I broke my forced marriage, now I want to marry a hindu man but he’s scared to convert
A.aleikum dear brothers and sisters! I'm young muslim girl, I will talk about me and please help me! When I was 20 years old I married someone who I didn't like, I married only because my family wanted this marriage, I told my mom that I don't like that man, but she said if I don't marry she will never forgive me and my father will be angry with me.
First time in my life I want to die. Unhappily I married, I feel disgust when I see him(the man who married me). 7 months we don't have nothing(relations like man and woman), after that he told my mom about this and she make pression, she told me that I have to do this because he's my husband, I tod her you know that I don't like him, he know dtht I don't like him so why you said that.
After that I do it, was disgusted, aftr dtht I stay many hours crying in the shower. I was feeling dirty, I prefer to die than do it again! We continue together, but I never accept again, I change my room, I sleep in other room, he was not happy, I was more unhappy. Aftr 1year I was tired I was getting crazy with my stupid life and finally I decide to divorce. All my family stay away from me, my father and his family say that I can't do that because that man is rich and he can give queen life. I continue with my decision, my mom in one year she saw how was my life, how sad I was, and she stay by my side!
Now I'm livng with my mom and young sister and I thank ALLAH everyday for my life! After divorce I stay in love for hindu boy, we love each other. I don't know how I stay in love for him, just happen, we have many problems because I was married and my ex-husbnd and his family talk bad things about, liers and some jealous people tell him but ALLAHMDULILAH he never believe.
Our relation was wondrful, I think to break our relation when his bestfriend and girlfriend come and talk bad things about me, but I didn't because he don't believe and he stay by my side ,after some months someone from my family, a girl, she is my cousin's daughter, in past she make bad things for me, and again she was trying to put me down. She talk to my boyfriend bad things abt me, he don't believe again, but now our relationship was serious and we are planing to marry. The problem is his family, he's afraid! I give him sometime to think, bcs he was confused, he don't know how to tell his father that he want married muslim girl.
Past one month he continued to be confused, we meet to talk and he and everything because he don't decide nothing, he don't know how to decide! After that I feel too much sad, after 4days I make istikhara and my istikhara was positive. I have dream and my feeling are dat I have to be patient! I pray evrday, I ask ALLAH to give him hidayat to acept islam,and I know that I can.
He told me one time that he like my religion and he think about convert! But this things happen and now I cry because I miss him. Its with him who I want to make my hajj, its with him who I want wake up in the mornings of ramadan, I'm sad, help me doing dua for me. And please if some one have or know some duas or especial salat please tell me! Shukar for the space!
A.aleikum w w
~tahira
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Salaams,
I am sorry to hear that your marriage was so unhappy. I am glad to hear you were able to divorce that man and start to try to move on with your life.
However, sister, you cannot marry anyone who is Hindu. The relationship you are currently in is haraam, and you should cease it immediately. If this guy is going to convert to Islam, he should do so on his own and not because of a prospective marriage to you. There is nothing to stop him from converting now, if that's what he wants to do.
Either way, you should not be talking to him or having any type of relationship with him. There are no boyfriends or girlfriends in Islam, and for you to allow yourself to get so emotionally involved is only going to lead to more heartache if he doesn't convert for some reason.
Sister, the best thing you can focus on right now is your own future as a Muslimah. Instead of picturing hajj and ramadan with someone you may not end up with, picture it in the context of how you want to please Allah and what you will do on your own to seek His will for your life during those special times of the year.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalam oalykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu,
I AGREE WITH AMY from all facets and i am so sad as i said earlier in my replies to other questions. Look at your name Tahira? and actualise what are you doing is it pure according to the meaning of your name?!!!
You have got a chance to act according to your name indeed inshallah, elhamdulilah do not let it go in vain.
As my sister said above HE HAS TO REVERT BACK TO ISLAM ON HIS OWN ELSE THE MARRIAGE IS NULLIFIED.SECONDLY YOUR ISTEKHARA IS WRONG. THAT IS NOT A WAY OF PERFORMING ,PERCIEVING ISTEKHARA , REGARDING DREAM it was out of your own thoughts and remembrance which you carry in the frontal lobe of your brain .All of that hindu man virtue is waste as u said standing besides you trusting bla bla. unless he dont revert to Islam according to his understanding.(IF he is a hindu ,he should not to idol worship,being a student of comparative religion that is what there sacred vedas says) .And if he actualise what is in vedas he will revert back to Islam.
So in concise abstain from him and LEARN MORE ABOUT ISLAM , READ ABOUT THE SAHABIYA (WOMEN COMPANION OF PROPHET PBUH) TO REVIVE YOUR DEEN INSIDE YOU .
FIGHT WITH THE SHAYTAN INSIDE YOU WHO IS GUIDING YOU TO VICE.
May Allah be with you ameen.
can't you find a muslim partner. Whats the need of marrying him, even if he convert to islam then there is chance that he may revert back to hinduism. So it is always a risk for you, You must know that chances of HIV (AIDS) is much higher with a non muslim spouse and you also had relationship with the other man ( your first husband). Please dont marry to satisfy your lust , marry in a right way and have a safe life....
I agree with you brother and sister Amy.
Do not change someone believing it be fine sister find a muslim partner this wont work save yourself the heartache and find a decent muslim brother may you be happy
any one plz tel me i want become hindu
Asma,
Please post your query separately as a new post. And remember one thing: if you leave Islam, you would be choosing to be thrown into the Hell Fire yourself. Would you like to be thrown into the Fire of Hell? Would you like it that your body be burnt for eternity? Would you like it that for the 60 years of your disbelief in Allah in this World, you be tormented in the Fire of Hell for Eternity?
The fire of Hell is 70 times as intense as the fire of this World.
Islam is the only Religion acceptable with Allah. If you wish to leave it, no one can stop you, but you will be responsible for your own destruction.
I would request you to give us a chance to help you regain faith in Allah. Please post your problem or the reason for you disbelief in a separate post with as much detail as possible. Insha Allah, we'll help you in any way possible.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Asalamualaikum all.....
Dear all muslims ....
She dont no how to spell salam words .... The above question is written by non muslims....
And dear asma...
I wanted to know y u want to be hindu...
Pls read quran and hadees online ..... U will find the way of life .... If you only think about converting into non muslims allah will punish you in hell ، so kindly ask allha to forgive you and know about islam...
Insha allah i will pray for you to give hidayat insha allah
allah hafiz
vaseem, I can say the same thing about yourself. You don't know how to spell Allah's Name. You call Him allha or allah, instead of Allah.
Please don't make such judgements. You are not authorized to do so, lest they should bounce back on you.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor