How to control sexual thoughts and feelings? – CLOSED
Hi,
I am 20+ and divorced. I am really tired with sexual feelings and thoughts. By the way, I am a Muslimah, offering prayers regularly and doing worship as much as I can but this thing is disturbing me. I always seek forgiveness and pray to get rid of it, but it's not working.
I had many sexual experiences with boyfriends before marriage.
After shifting I got married and divorced. I did it with my husband few times. But now after divorce I can't control my feelings, no matter what I am doing it always overcomes me and I have to masturbate myself to feel normal again. Now it's becoming hard for me to control.
But as soon as I feel relaxed or released, ALLAH's fear overcomes me. I offered Salah and seek forgiveness, but I dont know why I can't get rid of it.
Please help me with this !!!
-bajiii
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As-salamu alaykum bajiii,
I removed a large chunk of your post because you went into great and salacious detail about all the affairs you had before marriage and all your sexual experiences. I can't imagine why you felt it necessary to share all of that.
The amazing thing to me is that you don't seem sorry about all the haram affairs you engaged in before marriage. Instead you seem more concerned by the masturbation you do now. You must make sincere tawbah to Allah for those haram acts, and try very hard never to get involved in such things again.
As far as the masturbation, we have answered dozens of posts on this subject. Try to get married so that you can satisfy your desired lawfully. In the meantime fast when you can, exercise daily, pray and keep yourself occupied with halal activities.
This post is now closed.
If any readers are wondering why I am closing these posts, it's because we seem to be getting the same questions on the same subjects over and over. I suggest to the readers to do a quick search before submitting your question. It's quite likely that you will find it has already been answered for someone else.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sister First of all you should accept this that you cant resist your sexual urges ...i know what people are going to say here that you should just quit masturbating(as if it is that easy) and ask forgiveness...
What i think practically it is impossible to resist sexual urges ...so u can use these steps and you can reduce your habit.
1-First of all you should accept that you cant overcome these urges quickly
2-Try to reduce masturbation...like start from thrice a week...then twice a week...then a single maturation in a week.
3-you can keep yourself busy to reduce temptations.
4 and most effective ...get married again..
Aside from religion practically we cant control our urges all we can do is to get married and provide a proper path for sexual pleasures or we can reduce our sexual temptations to the minimum level...
I hope this would help!!!!