Islamic marriage advice and family advice

I have feelings for a man but I am scared to get hurt

AsA. . I. truly loved a person and the relationship continued till i found that he has been cheating on me for all that time. it came as a severe blow as i was totally honest and sincere and helped in all his bad times. i even loaned him .£2000 so his parents can perform hajj. his deceit left me completely shaken and it's hard for me to trust again.

however, about three months ago i met another person by chance. he had a similar story to mine and we became really good friends. he is not in uk anymore and now im realising that i feel more for him then just friendship. i want to ask him for marriage but im scared what he might say. he cares for me i know but it might not be anything more than that. we have every thing the same, our beliefs and thoughts, everything which makes me feel that i will be happy with him.

i have done istikhara and the answer suggested that it depends on him. i dont want to waste time as his parents want him to get married now. please sugest what i should do. i dont want to get hurt again.

Khuda Hafiz
- Iram, UK


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  1. Let him know that you love him and ur in to him indirectly instead of asking him directly for marriage and tell him that someone asks ur hand but u don't like to marry that person. maybe then he asks self for marriage inshallah

  2. Let him know before its to late.Tell him you love him.You will never know the outcome unless you dont try.My dad always says,rather be a fool for 5 minutes that the rest of your life.I think you can apply the same statement to your situation.Rather tell him or you could live in regret the rest of your life...

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