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I am 11 and have a crush on a 17 year old boy

love heartsi am 11 years old and i have a crush on a boy since the age of 9.

He was that time in class 10, like very older than me. but still i have crush on him. his name is zain.

i had several crushes on other boys too earliear but not now - when i saw zain i dont have other crushes and i never want to change because i think he is the right person - he prays and he is religious becuz my family is reliogus so i need someone like zain.

well he used to go to school from same bus and lives in the next building to mine and i never think bad. like in ramzan iftar i ve seen him being guest of someone but like we dont talk or like i dont have any correspondence with him.

i just admire marrying him when i grow up. but sometimes i have a feeling he is not written in my destiny maybe. he is so much older like he will maybe get married earlier so what should i do?

- princess amber


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  1. Focus on your education it is too early for you to start crushing to someone at your age so pray istikhara so that Allah may choose what is best for your life

  2. Assalamualaikum, Princess Amber.

    Darling, you're a very young girl and you will see many more men in your life inshaa-Allaah. I am guessing that you're already experience puberty and that is why you are already thinking about boys and marriage. Maashaa Allaah that you're still guarding your hayaa (shyness) and decency.

    My suggestion for you is right now to focus on your studies, learn about proper Islam according to the Qur'an and Sunnah, Memorize your Qur'an, be good to your parents and siblings, and make a lot of duaa that Allaah will send you a proper man to be your husband in the future, someone who will respect you and adore you and treat you like his queen inshaa-Allaah, whoever that might be. If in the end you end up with this boy Zain, alhamdulillaah, then he is your destiny. If not, don't feel sad or discourage, as Allaah already written for you your spouse 50.000 years before He created the world.

    Don't worry too much about who you will marry in the future. He will come inshaa-Allaah.

  3. Asalamu aleikum
    Sweetheart you are too young for this, believe me it is devil playing with your mind it just want you to drop your education and ruin your future,my child love comes after marriage not before,I understand you have feeling but I beg you ignore all that for now and concentrate on your education, please ask your parents to take you to madrasa(Islamic education),there you can learn more about islam.may Allah bless you dear and guide you

    • My darling, enjoy and live your childhood. You are too young to begin to think about love or who you gonna marry in future. Just because he is religious doesn't makes him a perfect person. Trust me, some people will surprise you when you get to know them more. I am 26 but when I sit with my married friends and hear them complain about their problems with their spouses, I sometimes thank Allah for being a single.

      So honey, you have a pure innocent heart, enjoy your childhood, focus more on your studies and your future. In Shaa Allah everything will come at the right time.❤

  4. My darling, enjoy and live your childhood.You are too young to begin to think about love or who you gonna marry in future. Just because he is religious doesn't makes him a perfect person. Trust me, some people will surprise you when you get to know them more. Am 26 but when I sit with my married friends and hear them complain about their problems with their spouses, I sometimes thank Allah for being a single. So honey, you have a pure innocent heart, enjoy your childhood, focus more on your studies and your future. In Shaa Allah everything will come at the right time.❤

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