I want to get Khulaa
Asalam Alaikum.
I am very upset since past few months because of my husband's maltreatment with me. I am 25 and my husband is 57. I fell in love with him and married him but just after few months, things started changing for us. He started ignoring me, cursing, abusing me, humiliating me everywhere .
Currently I am 8 months pregnant, and still he behaves worst then ever with me although I always supported him. He has cheated on me several times too. He is too harsh to me, too rude and too emotionless for me. He has been keeping a devil's eye on my childhood bosom friends, he has been tormenting me like anything. I don't know how to express my feelings in words. He has been discussing about other females with me without any hesitation. He feels no shame in anything although he prays five times daily. But spiritually he is a very filthy person.
I feel like there is no way out for me except Khulaa. I don't want to live with such a person any more. He is still cheating on me and I know him, whenever he does, he starts ignoring me the way he does. He wants to declare me a psycho ....
Sshah
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Assalaamu Alaykum,
Considering the situation and your pregnancy, I suggest you leave and return to your family immediately. In shaa Allah they can help you find out what you need to do to request khulaa through your local courts. I believe you have judged rightly; this is not a fitting marriage and certainly not the kind of situation a baby needs to be brought into.
May Allah help you with trying to secure peace and safety for yourself and the baby.
-Amy
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Also sister,
If he wants to declare you a psycho, he will find a way. Even a friend who is a psychiatrist can do this for him. You need to get a psych evaluation yourself which says the contrary if this goes to court, especially for child custody. That way you and your psychiatrist can refute his claims.
If he cheats on you and then sleeps with you you may also want to get tested for STDs, including hep b and c.
I hope you've already left. If he holds you back or abuses you physically when you choose to leave, I hope you do so when he's at work.
Good luck and may Allah protect you and your offspring.
Assalamo Alaikom.
I think you can file a divorce by Faskh on the grounds of unusual cruelty instead of Divorce by khul'.
Because in Divorce by Khul, you have to return or renounce your dower or to pay any other lawful consideration for your release (khul') from the marriage bond.
Whereas, in Divorce by Faskh on the ground of unusual cruelty, a decree of divorce may be granted by the court upon your petition if the husband:
Habitually assaults you or makes your life miserable by cruel conduct even if this does not result in physical injury; or Does not treat you justly and equitably as enjoined by Islamic law.
May Allah S.W.T. protect you and your Baby.
Mohammad Khalil