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I married a Hindu who prays to Islam

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Hi Everyone,

I need advice please.  Im Hindu and married a man who said he is a hindu too.  We would go to hindu temple and pray every week.  But when I went back to his country to visit his family I noticed that they have a section in one room to pray to hindu gods but then they have another section in the next room to pray to islam every morning.  He said him and his mother went to see a muslim priest and he told them to pray to islam.  So now they pray to both.  Im very confused, I dont know if this is common in India.  He keeps saying he is a hindu and now I dont know if he is telling the truth or not.  Can someone please help me, I need to know if this marriage is based on lies.  Please help.

Thank you


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  1. He is not a muslim , he is a mushrik.
    A muslim doesnt associate anyone with Allah swt. A muslim only prays to Allah swt alone, he is only Allah's man and devout his worship and life only to Allah swt alone.
    I think you should rather ask him on what basis he is calling himself a muslim when islam clearly says to not associate anyone with Allah swt. He is lying to you just like he's lying to God.

    • Neither the OP or her husband is claiming to be Muslim. She says she is Hindu and her husband says he is Hindu...he simply has a room decorated with what they must be interpreting as Muslim items.

      To the OP:

      One cannot pray to Islam as Islam is a belief system or way of life.

      If you are not sure about your husband lying, simply speak to him and ask him. As for the Muslim priest, we don't know what he said...your post is very brief and difficult to make comments on.

      • Sr Saba How are you?

        I am using an alt id as the old one is not working, seeing you here after a long time. I remember the days when once I was locked in debating with you and Br. Issah for many days together on a

        Not seen Br, Issah for a long time as well.

  2. Dear Sue,

    If you and your respected husband do not have faith/emaan/believe with ALL six articles of faith and the five pillars of Islam then unfortunately you both are outside the fold of Islam.

    Emaan or Faith is the foundation of Islam and it constitutes in acceptance of all the beliefs in the six articles of Islamic faith, as follows:
    1. Belief in Allah (One God)
    2. Belief in Angels of Allah
    3. Belief in Books of Allah
    4. Belief in Prophets of Allah
    5. Belief in the Last Day
    6. Belief in the Decree of Allah

    This means a person cannot be a Muslim if they pray to idols or if they regard any creation (animals, human beings, stones, plants, star signs etc) of Allah as God or greater than God/ Allah.

    No one has seen God/ Allah. Therefore Allah is neither male nor female, nor in any shape or form. Allah is Just Allah and beyond our imagination is the Greatest.

    If you or your husband have faith in the above six articles of faith then Alhmadulillah you are Muslim. And once one comes into the fold of Islam then they must establish the five pillars of Islam in their life.

    The Five Pillars of Islam are the five obligations that every Muslim must satisfy in order to live a good and responsible life according to Islam.

    The Five Pillars consist of:

    1. Shahadah: sincerely reciting the Muslim testimony of faith, "There is no god but God and Muhammad is the prophet of Allah."
    2. Salat: performing ritual prayers in the proper way five times each day
    3. Zakat: paying an alms (or charity) tax to benefit the poor and the needy
    4. Sawm: fasting during the month of Ramadan
    5. Hajj: pilgrimage to Mecca

    Why are these five pillars of Islam important?

    First of all it is obligatory upon all Muslims, as it is mentioned in the Qur'an and sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). For the Muslim not fulfilling it with best of their ability will face the consequences in the Hereafter.

    Secondly, in carrying out these obligations provides the framework of a Muslim's life, and weaves their everyday activities and their beliefs into a single cloth of religious devotion.

    No matter how sincerely a person may believe, Islam regards it as pointless to live life without putting that faith into action and practice.

    Carrying out the Five Pillars demonstrates that the Muslim is putting their faith first, and not just trying to fit it in around their secular lives.

    All in all, all those worship that your husband doing unfortunately does not makes him a Muslim, unless he gets rid of all idols/statutes from his home, and starts to worship Allah alone internally and externally, in Shaa Allah.

    May Allah, The Almighty guide you, your respected husband and all of us to straight path, ameen.

    And Allah (swt) Knows best

    - Me
    Ps. Please pardon me if you found any part of my comment/advise offensive. X More information on Islam:

  3. Please note that India happens to be a much more complex country in terms of beliefs and ideals, Hinduism is a more syncretic religion than Islam. There are many people who are of hindu faith who might believe in Sufi saints like khwaja Nizamuddin Auliya and other muslim saints. They are hindus by belief but understand the superior qualities of people from other religions too. That is the main reason that Hinduism has survived through ages. It has no rigid structure. You can see some of the sufi beggars coming to Hindu establishments with incense and praying for good luck and reciting koranic verses. This integration has kept our country together and the muslims in our country less radicalized than some middle eastern cultures and Pakistan which are proud of their islamic nature but are hotbeds of violence and terror and detested by most other countries.
    I believe it is a single individual's belief of what his faith should be. Whether he believes in Ram or Rahim or both. I know that this comment might be deleted but instead of calling Hinduism as black magic please try to understand that we are not called terrorists, you are.
    If Islam was more syncretic and more tolerant of individual beliefs the world would have been a much more safer place.

    • ziphyr, perhaps your intentions are good but your comment is full of bias. Hindu violence against Muslims in India is commonplace. At times, entire massacres have been carried out against Muslim villages. "We are not called terrorists, you are." That's ridiculous. The one who controls the media does the naming. Violence is violence, killing is killing, murder is murder, regardless of whether it is perpetrated by Hindus or Muslims.

      In fact, the major political party in India at the moment is the right-wing Hindu nationalist BJP, which is anti-Muslim and intolerant by nature. So please do not preach about the tolerant nature of Hinduism.

      I deleted the comment about black magic, by the way.

      Wael Editor

  4. Dear Wale, Ziphir,

    Zephir, you said every thing very clearly and right, you just said those people How we mingle with other people, other culture, How we respect other beliefs system, and Dear Wale you just said that Hindu's violence is very danger's than other's, let me tell you some thing that we are not attacking any one, we are just Defending ourself. you said in india there is so much of violence against muslim community, if it is true can you so me at least 20 example (with out mistake of muslim) since independence of india ,
    Can you sow me some forceful conversion in the name love jihad which is done by hindus.
    Can you show me Group mascare of people just because they are not accepting Islam.
    Can you show me any priest is killed by hindu groups in Majid's, just because they are not these day's blaming india and Hindus is become very easy because, we dont respond in very bad manner. if we respond then we are tagged as intolerant, not good people. sister just try to love Hindus as much as we love muslim's.

    TO OP.

    Sister do not worry, as you said you are getting worry, don't worry sister it is very quit common for Hindus in our country (india) to pray and visit Dargah, we do not go to Masjid's but we go to dargahs. and we pry there. by tacking proper guidance From Head (imam i think), this is common practice in our country. even you can visit any dargah, to confirm it by asking respected person in that darga, you should not worry sister. if your in laws are from south india like AP, it is quit common here.don't worry let him pray, nothing bad will happen, but some good will happen to us. they are very powerful in protecting our family from EVIL (devils) (believe me) even i have Raksha with me every time which is given in Dargah, they are good people they give us raksha with pure hart as to good happen to us .so please don't Advice or force him to stop visiting or praying, any darga that is very helpful to us. i am telling with my personal experience.

    and Finally for OP just because your in laws are praying in their house it does not mean they are not Hindus "it is very common in india to pray and visit Dargah " do not get tension.

    thank you sister.

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