I have not divorced my wife, but I want to marry a Catholic woman
Muslim-Christian Marriage
i am sunni muslim man and seprated from my wife we are not yet divorce and i have known one women for more then 5 years and she is catholic i love her and she loves me i want to merry her can i merry her if its allowed for me to merry her where can i merry her in the city hall or should i take her with me to mosque can you please tell me the best and the easy way to merry her so we can be husband and wife
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Mohd, As-salamu alaykum,
For your marriage to the Catholic woman to be recognized, it must be a proper Islamic marriage, and meet all the requirements of a marriage in Islam. Talk to the Imam at your masjid and he can help you with this.
However, I must ask if you have really though this through. Is your current wife Muslim? Are you really divorcing a Muslim woman in order to marry a Christian? Do you think that makes sense? How is this Christian woman going to help you get closer to Allah? How is she going to help you practice your deen? Will she raise your children as Muslims, make sure they pray, fast with you in Ramadan, go with you to Hajj?
Think about your choices very carefully.
Wael
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yes my wife is muslim she have no respact for me or my mother or father the bad words she said to me i cant tell you all the story it will take all year and it will not be finished i spent 25 years of my life with her and if she cant learn her husband still she dont know what i like and what i dont like
who should i blame my self or her if you were in my position what will you do living with her its like hell i cant take it any more i have 4 kids with her and my daughter is married i spent every penny on her wedding just to make them happy and still there is nothing ofcourse the children will be on mothers side all ways but when my wife opens her mouth she dont know what she is saying how can you live with the women where you dont have any love for her because of her atitude
Oh that's nice! (Sarcastic, just in case you don't catch on)
You desert your wife and spend 5 years fraternising with a strange woman who you now 'love'. If only you invested that time and effort working on your marriage.
You clearly have no respect, care or heart. Your catholic woman has no self respect either to want to be with a man that has treated his own wife so heartlessly by abandoning her.
This type of relationship is borne of haram behaviour and what goes around surely comes around.
sister rashida
i lived with my wife 25 years and i have 4 kids with her and my daughter is married i spend every penny on my daughters wedding just to be the best father for her my wife have no repact for me if my wife cant learn her husband in 25 years she dont know what i like and what i dont like if you were in place you will know the way she treeted me belive me i have no love for her because of her atitude the reason over marrige kept on going because we belong from same family other wise i would have left her long time a go
Asalamu alaikum
I'm not going to say you should stay with your current wife because of your other 2 comments and it really seems like you just do not want it to work with her, but marrying a catholic women will not solve anything. The only true love is through Allah (swt) if it is through haram interactions, it was doomed from the start (sorry to say, and i do not mean to sound rude or judgemental)
If you are going to divorce ur wife, fine, but if you are going to remarry, then marry a MUSLIM women, someone that will bring u closer to Allah. Do not be blinded by this fake love. Think of the day of judgment where you have to face Allah. This world is just a dream. Look for a wife that will bring you closer to Allah, cause that really is all that will really matter. If this catholic woman will revert to Islam (and not only to marry you) but to actually practice Islam with you and both of you bring each other closer to Islam, then you can try that BEFORE deciding on getting married to someon that is not interested in learing your deen.
Also, do Istikhara both about your current wife (if you should divorce or not) as well as with the catholic woman (if you should marry or not).
May Allah be with you
Salaam
asalamu alaikum
thank you so much for answering my question the women i want to merry we live far from each other if i want to see her it will take 9 hours flight before i can see her i went to see her in april and i met her ralative and her friends thats all my plan is to merry her next year
salaam
wa alaikum asalaam
do istikhara before deciding on anything. Allah knows best. and think about your future kids as well. how you want them to be raised, as muslims, or christian..
asalamu alaikum
brother i dont know if you are married or not if you are happy or not but i hope you are happy pray to god that you will not experiance the kind of life i am going through
some time if the person is he will say all the world is happy but its not like that
let me tell you this my son is all most 26 years and one day i recived sms from him saying (#*&@/*&%@*@*"%/#*&:#/*+#@&) what do you have to say for that i spend 20 thousand pound on my daughter wedding then i give her 6 thousand pound for the furniture my kids are grown op but still i send them money
do you think i should ever talk to that son of mine belive me i dont want to see his face in my life but still i send them money
when some body says bad words to you it will not hurt you that much but belive me when your son says bad words to you that really hurts
still i am sending them money they are all grown op and they are all working
Brother, Please avpid mentioning offensive words. Use signs I have replaced your worda with, or some others to denote such words.
