I swore on the Quran, then broke my promise
I swore on Quran then broke my promise
I touched the Quran and swore that I will never drink alchol but I did it with the permission of husband as he asked me to swear.
He is the only person who has ever asked me to swear by touching the Quran, but one day we went out of country and I asked him should I drink with you? He said yes, and I drank again but without his permission.
I'm scared now please help. Am I doing any sin? What should I do?
Please help, I'm facing to much trouble in my life
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Dear Sister
Yes you are committing a big sin drinking alcohol in ISLAM is not allowed sister. You must not drink it is haraam as a muslim full stop. You must seek forgiveness in allah and even you swore on the quaran you did it anyway. Your husband should not be encouraging you instead you both should work doing things together. Haraam activities like this is unacceptable you are wasting your life on committing more sins. I advise you to give it up and pray to allah and bring you in the right path of guidance. Why don’t you concentrate on reading special dua’s and reading the quaran regularly you will feel so much peace in mind and will see a new path of life opening to you.
Dear Sister,
You seem to be a little confused. If Allah has made clear to us through the Quran or Sunnah that something is a sin, it does not become halal because your husband allows you or wants you to do it.
Drinking Alcohol is haram, if a man wants his wife to drink it, she must be refuse to. Likewise, if a man wants his wife to remove her hijab infront of non-mahrams, she must refuse to remove it.
Yes, there is great emphasis placed on wives obeying their husbands and parents too; but not when doing so will mean disobeying Allah. The purpose of our life is to serve Allah the Creator, not to serve His(swt) creation. You are your own person and so you must make your choices according to Allah's Laws.
I would advise you to stop drinking alcohol immediately, do tawbah and try to live your life within Allah's Laws. I do not know why your husband encouraged you to drink alcohol but this is not the action of someone who is striving on Allah's path. If you take a firmer stance in your decisions based on deen, your husband may follow suit.
I do not know about how to do deal with broken promises, inshaAllah someone will reply with the appropriate advice/information. In the meantime, do tawbah and turn back to Allah. This Monday 15th November is 9th Dhul Hijjah, Yawm Al-Arafah and the Prophet (saw) recommended us to fast on this day, saying about it: "It expiates for
the sins of the previous year and of the coming year." (Muslim)
May Allah protect you and guide you, aameen,
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Obviously most of you haven't read the Quran...
In the Quran it says do not pray if you have been drinking
Or if you don't completely understand what you are saying...
It also says that alchohol brings more harm then good...
Which is something we can all agree with both statements...
It doesn't say that if u drink u are not a muslim or that it is greatly forbidden...
It also mentions rivers of wine in heaven...
I could provide surrah but won't I suggest you find and read for your self
Like I have...
Now the hand on Quran promise...broken....
We all break promises..its between you and Allah only he knows and decides,
The beneficent, the merciful...
If you are truly sorry and ask for forgiveness that's what you will receive...
Musliman, you are absolutely wrong, and I advise you not to go around making statements about Islam when you are obviously ignorant of the religion and its teachings. Alcohol and all intoxicants are completely forbidden, as Allah says:
"O you who believe! Intoxicants and games of chance, and idolatrous practices, and the divining of the future are but a loathsome evil of Satan’s doing: shun it, then, so that you might attain to a happy state! By means of intoxicants and games of chance Satan seeks only to sow enmity and hatred among you, and to turn you away from the remembrance of God and from prayer. Will you not then desist?" - Surah al-Ma’idah, Ayat 90-91.
So you see, intoxicants (including alcohol) are put on a par with gambling and even shirk (idol worship).
The Quranic admonition not to pray when drunk was the first thing revealed about intoxicants. Allah wanted to gradually introduce the Muslims to the idea that alcohol was bad. After they became used to this idea, then the total prohibition came down. When the total prohibition came down, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) send a caller to walk through the streets of Madinah and notify the people. When they heard, they broke their wine vessels on the spot, and those who were drinking spit it out.
As for the rivers of wine in heaven, well, that is heaven! The rules of haram and halal are given to us in this life. Jannah is a different matter. In fact, some things are allowed in Jannah as a reward to those who avoided them in this life. Also, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) described the wine of Jannah as pure, with no intoxicating effect.
Don't try to play games with Allah by choosing some verses of the Quran and ignoring others. You will not fool Allah, and you will not fool educated Muslims. And if you manage to fool some uneducated Muslims, then you will incur their sin as well.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam sister
Drinking is a sin, which is not allowed in Islam. Drinking in my personal opinion doesn't bring any happiness, but only more sadness and depression. Drinking doesn't solve your problems or make you enjoy of your life. There is other halal ways to have fun. You touch the Quran and promised and broke it, i suggest you to ask for Allah's forgiveness and do since tawbah as you have committed a sin. Even if you didn't promise to the Quran, that you won't drink, it still a sin. Drinking bring out the worst in people and may cause conflict and depression. Alcohol is disgusting and haram liquid which you and your husband must stop. You must start praying, asking for forgiveness and doing other righteous deeds. I suggest that you should read the Quran as it will help you understand Islam and understand the laws we have to follow as its in the word of Allah the great one. Please stop drinking immediately, don't even go near those liquid and tell your husband to stop as well. The main trouble of your problems are alcohol and lack of understanding of Islam. Turn to Allah and ask for he forgiveness and do sincere tawbah
Hopefully Allah will guide you to straight path, may blessing of Allah be upon you.
