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I got emotionally blackmailed into marrying my cousin

i went with family to pakistan to help my sisters get married. but whilst i was there i got emotionally blackmailed into marrying my aunties daughter. but i was already in a relationship with someone for 6 years.

i have a child now with my wife but dont feel like i can carry on anymore in the marriage because i want to spend the rest of my life with the person i was with before. wot can i do? please help.

- Anonymous Muslim


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  1. assalam alaikum.
    dear brother,
    firstly i would say that,in any emotionally blackmail why you got marry with other when you had relationship with other, relation, parents, sucieties, village peoples,relatives, evryting is rights, but because of anyone and because of any situation and because of any condition which way you did marry that is not right, no one can fource you that much, its is very simple.
    now you are marriage person and you are having a child and you should carry your marry now,
    did you you think that? after you what will your wife life and child life. it will be hurt too much for your wife,
    better carry your marry and leave that parson whom you liked, because you had relation with her only but you did not get marry with her than its very for easy for you to choose,maybe she will get good life morethan this.be true with your partner, othervise your decition, thanks,

  2. Hello,
    I understand that you were emotionally blackmailed into this marriage. And maybe you understood afterwards that it wasn't necessary to fulfill your parents desire by not only rejecting a relationship of 6 years but imprisoning your dreams and desires. However, if after few months of the marriage, you still could not accept it then divorce would be the right step but now its too late. You not only have a marriage to consider but a child too. I am sorry to say but If you did not want this marriage from the beginning then you should not have had any martial relationship with your wife. It would not be fair to your wife, child or the woman from your past. Sometimes in life you have to compromise with your situation, and, Brother, here is your time. Look at your child, will you be actually willing to leave?

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