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I am a misfit in this world

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Allah Knows who you are

I don't know from where i should start.. life is indeed unpredictable... i can't share my feelings with anyone.. i thought people would say you are going to be mad and all..

i think i am depressed person.. and sometime i think i am missfit in this world... each and every rude sentence hurts me.. since childhood i have never seen a word called peace.. people who came in my life had hurt me unintentionally.. i trusted again and again.. but people hurt me again and again... whom i really loved was a frined of mine.. but when he came to knw that i lov him.. he left me with very harsh sentences... he said u are totally confused person... you dont even know that what you want from your life... then he never contacted me...

3 years have been past... i tried to be happy but i dont know why i cant... my friends are good but i cant even share my things with them.. because they are not as mature as i am... i know they cant understand me...

after very long struggle i made my self very strong and mature.. people around me gossip about me that she is so intelligent and mature girl... she knw how to behave with people.. they take advices from me... but i have no peace... dnt knw why...

every day i show my self very strong.. but i weep at night.... parents have conflicts between them.. its their matter... i try to focus on my studies... but i cant... people come into my life for their mean... when people get close to me.. they ask me why your eyes always look so empty... i start taking care about them... and then they leave me sooner or later.....

i know i cant live longer... i am missfit in this world.....

anumsaba22


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  1. Salaam,

    I'm sorry you feel like this, but I read your story and wanted to comment really badly, because I too feel the same. I feel confused, worried, but actually I am not confused. I feel lost and weird. But it's okay because it is making me who I am today.

    My dear you should go out, try different hobbies, learn to speak a language. Talk to new people, and learn something new.

    Regarding people, trust Allah, tell him your worries, He will always listen. Unfortunately people are people and they will always hurt in one way or another because they are humans.

    Set yourself free and be happy.

    Your name is Anum meaning a mercy from Allah. You have a purpose in life find it 🙂

    Best wishes

    Your sister,

  2. OP: she is so intelligent and mature girl... she knw how to behave with people.. they take advices from me... but i have no peace... dnt knw why...

    What does having peace means to you? What should happen to you that will make you feel peaceful? What makes you happy?

  3. Recite this:

    Allaahumma ‘innee ‘abduka, ibnu ‘abdika, ibnu ‘amatika, naasiyatee biyadika, maadhin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadhaa’uka, ‘as’aluka bikulli ismin huwa laka, sammayta bihi nafsaka, ‘aw ‘anzaltahu fee kitaabika, ‘aw ‘allamtahu ‘ahadan min khalqika, ‘awista’tharta bihi fee ‘ilmil-ghaybi ‘indaka, ‘an taj’alal-Qur’aana rabee’a qalbee, wa noora sadree, wa jalaa’a huznee, wa thahaaba hammee .

    O Allah, I am Your slave and the son of Your male slave and the son of your female slave . My forehead is in Your Hand (i.e. you have control over me) . Your Judgment upon me is assured and Your Decree concerning me is just . I ask You by every Name that You have named Yourself with , revealed in Your Book , taught any one of Your creation or kept unto Yourself in the knowledge of the unseen that is with You , to make the Qur’an the spring of my heart, and the light of my chest, the banisher of my sadness and the reliever of my distress.

    Reference: Ahmad 1/391, and Al-Albani graded it authentic.

    Allah Says:

    And truly you have come unto Us alone, as We created you the first time. You have left behind you all that which We had bestowed on you. We see not with you your intercessors whom you claimed to be your partners. Now you and they have been cut off, and all that you used to claim has vanished from you.

    Quran (Surah Al-Anaam, Verse 94

    - The unequivocal veracity is people will always come and go. Your main problem is the feeling of loneliness. Seems like your trying to find happiness in a feeling of belonging or having friends who support you, although it makes sense why you would want that , its not always the most realistic thing for everyone to achieve, and even if you can , then ultimately what's the point when there will be no one to turn to in the grave. The only thing that will comfort you there would be your good deeds and the recitation of the Quran.

    -You can however find temporary happiness or a sense of belonging by either spending lots of time at the mosque with fellow Muslim sisters who will have the same value and Morales as you, or you can pray to Allah to give you a supportive husband in the future, who will be your best companion in this world.

    -To find permanent happiness you must get in touch with your deen to the best of your ability and make sure you always read the quran daily even if its just 2 lines per day because it will save you from the misery, pain , and loneliness of the grave , which will be a lot worse then what you are currently feeling.

    -On the Day of Resurrection, there won’t be any relationships to depend upon and those who called upon and trusted others (gods, people, etc.) as helpers, friends, and partners (besides Allah) won’t be there for them.

    Here is a hadith I found that may somewhat comfort you:

    On the Day of Resurrection Allah Almighty will proclaim: “Where are those who have mutual love for My Glory’s sake? Today I shall shelter them in My shade where there is no shade but Mine.”
    -The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ (Muslim)

    Here is a article, by one of the editors, you should read it whenever you feel upset or feel like you don't belong: http://islamicsunrays.com/tag/loneliness/

  4. To be honest you will only find true happiness the closer you get to Allah. I wouldnt say I was depressed but I was surely lost in life. Just nothing made me happy and just lived day by day because I had to. Alhamdulillah once you start to find a purpose ... I.e Worship Allah then you find peace and tranquility.

    Plus life begins to actually feel like life and worth living. May Allah SWT ease your pain and guide you to the right path. And as always there are many good people out there who are always ready to help you if you need it be it advice or just a person to talk to. Find a local masjid where sisters attend or any form of gathering of sisters. If you need help finding these groups speak to your local Imam and he can point you in the right direction Insha'Allah.

  5. I can relate to you and feel exactly the same. I have experienced good and bad with people including what you have been going through. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you your not alone. Be strong, patience and make your imaan strong. I agree with people saying start getting closer to Allah it does make you heal as a whole as a person like no one can touch you or do harm to you etc. Main thing that worked for me was to stay away from all the negativity of the world and completely shutting away from people I soon realise I dont need interactions from people except my Allah. May Allah guide and help you inshAllah.

  6. Samina: I have experienced good and bad with people including what you have been going through. I wish I could give you a hug and tell you your not alone. .......... Main thing that worked for me was to stay away from all the negativity of the world and completely shutting away from people I soon realise I dont need interactions from people except my Allah. May Allah guide and help you inshAllah.

    If there will be no bad people, there will not be any good people also.

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