Dear Sister,
Something similar happened in my family. My father swore to my mother on Quran that he won't be drinking anymore. But he soon broke his promise when he went to visit some family in Europe. He hasn't seen them for a while sat down with them and drank alcohol. My mother was very upset and sad because he swor on the quran and broke his promise. Ever since he came back home he has been having a hard time. We have all made mistakes and Iam one of them. with my mother. I have to admit that I have made a big sin by swearing and putting my hand on the Quran and swearing to my mother that I won't be seing this American guy anymore. When I made that promise no one pushed me to do it. I made my own decission to swear. I remember my mother saying please don't do it if you won't keep your promise but at the time I was very sure of it. After some time has passed by I made a huge mistake that I will never forgive myself which was going to see him once again. I knew that I was making a huge mistake but continued seing him. I cain't even describe how quilty I feel betraying Allah and my Parents. I have been seing him for a while now and my parents found out about it and were very upset not even words could describe how they felt. My life hasn't been the same ever since lots of things changed. Things like my father cain't find a job and my mother is not the same person she is always sad, worried not that she was different but this hit her big time. But most of all I think I lost my identity. However Iam trying my best to get myself back and be the person I used to be once upon a time. I pray that Allah and my parents will forgive me for my sin and show us the right path to life.
For those of you who read this I hope you can learn something and never repeat what I have done. I believe whether you swear or make a promise in Qurans Allah name than you make sure your 100% sure when making that decision. Please be smart and don't betray Allah.
May Allah guide us to the right path and forgive us for our sins aameen
my name is reshma, and i love one another relagion boy, means he is not muslim. but he is ready to take islamisum for me,,,,,,,,, but the problem is my parents are seriously againists to my love,,,,,, one day my mother is blackmailed me that if i dont promise in quran, i will go to die,,,,,,, and the promise is i will never meet that another relegion boy means my lover,,,,,,,, for that satuation i done promise on kuran..... but now i meet my boy friend,,,,,,,,,,, so i break quran promise for one critical satuation,,,,,,,,
I'm scared now please help. Am I doing any sin? What should I do?
reshma, of course you are doing a sin, and I advise you strongly to stop seeing this boy right away. We don't have boyfriends and girlfriends in Islam. If you need more advice, please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
First of all, it is haram for someone to want to become muslim for another person. The only reason a person should convert is for themselves! it has to come from the heart. also if that man was really taking you seriously, he would have asked for your hand by now! Also it is haram for a believing woman/man to marry a unbelieving man/woman. Do not settle for this one guy. I suggest you leave this man. A marriage without the parents blessing is not a marriage. It is void. Pray that allah swt will send you a righteous man and repent to allah !
If someone wants to become Muslim we do not question his sincerity or faith, as long as he fulfills the requirements of Islam. But I agree with you that this young lady's relationship is no good and she needs to end it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Um she just said that he is only converting for her and that is forbidden. It is not fulfilling the requirements. It has to come from the heart. And it is not questioning. It is called advising her to the right way. I think i know what i am saying !!!!!!!
wael i cant live without him,,,,, my mind is not hearing my words,,,,, if i leave him i am sure then i will surely done a sin,,,, why because i already promised to him that i will never leave alone until i die,,,,,,,,,, nd wael please advice me, what should i do now?
A promise to do haram is itself haram. If I promise to kill someone, should I keep it? Similarly, a promise to marry a non-Muslim is a haram promise. The sin is keeping the promise, not breaking it.
Log in and write your question as a separate post. Any further comments you post on this subject will be deleted until you do so.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
You are ofcourse aware that you can never marry non muslim. Therefore even if he accepts Islam just to marry you it is forbidden to marry him as in reality he didn't accept Islam by heart but by lips just to marry you. By doing this you are deceiving Allah and mocking his law. Take heed and leave your 'bf'
“And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al‑Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allaah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember”
[al-Baqarah 2:221]
and you cannot marry without a wali- your father.
Stop this sins and obey your loving parents.
Dear
Is it possible to return (take it back) or cancel a swear made by touching Quran.
Thanks
Dear Muslims,
I made a promise to Allah that I will never have sex and would never drink alcohol again by placing my hand on Quran but I broke both promises. I'm really heat broken help me out because I'm lost!!!
Please somebody tell me what should I do I made a promiss by placing my hand on Quran that I will never drink again as I was a heavy alcoholic but now after 50 days I am craving for alcohol again what should I do plz help me
Zarak, if you have Alcoholics Anonymous in your area then go to a meeting. You need the support of others who have beaten this addiction.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
So this lady asked my mother for my hand for her son however I did not accept the proposal. Now its been a while my mom has been pushing me to accept it but my decision remains still, but today something else happened... today my mom told me that the lady had handed her the Quran or Yaseen (not sure which one) asking her to accept the proposal and my mom took the Quran/Yaseen from her and said she will, thinking it is a must for an individual to give someone something that they've asked for by handing over the Quran to them. She's saying she cannot back off now because something bad might happen to us (me or my family) is this true? Please advise asap!
sania, your mom can simply apologize to the woman and tell her that she changed her mind. There's nothing wrong with changing one's mind. Nothing bad will happen - or if it does, it has nothing to do with your mom accepting the Quran. The Quran is the word of Allah. It is not a magical charm and does not curse people or create bad consequences.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Thank you for your reply brother Wael, however the lady is not really the problem, the lady is a very kind person and will understand but the problem is my mother swearing on the holy Quran and making a promise over it, are you sure not fulfilling the promise won't end up causing something bad happening to my family? Thats all i want to assure myself of...