remember that you are not alone. Have patience because Allah reward's those who have been patient throughout the hard time's.

  3. U poor thing if he beats u then leave him no point in ruining ur life anymore.
    Ur patents love u to bits that unquestionable they have weird ways of showing it dont think they mean to hurt u. Tell them how u feel..
    It sounds like u hate the man then don't stay with him.

    Good luck sis whatever u do ill remember u in my prayers

  4. HI KK GIRL,

    THE SOUNDS ARE VERY BAD.....
    I WILL SUGGEST YOU SOME THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU TO MAKE PEACE,

    1. BE STRICT FOR YOUR REQUIREMENTS
    2. BE STRICT ON YOUR THOUGHTS
    3. BE AS YOU WANT TO BE

    IF YOUR HUSBAND IS GOING AGAINST YOU FOR YOUR REQUIREMENTS THEN TELL HIM STRICTLY YES OR NO/ AND BE ON IT AT ANY COST, REASON IS DOING LIKE THIS HE WILL ALWAYS THINK BEFORE DOING SOMETHING WITH YOU, BECAUSE YOU ARE NOW STRICTLY DENYING IT, THESE ARE FOR ONLY IF YOU WANT TO BE WITH HIM,
    OTHER WISE YOU HAVE A OPTION TO LEAVE HIM BY "FATWA" JUCT CONSULT ANY "MAFTI" NO NEED TO GET PERMISSION FROM HUSBAND,

    HOPE THIS WILL HELP YOU IF NOT I WILL GIVE MORE SUGGESTIONS,

    GOD BLESS YOU ALLAH HAFIZ
    GOPI

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