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I need help with my mother in law

Angry woman

Slm. My mother in law is trying to control what I do. She expects her daughter to sit down all day and 2 daughter in laws in the house to do everything despite one having a difficult baby and one working full time. My husband does not speak up for me. He stays quiet when his mother swears at me and calls me disgusting names. She has told us all to get out the house so is very quick to kick us out but expects us to pay for shopping do all house work and everything else. I recently noticed whilst having a bath every time water touches my forehead I get severe pain in my head. Once I stop the pain goes. I am very worried she may have done black magic or something similar on me. How can I find out? Please help 🙁


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  1. Sister,

    I know it's always easier said than done however, if you are able to move out and get a place of your own that would be best for both of you. The fact that your husband allows his mother to cuss you and disrespect you whilst he stands by and says nothing says a lot about him. Due to his silence on the matter, things will only progress over time. If you think things are bad now, just wait a few years. My good friend has been where you are and I am here to tell you, it doesn't get better with time.

    Salam

  2. These men really needs to man up! They don't know that they should treat the mother and wife equally and should balance both sides. Stay strong sis, try to get a house of your own and things may change. But if your husband is a mama's boy then that is separate issue. Im hoping he is not a mama's boy then no matter what you do he will not change.

    Honestly mother in law doesn't matter here if your husband is nice to you and treats you well then just ignore your mother in law. Your husband must be scared to talk back to her thinking she will get hurt or think he is under your control, I know he should stand up for you but it takes time for them to understand this. All what matters is yours and your husband's relationship. If thats strong and if he respects you then be patient. Ask lots of dua and don't let your mother in law run your life.

  3. OP:My mother in law is trying to control what I do. She expects her daughter to sit down all day and 2 daughter in laws in the house to do everything despite one having a difficult baby and one working full time

    OP:I am very worried she may have done black magic or something similar on me

    -Working to hard

    -Neck muscles are tightening and causing pain to head

    -Visit a doctor.

  4. Aslaam

    Sister my advice to you is to speak to your husband and tell him to either stick up for you against his mother & find a place of your own or you leave. Frankly, I think if a man can afford his own house then the woman shouldn't marry him UNTIL he gets a place of his own.

    If your husband doesn't try to look for a house because he can't afford it then tell him to either stick up for you against your mother-in-law or you leave. A lot of women suffer verbal abuse at the hands of their in-laws simply because the husbands allow it. If he doesn't stick up for you then I think you should pack your bags and leave him. He isn't worth it.

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