I ended our relationship but he won’t leave me alone!
I am a teenager.I was in relationship with the guy. After I started studying Islamic knowledge I realised it that I crime against my own soul. So slowly I started dropping him. But I didn't tell him just broke the contact. Finally by Allah's grace I ended up. But my problem is he is not leaving me. He asks my friends to tell me to contact him. He comes near my college and wait for me. I am irritated by all his acts. I couldn't tolerate this and finally when his text came I told him that I don't want to be in relation ship and all then I blocked him. Now I feel guilty for the act. I feel that I shouldn't have texted him and said... is there any solution for me... I don't want him to contact my friends and I don't want them to tell about him in any instance. And again big issue is that he is my neighbour.
farisha18
4 Responses »
Leave a Response
Entries(RSS)
As salam O Alaikum Sister
You know you did a mistake, and you are repenting for that. You shouldnt have had ignored him by not uttering a word, rather you should have told him frankly that this all is not acceptable in ISLAM. By the way is he a Muslim too ? If yes, then you should have told him upfront so that some light was thrown on him too, to stay away from all this evil.
You ignored him by just cutting off all contacts probably that is the reason he must be thinking of what happened suddenly. And for that very reason he is trying to contact you or your friends to get in touch with you. If you would have made yourself VERY CLEAR to him all this wouldnt have had happened is what i feel.
But its better to be late than never. So now atleast you should tell Him and also guide him to the right path. May be that would earn you some Sawab insha ALLAH
So now if he continues to do that you must tell him right away and then see if his reactions are same. And still if his actions remain same than you will have to confide your parents or some elderly person to make him understand in there own way. But if he understands its well and good.
Best Wishes and Regards
Wa Salam.
SALAM.FEAR ALLAH .THE PUNISHMENT IN THE HEREAFTER IS SERIOUS.LIFE IS TO SHORT JUST TELL HIM I FEAR ALLAH AND MAYBE HE MIGHT SEE THE LIGHT. NOW YOU MUST LEARN DEEN PROPERLY FROM THE SUNNI SCHOLORS.ASK ALL THE QUESTIONS WITH AN OPEN MIND.MASTER SALAH AND READ QURAN AND HELP PEOPLE.YOU WILL SEE YOUR LIFE BLESSED WITH BARAKAH.MARRIAGE WILL COME. KNOW THAT ALLAH WILL GUIDE YOU PROVIDED YOU OBEY COMMANDMENTS AND TEACHINGS OF MUHAMMAD PBUH. THIS IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS IN BOTH OF THE WORLD'S! !!There is nothing to look back now but make tauba and give sadaqah on your behalf and live life happy.Inshallah no one is perfect .We are all sinful.Some more then others.That's why Allah is giving us chance right now.So become the best humanbeing you can be and be a role model for others
You ended the relationship without telling him you ended the relationship. That's going to drive him nuts. He doesn't know if you're angry with him, if he did something wrong, or if he needs to bring you flowers. You need to have a talk with him. Tell him you're breaking up because you feel this is not halal. If you're interested in marrying him tell him that too. That you'd be interested if this was pursued through your parents. Please don't just stop talking and expect the other person to read your mind as to what the reason was.
Glad tidings sister! You are among those whom allah loves more than his pious people.
I am really really proud of you sister for being able to forsake a relation in this era of socialism and I pray may Allah include you among those whom allah offers shelter of his arsh during the day of resurrection. I am not worthy to advice a believer like you yet I wish to utter few with the most possible respect that i cant give it to you.
Sister nothing wrong in telling him you are not interested. You can also tell those friends that i am no more interested in relationship with him. Dont be emotional or smooth while expressing your concerns. Say it in such a way that he should not ask reason for forsaking him. No matter whether he is a neighbour or enemy allah is with you sister. I am sure you are among those who get the shelter during the day of resurrection and allah will reward you the way he rewarded Yusuf (a.s) for forsaking haram relations only for the sake when all the doors are open.
I am really really proud and happy for you sister for what you did in 21st century. Always think about the reward of allah and move on. Allah will convert your previous haram into good deeds as he promised. You are among the people whom loved, which is the best consolation for you sister.
Please do pray for all of us sister. I have a lifetime desire of taking my last breathe in madeena and having my burial in Jannathul baqee. Please pray for my wish sister.