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I am shattered

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I like a guy.  We both like each other and told our parents.  My parents had agreed but there is problem in his house they had give  word to other girl without his concern. He tried convincing his parents a lot they didn't agree.  He left talking to me.  I know he is sad.  They have forcefully for him engaged.  He has left all hope.  But I still pray for us to be together. I am now depressed as I had dreamed of having a life with him.  Now I am shattered I am already 28.  Not able to get over him.  Some where deep inside I still feel Allah will give him back to me. Please guide me

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  1. Sister I am sad for your feelings Inn the middle here, don't forget that if it was meant to be then it would never escape you and if it wasn't meant to be or wasn't written for you then it will never come to pass as much as you may wish. I advise you to pray istikhahra for guidance on whether it is good for your dunya and akhirah to be together. Also if you really want something from Allah then the best thing is to pray tuhajjud prayer which is the last third of the night before Fajr prayer when Allah comes to the closest heaven and asks who wants something from me. It's a difficult situation to be in but ask yourself do you really want to be with a 'man' who can't stand up for himself and gets married off without his consent like a virgin bride? I don't really believe in that there's one person out there, i believe that many people can get together as long as they fulfill each other's rights. Insha'Allah you find peace.

  2. Assalaamualaykum Sister,

    I agree with Ibrahim soldier that praying Salat Al-Istikhara, for which you can find information in the blue menu atop this page, is your best option. After the 2-rakah prayer, make the dua, which is for Allah to ease marrying him to you IF that's what's best for you, and for turning it away from you if it's not. Furthermore, you are asking Allah to then GIVE you what is best for you. After the dua, you are to follow your heart and know that things will unfold naturally in Allah's best way.

    Also, you write that you are not able to get over him. This is not true. Given time, you absolutely WILL be able to let go of him sister. But first, pray the Salat Al-Istikhara.

    Hugs,

    Nor

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