Islamic marriage advice and family advice

I want divorce as I can’t take it anymore

divorce

Salaam-alaykum,

I have been married for two years now my family took me back home. i was happy it was not forced as soon as i come back to the u.k he changed he was very demanding and was all about money.

I know hes only married me to come to the u.k and felt very used as i was young at the time and was in love. he called me every haraam names you can say to a woman yet i still forgived him because i know my family would fall out.

He does haraam things which i cant take anymore as he's doin all this before i even bring him to the u.k and now i know he will ruin my life or leave me if i bring him so whats the point me going all through the hard work.

i told him so many times i want a divorce but he laughs it off and said he will never give it. i dont love him and if i did ever want to work it out it will be only for my family sake not mine.

i am not happy i just want a divorce and move on as im goin through a lot at the moment with my health and this is makin it worser. So im stuck as my family wont help and i dont really have the money for courts.

I was wondering what are my rights? And can i get a divorce without his consent?

Rosie92


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7 Responses »

  1. go to the solicitor or womens aid, they will give you legal support and ways for financial support too. never be with an abusive man.

  2. Rosie,

    Do whatever it is that you need to do for you. You are in control of your situation, no one else. Follow Friend's advice and go to the solicitor of women's aid...you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

    Salam

  3. My dear sister, I already feel for you.
    Aghh I cant tell you how I feel about "paper chasers" so I call them.
    They need to stay in their place and learn the true value of poverty, and should NEVER be allowed to come anywhere close to having wealth (USA) ,cuz that's when they become Corupt!!

    You were young ! Now you can make your own decision without your parents involved.
    Stuff happens, it's what we learn from them.
    Can you believe I had person who was one of those people who does dherese's at mosques recommend me this guy who wanted to merry me for green card who was here , and he lied n never told me that he does not have it!
    Stuff happens, it's what we learn from them that makes us (better) people.

    PLEASE, PLEASE GET RID OF THIS GOLD DIGGING LOSER. That's best I can put it without cursing.

  4. One more thing, I did get rid of this guy. Of course, I never merried him

    Imagine Rosie, what it would be like If I merried and had children with guy who is money hungry. He would always look for ways to get paid. Even if he had to cheat with other women so they pay for him. For people like that that love worldy goods and money , Saitan is helper so dont ever be suprised that he would do something weird as I mentioned above (with women). Cuz man like that they will do anything for money, even use other women as they're abusive to their wives verbally first, then physically.
    They feel like they CAN do ANYTHING. He feels like he dont have to ask you.

    Be careful sister from this kind of man. They're toxic and very very dangerous..

    My prayers are with you, Rosie.

    <3 Karmela

  5. Wa'alaykumsalam,

    If your husband is abusive and does things that are forbidden in Quran, then you really need to find a way out. Thats your rights.

    As "friend" said, you need to find a solicitor etc but that can only give you a civil divorce. Civil divorce and Islamic divorce are not the same. So therefore you also need a Islamic divorce and to get this you need to visit the Islamic Sharia Council in UK. Talk to the imams and explain to them your problems in detail. Before going I would advice you to make a list of how your husband treats you ?, what kinds of haraam things he does ? Etc to convince the Imam.

    Insha'Allah your problems will be sorted out and you can get your divorce. All the best.

  6. just wanted to add that make sure you inform home office about him, as once you have divorced him, he will try to pounce on someone else and as a muslim it is our duty to inform/protect others of potential harm.

  7. sister i am very sorry about what you are going through i have been in your shoes. My advice to you is leave this man . It is hard to be with a abusive man and he will never change. He cannot force you to be married to him. Also let your family know how this man is treating you they might help you.

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