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I had to swear on the Quran, but keeping the oath will hurt my mother.

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There is a person who is very close to my heart. But due to my previous mistakes that person does not believe in me now.

However recently he asked me to take an oath on Quran that you will not lie and you will do things as i will tell you to do so.

Now he has asked me something to do.  And although what so ever he is saying is not wrong but I have this feeling that due to this my mother might get hurt and i dont want to hurt her. If i say him no he will flare up and also i am too afraid to break my oath.

Please tell me that what will be the consequences if I break my oath? It is for good intention. I cannot say no to him coz he will not beleive in me then and its not good for my future. And on other hand its my mother. I cannot hurt her by doing such thing ( which he asking me to do so)

Is there any way I can ask for forgiveness if I break the oath. I am so guilty. I never wanted to take an oath on Quran as it is very serious. But i had to as there was no choice.

I feel miserable now.

Please help me what can be done in case if i have to break the oath.

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  1. However recently he asked me to take an oath on Quran that you will not lie and you will do things as i will tell you to do so

    Did the other person also take the same OATH. I can understand the part "will not lie" but you will do things as he tells you is quiet broad statement could cover almost any thing. Breaking an oath means you still lie. just tell him "Doing this will hurt my mother" I am not going to do it. Looks like other person is trying to manipulate you too.

  2. I don't think that such an oath is acceptable in Islam, because as a muslim you can't swear on quran anyway. I believe it's haram.

  3. A covenant is to join the bonds of kith and kin (family). That is Islam.

    In fact power is given to those keeping their covenants and bonds of kith and kin and stripped from those breaking their covenants and family bonds. The Quran.

    The covenant is broken.

    A Muslim can be Anything (an adulterer a thief...)but not a liar!--Ahadith.

    And that is in every time and c,lime (climate)
    By the Covenanter huwa Allah.

    • J: A Muslim can be Anything (an adulterer a thief...)but not a liar!--Ahadith

      how can some one be an adulterer, a thief and not lie

  4. Salaams

    Oath or no oath, your story lacks of the main ingredients. You SHOULD tell us WHY is he asking you to take an oath.
    Based on this, then the community will be aware of it and then give their views.
    Right now, it is quite ambiguous.

  5. There is a way according to Quran to relieve yourself from this oath:

    Allah will not impose blame upon you for what is meaningless in your oaths, but He will impose blame upon you for [breaking] what you intended of oaths. So its expiation is the feeding of ten needy people from the average of that which you feed your [own] families or clothing them or the freeing of a slave. But whoever cannot find [or afford it] - then a fast of three days [is required]. That is the expiation for oaths when you have sworn. But guard your oaths. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you may be grateful.(5:89)

  6. To me its obvious that your oath on the Quran is meaningless since you were made to take it without full conviction and Allah only accepts promises that are not half-hearted. However your promise to your 'friend' is binding and it is a sin to break promises. When you made the oath to Allah, Allah didn't accept it but when you made a promise to your 'friend', he accepted it. So try your best to keep your promise and if you haven't yet made your promise, try to decline it. If you are afraid remember how Hussein (AS) faced certain death at karbala.

  7. I have also been forced ( under threat of violence) to swear on the Qur'an that I won't leave my husband while he is away with his mistress. This is the only chance I have to escape from him. Would Allah have accepted my oath and would he forgive me if I broke it and left? I know that if I stay the cycle of violence, repentance and then repeated infidelity and violence will continue. How can I seek Allah's forgiveness? Is it enough to ask for if and then fast for that purpose?

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