Abu Abdul Bari
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wa alaikum asalaam
first of all "sister" not brother..
and no, i'm not married yet, im only 18 but inshaAllah will get married soon.
back to you:
umm.. i'm not sure what your son told you, or what was going on between the 2 of you, but yes, i do think you should forgive him. if anything bad happened (to either of you) lesama7 Allah (may God forbid) you would wish you were still talking to him, and you do not want your last words exchanged to be swear words. i personally do not swear, and never have. no matter how much someone swears at me, i stay silent. if you actually think of the meaning of swear words in the sentence your using it in, it makes absolutely no sense what-so-ever, and it makes u sound.... not so smart, so i avoid it. it will never get you anywhere in life, and will only put your status lower.
but back to the topic, u should always forgive, no matter what happened, it's not worth it to stop talking to him.
and also, you cant expect to be happy, if you're not trying. money doesnt buy happiness. it may be helpful financially, but that's all. i know people that are completely broke, behind on bills, late on rent, etc, but they're very happy. i also knw people that are rich and have alot of money that they have nothing to spend it on, but they're misserable and want a divorce. money cant buy happiness. and you cant buy ur kids love either. talk to them, that's the only advice i can give. it wont b easy at first, but it'll b worth it in the end
Brother, i would advice you to rethink carefully before marrying the kafirah. I would recommend you to consider wael's advice.
You barely know this kafirah you are intending to marry. You said the last time you saw her was in april, and you have to take 9 hours flight. Then perhaps you are not even in the same country.. Then how can you possibly know the true nature and character of a woman who is not even close to you?? She might be cunning, and i know you are only discoursing with her by means of emails, phone calls and internet. You cant give your 100% trust to a long distance relationship you have with a woman.
My solemn advice to you is dont marry this woman. Period!
Look for a good and pious muslim sister from your environment and marry. Ask your friends and relatives to assist in search for a pious woman. When the right muslim woman comes, and you are comfortable with her, then you can propose to marry her.
Even though its permissable for a muslim man to marry a christian woman, no good and resonable muslim would advice you to do so. Because of the problems associated with interfaith marriage. One of you must give up some of the his/her religious principles. If both of the spouses are devoted to there religion, then it would be difficult for them to be under the same roof, because many of her christian religion principles and doctrines are totally against the doctrines of your islamic faith, and you would feel awful her way of prayers. (if you are a real and true muslim), you will not tolerate her raising your kids as christians, And neither would she like it if you decide to raise your kids as muslims.
And even if she agrees to raise your children as muslims, the children would not have the sound islamic upbringing because there mother is a nonmuslim and she has important role to play in there upbringing.
She would be decorating the walls of your home with christian pictures, the picture of her lord and savior- (ie picture of a man the christian assume to be jesus) etc etc.
So think carefully, before you do anything rash. Before you do something that would make you regret later in life.
Bro Mohd.
thank you so much for giving me advice it is really nice advice and i will do as you advice me
It is easy to say that a Christian woman will only adhere to her own religion and that she will want her children to be raised as Christians and that an interfaith marriage cannot work for those reasons. I myself am the second wife of a Muslim man and a Christian. My sister wife is a Muslim. The reasons for my husband marrying me as as his second wife are between him, his first wife and me and I will not discuss them here. What I do want to share, is that my husband and I agreed to always talk about what bothers us and that we would always respect each others' religion, because our religion is part of who we are. Our children are brought up as Muslim, but always with respect for my religion too. And as Allah and God are two different names for the One, there really is not as much of a difference between our religions as many Christians and Muslims tend to think.
My husband and I have been together and happy for many, many years. I have a good relationship with his first wife too. So it is very well possible to live together, and even to be a second wife and have a good relationship with the first wife. It is easier when the second wife has permission from the first wife to be her husband's wife, as is the proper way according to Islam. I hope this helps.